Let me just say this: " selfishness is Love's demise."
Here is the Scenario:
A Man is married to a woman for more than 10 years. Living in the same house but living separate lives. Man wants a divorce, but thinking of child and expense/losses that a divorce can bring. Man has a serious side-piece. ( more than drive-by sex).
Why do married men stay in bad relationships? When is the best time for him to walk away? Will the side-piece be anything more than just that, a side- piece? What role should she play, during and after the divorce?
Ladies knowledge is power. No one else's scenario equal the situation you are currently dealing with. Men are like cars, we come in different sizes, models and make and color (foreign and domestic).
women want men (like me for example ) to answer their questions like the ones above.... assuming men who have lived a little may have the answers they seek. The term side-piece ( it is not a compliment) is used in a derogatory fashion by men who are messing around outside of their marriages. Married men talk to their boyz about you as the female "in wait," for the guy who is working on getting his freedom from the commitment, that restricts them from leaving their home, their kids, and yes even their wives who they might still be having marital relations with. The fact that a woman thinks that a relation, that has been going on and on for more than 10 years, will ever change is a fool. He is having the time of his life. The best time for him to walk away is when the forms for divorce are signed, stop being delusional. He had the option to walk away, when he start cheating on his wife with the side-piece (you), but chose to have his slice of fruit cake, as dessert, after he finish eating his home grilled steak and potatoes with gravy, first. The one thing that should standout is the word "First"... like first option, first on his mind when he leaves your bed, first on his mind when he looks at his finances, first on his mind when he looks at the faces of his kids and sees his features and their mothers features combination.Having said all that.
I will try and answer the questions listed above:
- Why do married men stay in bad relationships? The delusional things that women fool themselves with all the time, is.Simpleanswer Women think that men think like women or have female like emotions, we do NOT.. Married men don't see a safe home situation as "a bad relationship". They see is as an ACE in the hand. Chances are to Him the side-piece is not worth leaving the ACE in the hand for.
- When is the best time for him to walk away? I say there is no such thing as the best time for him to walk away. When he decides to walk away is the only time he will walk away, because divorce filed by husbands are rare when the y are having their cake and their 6 course meals in different sittings. Men will only walk away from everything he has built when he is forced to do so! i.e. almost never voluntarily. Think about how long it's been that he has kept the side-piece dangling on a string like a puppet.
- Will the side-Piece be anything more than just that, a side- piece?
You have already answered that question for yourself by asking a man that you don't know personally to answer that question for you. No one else can answer that question for you but the man you are messing around with. No two situations are the same, and no two men think the same (contrary to popular beliefs.)
- What role should she play, during and after the divorce?
Why ask the question of what role should a woman play, when you are being played right now. A divorce has to be filed and the wife has to be served with the paper before there could be a divorce in progress. And to be thinking about after the divorce is, premature...until the first steps have been completed. Her role has already been defined for her. He will let you know if and when it will ever happens.True story: I know a guy who's live with a side-piece other woman for many decades he stopped living with his wife because of "irreconcilable differences." But he ran to his wife's hospital bed and still pays her bills and paid for her treatments when she was sick, even though they have lived apart for decades. He has built a home with the other woman, but he is legally married to his wife and if he dies tomorrow she will have first claim on his businesses and almost all of holdings. But if she dies he will keep all of his holding legally and would never have to try and claim what he would loose in a divorce. He never gave anything up legally. Because he never filed for a divorce when he walked away. and he never saw the need to file for a divorce (for him to be free) because he has the best of both Worlds. He can't marry the woman he lives with because he is already married...(great excuse, when the subject comes up) this is always going to get in the way of this relationship, from ever becoming a legal union. He helped his current woman build a 3 story house, 2 floor are rented and they live on the top floor. Why mess things up with a legal filing for a divorce... where assets will have to be split and other things come into play like infidelity issues etc . Where a Judge (a perfect stranger ) will have to decide what he get's to keep and all that we will have to give up to his wife who is the injured party. His current woman (side-Piece) better term for her is common law wife, is happy with this arrangement because she has her home and 2 floors of rental income that is paying of the mortgage on her land and in her name and he lives with her. she does not need to fight for his devotion. he has granted her her wishes already . Now this is a win win, win for all three of them. They have lived with this situation for decades and see no need to change it.
I hope I have answered the questions . If not you can always check out divorcecourt.com maybe you'll find the answers you are looking for there, from the many strange situations out there.
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