I'm not a neat freak, I should be because it allows me to find things quickly, it also creates space when I need to add something new. Relationships are no different, you can't fit a new person into a junkie space filled with drama with baby Daddies, gossiping friends, hours on social media, and sex with ex's.Chances are if you were to meet Mr. or Ms. Right today you would scare them away with all the mess going on in your life. Hell, some of you literally don't have enough drawer space for someone to leave a pair of draws. Making space for someone to love shouldn't happen after you meet them, it should happen before. So, take my advice and start clearing out your old stuff, old contacts on FB, Twitter, and Instagram, old friends who don't enhance you, and ex's who are blocking you emotionally and sexually....anything that's not consistent with you moving forward has to go! I can't promise you that Prince/Princess Charming will come knocking at your door the next day, but I can promise you that when that special person comes along you'll have room to give the relationship your best shot!Here is my stupid rule.... If I meet you online and invite you for a drink and you don't look like your pics... YOU will be paying for your own drinks until you do!
Old rules are just out dated. women and men need to do what feels right. the only rules they should abide by is not doing stuff that does not feel right or things that a flatly nonsensical. just remember the one thing that is a rule to remember you can not UN-ring a bell. Once you have done that one thing that you can't undo then effort n the world or denial can undo it. So Let's start with the stupidist rules
- WAIT TWO DAYS TO CALL
Hold on: when you give someone your number and he calls you that night, or the next day, all you think is, “Aw! He couldn't wait to contact me!” Don’t you want to make somebody else feel that way?
- KEEP TEXTS TO THREE LINES
Think four line text messages are too long-winded? Hey—if you’re witty, and it takes you 7 lines to make the person laugh, you just go ahead and write those 7 lines! If they get bored or tired after 3, they’re illiterate or disinterested, in which case you have bigger problems.
- WAIT TWO HOURS TO REPLY
Have you ever been glad somebody waited two hours to respond to you? Probably not! If you were sending sweet nothings, you get insecure waiting for a reply, thinking the person doesn't feel the same way. If you were asking a question about making plans, you kinda need an answer ASAP!
- DON’T BRING MORE THAN TWO OR THREE FRIENDS
A man with confidence can handle wooing and entertaining your 5 female friends, if that happens to be who you’re with when he asks to meet up on a Friday night.
- HOLD OFF ON DOUBLE DATES
Afraid bringing a new guy to a double date is asking too much of him? If he’s into you, he’ll make the effort to befriend your best friend’s boyfriend, and impress your friend.
- WAIT 10 DATES TO HAVE SEX
If a guy likes you he likes you—that won’t change because you have sex after 6 dates or 3 dates or whatever.
- KISS BY THE THIRD DATE
Feel pressured to have some sort of physical contact before date three or else you fear they’ll be no chemistry? Look: there either is chemistry or there isn't, and it will wait as long as you need.
- MAKE HIM PAY AT LEAST $50 FOR THE DATE
Think a guy who takes you on a $30 drinks date is cheap? How would you like to spend $30 every time you just wanted to see if maybe you liked a guy? If you went on just four first dates a month, that’s $120 a month! Maybe for nothing! Let the guy pay what he’s comfortable with.
- BE 15 MINUTES LATE TO THE DATE
Think being early or on time makes you look eager? Grow up! It makes you look respectful, responsible and like you have your sh*t together.
- WAIT 6 MONTHS TO SAY, “I LOVE YOU”
Maybe don’t say it on the first date, but if things are going well, you can tell if the feeling is mutual. And even if the other person doesn't feel that way just yet, if it’s meant to be, they won’t be scared off by you saying it after three months.
- WAIT ONE YEAR TO MOVE IN TOGETHER
Okay in this case there is a number that matters, but it’s not one year! One year is nothing! Think about how many one-year relationships you've had that ended. Probably a handful because you’re really still getting to know someone at a year! Wait two or three years. Wait as long as you can.
- WAITING THREE MONTHS OR MORE TO INTRODUCE HIM TO YOUR FRIENDS
If you actively avoid bringing a guy around your friends for three months, he’ll just think you don’t have friends. OR he’ll take offense. He can handle your friends, and it’s okay if things don’t work out with him—your friends won’t be too heartbroken.However you might kick yourself for not receiving that ring burning a hole in his pocket. this might just be the one regret you might not be able to smooth over.. if he start feeling he is the only one thinking seriously about your relationship
- WAIT 6 MONTHS TO INTRODUCE HIM TO THE FAMILY
What if your family lives in town? What if you live with them?! What if they visit every month? What if, in your family, meeting your significant other isn't really a big deal? Every family is different: you know what’s appropriate in yours.
- SPEND 2 NIGHTS APART A WEEK
There is no right or wrong number of nights you have to spend with your partner each week. Some couples are happiest if they only spend two nights a week together, because they have plenty of time to see friends! Some couples want to be together every night, and never get sick of each other—good for them. To each their own.
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