How to Make him ache for you!

Whether you are single and serially first-dating, or you are struggling with a distant boyfriend who you want to open up to you, or you want to get that ex boyfriend back –I may have a technique for you!

I has dedicated my  life to the art of helping women making their dreams come through maybe even getting the right  man by studying the art of attraction and developing a system to help women in every situation get the man they want. I have compiled all of my  research and knowledge into an easy to read e-book: ‘Make Him Desire You’. OK it is not mine but I thought I would get you interested in reading the book.

If you are interested in learning some unconventional ways to get a guy attracted to you. If you have relationship problems and want to fix them, or if you simply want to understand men in general better, you need to understand men.

Sure, you want adoration, respect, and the occasional sparkly treat from your man, but more than anything, you want to feel like he's still got the hots for you. Well, here's good news: Contrary to the widely held belief that men lose interest over time, experts now know that guys are actually hardwired for long-term lusting.

It's absolutely true, but it's not without conditions.You have to make a strategic effort to trigger that craving in him once you're in a relationship because the spark in your bond won't last if you neglect it. For that reason, Cosmo has discovered the seven key make-him-ache-for-you strategies that specifically jump-start your guy's desire. Be warned: Once you use them, he'll be sticking to you like white on rice, or black on Nubian. 

1. Utter the One Word That Drives Him Nuts!

As Lovey-Dovey  pet names makes him feel like your pet poodle, men pet names  still don't compare to the electrifying rush your man gets when his name crosses your lips with passion. Just hearing it is an aphrodisiac.  It ratchets up his desire because the message you send is 'It's you I'm thinking about and no one else.' And men need to hear that — it's tied to their primal urge to beat out all the competition.

However, just blurting out his moniker as often as possible isn't going to do it for him. You need to make it count. For instance, when you're feeling sexy in a public setting, like in a dark bar, drop it into conversation in surprising spots and pause for a beat or two: "And then...say "Jeremy..."  sigh and go to the ladies room and slam the door behind you. or if you are at home head to the kitchen after calling his name,  and sit on the counter, He will get the hint.
Or  you can try another trick when he's putting the moves on you: Just kind of coo his name to draw his focus entirely on to you.  Sometimes men are lost in their  own heads. But when a woman  moan his name, everything feels like it gets more intense between the two of you, like it brings him into the moment.

2. Reach into His Pocket for the Keys

Well, more than just the keys. The lesson is this: "Never underestimate the power of an unexpected touch, Just by stimulating his nerve endings when he's not prepared for it, you create a positive physical connection that leaves your man wanting more. Even better, your guy subconsciously gets hooked on those mini-moments of excitement and craves them when you're not around.

From now on, be on the lookout for opportune moments to touch him "accidentally." For example, don't ask him for his keys...glide your hand into his pocket and slowly take them out. Don't ask him to pass the salt...reach across him, letting your breasts rub against his arm. Don't walk past him in a crowded bar...press your rear into his gear. These sneak attacks work like a charm. If you've been really touchy-feely, the next morning, he'll be really snuggly.  It's like your man will want to be closer to you!

3. Keep Him Out of the Loop

The funny thing about men is that telling them less about your life makes them long for you more.  Like you using benwa balls when you are out with him. So as much as you might want to share the minutiae of your bitchy workplace or your take on the latest Grey's Anatomy plot twist, hold back. The hard truth is that from his end, that information is overwhelming and just flat-out boring. Men don't have the capacity to endure great amounts of detail. That's one reason why they don't give you the play-by-play of their lives, unless you insist on knowing.

Edit your small talk and you'll make a discovery: The less you tell a man, the more interested he'll become in your day-to-day.  If you're vague or dismissive about what you've been up to — like 'Oh, nothing. The usual. Work. Out with the girls' — he will become  eager to hear the story. And when he's the instigator/investigator, he listens more closely.

So to hook him in, when you're chatting, give him the conclusion of the conversation first. For instance, "I got the job" or "I saw your buddy Mark," and then stop and wait. You've gotten his attention, now let him draw out the details he's dying to know it from you.

4. Make Small Changes for Big Results

some women  get their haircut and  their guy don't  noticed at all, but when she had her brunette crown streaked red, he will be all over you if he likes red.  He always dreamed and will not  believe he is now fooling around with a redhead, The reason this new look drives  him nuts: Men register eye-catching changes to your appearance, and it draws them to you,Adding novelty will keep his desire for you strong.

There's a catch though: If you want to snag his immediate interest, the change has to be guy-visible. To activate his desire, it has to be a departure from your everyday look. Maybe take a break from your jeans routine and strut around in a miniskirt or try on a long gown. Wear a noticeably higher heels over a red  dress that flows to the floor making you took taller (think Johny Gill--- My My My)
 Or ditch your bra for a day and put a little extra bounce in your step.

5. Compliment Him the Right Way

Just because men don't fish for flattery (when was the last time you heard a guy ask, "Honey, do my pecs look small in this shirt?") doesn't mean they don't love ego stroking. "More than anything, men desire the feeling of being desired,.  When a man hears praise from his partner, it reinforces that she's attracted to him, which further intensifies his feelings for her. get him a name tag to pin to his label that tells him he is in charge.... even if he know you are the one calling all the shots.

But there's a trick to buttering up your guy right. You see, men are super-sensitive about too much gushing. It makes them want to gag and run far away. So when you give him props, stick to this tip: The more obscure and exclusive the praise to him, the more genuine it feels. He may dismiss your flattery with a grunt, but deep down, he's loving every second of it.

6. Give Him a Sensory Flashback  

Think about when you first fell for your guy. What reminds you both of that time (aside from the conniption fit you had every time the phone rang)? Figure it out and you've found the secret to conjuring up that new-love rush. "When he experiences something that he associates with falling in love with you, those intense, sensual memories trigger a positive physical reaction and generate instant longing," says Bernstein.

Case in point a simple sent can do the trick.  It takes me back to when you first met. Smelling that scent gives men the jolt all over again. To get your guy in the moment, revive an old brand of perfume, visit a favorite place from your shared past, or reinstate an early dating ritual. Oftentimes, you won't even need to say anything. These sensory connections are so strong that he'll be transported back in time instantly.

7. Check Out His Competition

Lust works in bizarre ways. Get this: If you want to renew your man's passion for you, slyly capture the eye of another guy. Men do become more attentive and turned on by their partners when they see them being desired by other men When she gets dressed up and guys at the bar check her out, She  knows  what her date is thinking, "Yeah, that's right. She's with me, suckers,"   Men definitely get clingier when he can smell the competition.

To stoke your guy's interest, trail a yummy waiter with your gaze or flash a flirty smile at one of his friends when you know he's watching you. And it never hurts to make an extra bit of effort with your appearance when you know you'll be in a situation where other men will admire you. Just the possibility of other guys eyeing you all night will definitely make him appreciate that he's the lucky dog who gets to take you home.

He will be Talking about you in these terms.