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Lying Is Not Fun And Games…It’s Disrespectful!

She believes you and is
 getting ready to see you

When someone tells you they’re not seeing other people, you shouldn’t have to guess whether or not they’re telling the truth. At the beginning of the relationship a simple question is asked: “Are you dating or having sex with other people?” It’s a simple yes or no answer. If your answer is “no” then you are expected to live up to your word. It’s called having integrity. But every day people look their partners straight in the eyes and lie to them knowing full well they have no intention of living up to their promise.

I have issues with people who can’t tell the truth, especially about something as serious as being faithful. If you can’t handle the responsibility of a committed relationship, stop playing with people’s emotions and stop wasting their valuable time. Infidelity can leave scars that last a lifetime. And the closer to home the betrayal happens; the harder it can be to recover. Cheating with a co-worker is bad enough but when it happens with a close friend or relative it can be devastating. The thought of your best friend or brother-in-law smiling in your face while having sex with your partner behind your back will have you ready to choke the hell out of somebody! And to add insult to injury, it often happens in the same bed you sleep in every night. Now that’s disrespectful!

By Michael Baisden 

Here are five ways you can overcome the issues of disrespect... My perspective is always do to others what you want done to you.

Too busy to be bothered  with lies!

1. Tell the truth – Don’t lie to yourself or others. It is better not to lie by trying to make up some excuse because that will just lead the person peer pressuring you into their next selling pitch. Those who pressure you will usually arrive at the truth eventually, and if they don’t, they often will cause you to do something you wouldn’t normally do just so you can make your lie more believable.

2. Stand apart – There is no quicker way to make it clear that you are a follower than to do things  that they know you are only trying because you're pressured. People will respect you far more if you stand apart and…… blaze your own trail.

3. Have true Friends – Know who your true friends are: If your friends don’t respect your ability to live by your own standards, then those aren’t people you want to be friends with. True friends don’t pressure you to conform to their ways.

4. Worth – Know your worth. Keep repeating it or have it written down somewhere, so that when temptation arises, you will remember who you are and who you don’t have to try to be.

STOP sticking with  people who are not REAL.

5. Family – Work on improving communication with your family and friends: Many people turn to others as a way to cope with issues that related to their family and friends. It is important that you find someone to talk to when you need to talk . If you are having issues with your mom/dad, talk to a close  friend. If you are having issues with a friend, talk to your mom/dad. Talk to somebody because you don’t want to go through your struggles alone, and you certainly don’t want to go through life  with things that are harmful to you, and not have anyone know what is going on with you. Also, remember mediation, mentoring and counseling are always good  alternatives to being just a follower.

Just being able to call someone your man, woman or friend will never fulfill you. It’s about the quality and depth of your relationships, not quantity and longevity.