How well does Vengeance work for you!

After something really painful happens, whether it’s a traumatic experience or after, after you've  been cheated on and wronged in some kind of way, people feel a sense of loss of control. Sometimes the way to maintain control that people exercise is by being aggressive, irritable, and being vengeful towards the other person.

side kick to the face!

Vengeance can feel good in the moment — planning revenge can actually cause our bodies to release certain endorphin(s) because it feels good, it feels like we’re doing something to take action and maintain or regain  control.
However, in the long term,vengeance is more hurtful than helpful in general. It doesn’t quite allow for the healing that tends to be more therapeutic.

And things are even worse for those  who have to stick around and witness the aftermath.

People who are capable of feeling empathy tend to actually feel worse and tend to feel guilty over what they’ve done. Therapeutically, what we know is people who seek vengeance tend to not fare as well as people that allow themselves to grieve and make meaning out of tragedy or being wronged, and people that establish meaningful connections that allow themselves to recover.

You will pay for how you made me feel

In fact,  revenge and a decision to run away falls in line with being a  mysterious “paper girl” image. If you don't connect with people on that deep emotional level… maybe you  practices emotions on a superficial level. For whatever reason, this is why you could be  hurting yourself. Planning vengeance click on link— , is hurting the people who wronged you, but more than anything it’s hurting you. And that’s one of the reasons I think some people   end up running away  and really struggling with recovering.

So if you find yourself in a position where you’ve been hurt by someone else — like maybe if your boyfriend cheated on you with your BFF,what should you do? First item: don’t sneak into their social media profile late at night and mess with their stuff. <smirking>

The best course of action is to surround yourself with people that you love, to open up to loved ones and to that struggle that’s going on. I view emotional pain as almost like an infection. If we ignore it and run away from it, it sits there and builds toxicity and it poisons us from the inside out. On the other hand, if we treat it, initially it’s going to hurt but in the long term that’s how we heal.

"I'm going to kick this feeling of being a victim out of my system "

But self-care and compassion is just as important,   to notice how hurt you were and give yourself that same kind of love and support that you believe you  could get from someone else.

Basically, as cool as it might seem to be  starting a TV series called "Revenge", you’re better off being more like a person creating your series " Healing!" As a person  who has the emotional support you  need from your friends and family to help you  get through the bad times. And also yo might want to go on road trips never to return to the scene of the hurt, of course that is not always possible for everyone. But If you can take some time to stay away for a while  before returning. .....every little bit will help the Healing process!