When you just want to find The New Naked truth!

Many of my blogs have music videos at the end  and pics  in the middle of the blog post. so it  should come as no   surprise that I believe music is the key to good relationships. If a couple shares moment of just wonderful memories of feeling the beat of each others heart in rhythm with what they  are listing to they can connect in a very  special way . This is why movies have those special love scenes  with music in the background  for maximum  effect.  Make sure you listing to the music at the bottom of this post." All of me" from a female singer.

If you are Thinking your bed mate is having a sub-par time—or the best sex of their life? Either way, you're probably right, suggests a new study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. 

For the study, researchers from the University of Waterloo in Canada asked 84 married or cohabiting heterosexual couples to split up and fill out surveys (no peeking allowed!). Questions covered their sexual and relationship satisfaction, how well they communicated about sex as a couple, and lastly, how satisfied they thought their partner was sexually. 

The results? Apart from the fact that men liking sex is pretty much a guarantee, researchers found that both the men and women in the study were pretty good at reading their partners' levels of sexual satisfaction. In fact, women were spot-on with their perceptions. Men, however, tended to slightly under estimate how satisfied their partners were in bed. WE guys are so delusional it's not funny! that right we think we lay it down every time!

Ladies if  you Want him to know you're enjoying it? Don't just turn up the volume on your moans. Scream his name at the right time. A recent The Journal of Sex Research study found that most men want women to share whether or not they crossed the finish line—as well as what really gets them going. So go ahead and ask for exactly what you want in bed—you'll both be happier for it. And most importantly take off the Fake Mask ! No silly sake  Ooooh and Aaahs, allowed!

Ladies......Be very careful you don't' live a life where you will  be making statement like this,  unanimous  40+ year old, someday! 

 " I  woke up one morning to find my husband had decided he liked our neighbor’s 20 year old daughter more than me and now I'm on my own at 40 years of age. There were problems in the bedroom for us; I would not  even consider swallowing  his load and I refused to take it in the rear; this was a huge problem for him ( because he love the freaky stuff)  and the reason he moved on. He  told his woman  many times that there were lots of women out there who would do what he wanted and she  said: " so what…" I guess she got her answer.I know hindsight is 20/20. 

I'm sure she is really upset now and feels the lost and thinks  perhaps she  made the wrong decision in
regards to satisfying her husbands who  had a need for that type of sex, which is what  he really liked;    My guess is..... if you want to hold onto your man you better look after his needs in the bedroom, or
someone else will. When her ex-husband’s girlfriend walks by smiling at her ; and  said: " your ex- husband shots a big load in my mouth; I loved it and swallow it; and the first time he gave it to me in  the rear-end it  was incredible! you missed out baby…" 

Men have a BAD-rep of being horny all day, every day. But—and this isn't news to you secure women who are pretty lustful too. A survey by Elite Singles revealed that 65 percent of women and 69 percent of men think having sex several times per week is ideal. Too bad that isn't the casein most societies. Most couples in their twenties and thirties are knocking boots once a week or a few times a month, reports the Kinsey Institute. Wow, back in my  day we guys would put it down at least once a day... so what's going on with this generation X and Y? Is my question.. too much fast food and too little Sexercise... would be my guess!

So why aren't all of us setting the sheets on fire more often? Blame our busy schedules. Studies have found that couples prioritize things like sleep and work ahead of sex------ leaving barely any time to eat dinner together, let alone have a 30-minute sack session. These sexless nights can have serious ramifications for the quality of satisfaction and intimacy in your relationship. A study suggests that the more you and your partner's sexual desires aren't met, the more you're likely to fight and feel dissatisfied with your union.

But there's an easy, convenient, and pleasure-filled solution: the quickie. OK before you freak out, think about the cultures that have siestas daily... What do you think they are doing, just having lunch and taking an afternoon nap?  It's all about fast, hot, unbridled passion, and who wouldn't want to make time for so good afternoon sex? With a little foreplay. or phone sex leading up to your encounter, the encounter can take even less time than it would to queue up your sexy-music playlist. Bonus: You can still get the health benefits from longer sex sessions. Sex is a physical activity, so I recommend you do it as often as you can for exercise, but it also helps you relax and adds to your bond as a couple, this is not coming from me... a urologist and reproductive medicine specialist at NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital and author of The New Naked.  suggest that Quickies can also inject some spontaneous passion into your relationship. Sometimes women want to be taken. And if that's what you want, then a quickie is excellent. It's just as ideal if you want to be the taker as well. What's more important, if you have trouble having an orgasms  through regular intercourse alone, you can change that with Quickies  you will  experience the rush of adrenaline and oxytocin,(your body's feel-good hormone,) that comes with a sexy hookup at, let's say, by the kitchen sink while unloading the groceries.

 So are you game for exciting satisfaction in minimal time? You should have this conversation with your Sex- partner, first because he or she might have it on their to-do-list but are not sure you would be game. there is nothing like when a plan that is in your head, matches what's in your counterpart's head. Que up Marvin Gay;s "Let's get it ON"  Ooh Aah baby that's it! 

My Last few tips:

Create Mystery

Your man is an explorer by nature. The less he knows, the more he wants to know. That's why you pique his curiosity when you don't initially reveal your innermost thoughts. Example a half full glass of wine sitting on the table when he walks into the room  "So who did you drink red wine with, the glass is half full?"

Create Anticipation
Delaying gratification makes your man fantasize about you more. When you tease him with sexy text messages or the promise of sex, his imagination runs wild. 


OK if I have to give you an example on how to do this then you need professional help.

You both need Space
We Men want what's out of our reach. If you're not available to us 24/7 and you have an active life outside the relationship, he has time to miss you!

have some Surprises
Men flat-line  from the familiar. Variety is key. So throwing a new move into your game doesn't just turn him on. It maintains his ability to be attracted to you.

enhance the Scent
Biologists believe the reason your odor turns him on is because smell is one of the most primitive senses — it travels a direct route to the brain's limbic lobe, where it can promote an emotional reaction.  I'm out!