Young Women & Older Men: Dating Pros & Cons

Speaking of  floating your boat, very few young guys have a boat!

These days dating people your own age is old news! Women are dating guys 15-25 years older or younger  than them more than ever these days. And yes as a man , I am guilty of it. I have dated younger women for the  past few years, and I’d have to say it is quite a different experience than dating in my own age group.
As if relationships don’t already come with their own set of ups and downs, if you’ve ever dated someone 10 years or more younger than you, you probably experienced some of the best and worst times of your life with that person. I guess it’s truly all about whatever floats your boat,  but there are some benefits and downfalls to it either way.




Here are a few Pros:
1. Stability

Seems like the most logical reason to date an older man, right? Most people assume you are dating an older man ONLY for that reason. The fact of the matter is most older men have their “ish” together! But that doesn’t mean that every young lady who likes an older gent is a gold digger. In fact, there are studies that suggest differently. According to the University of Dundee in Scotland, “as women become more financially independent, their taste may skew toward older (and better-looking) men.” Most women love the thought of stability. Being with a man that is well off or just more financially responsible is comforting, especially when you are planning out your future.


2. No More Games
There is nothing worse than having to play the dating games that you do in your teens and 20s. Most older men don’t have the patience for this either. Say goodbye to ever having to wonder if you text your guy back too fast, which of course in turn makes you look  desperate…right!? Truth is he is probably just annoyed by the idea of jumping through those hoops as you are. Even better, most older men are done with the mind games. They know what they want and you don’t have to guess to figure it out. No more wondering four months into your “situation” if this is going anywhere!

3. Confidence ‘ON FLEEK’

At 50+ it become all about our  aesthetics, and Knowledge!

Ladies! Do you ever go out knowing you look good, just to feel like nobody is trying to approach you? Well simply put, younger guys are easily intimidated by a beautiful, classy woman. Young guys are still building up their tough skin for rejection, so they are less likely to try and approach you, and if they do and you turn them down, they are even more less likely to try again. An older man has more experience with this. He doesn’t sweat the rejection, and in many cases he likes the challenge of trying to win you over and change your mind.

4. Knowledge
I'm sure I don need to tell  you how refreshing it can be to date a man who can actually teach you a thing or two, who can guide you in the right direction, who can bring you back to reality when you are spinning out of control. Dating older men is just like that. They can be your tour guide through the parts of life you have yet to see. Many women  have felt,, especially these days,  when they date men in their  age group that they are the one leading the way. They end up feeling like a mother instead of a girlfriend. It’s nice to be able to take a position in the other seat every now and then, doesn't it Ladies?.

5. Kiss Jealousy Goodbye
You know that confidence I was just talking about? Well it helps out a lot in the relationship as well. A grown mature man respects that you have a life outside of your relationship, and not only is comfortable with it, supports it. No more feeling bad about wanting to hangout with your girlfriends. No more feeling uneasy about spending time with your family without him. Things are just easier when you have someone who understands that you aren’t attached at the hip now that you’ve agreed to a commitment.

I'm just testing this theory, from an older man's perspective !!!!
When it comes to settling down, some older men have hard time picking the right woman the second or third time around , so if he  find out the new  woman in his  life possesses the following attributes, then he  might just marry her at once.

You are so right for me!

• If she says I hate to shop
• If she says she hates to gossip
• If she is OK with you rolling with your friends now and then. 
• If you're a football/basketball  fan and she she loves watching it with you, bring the pop corn.
• If she hates to argue and doesn't interrogate you like the FBI 
• If she does not probe your phone calls, text messages and trust you completely.

OK enough with the fantasy!

Here are the Cons:

1. Awkward Encounters 
So pretty much everyone you come in contact with is going to give you those looks and stares, and your friends and family are going to bombard you with what will seem like a never ending list of questions about how you met. You will often feel like you are on trial, and end up feeling obligated to defend yourself towards people and their misconceptions, assumptions and opinions.

2. Parents Won’t Approve
Depending on what point in your life you decide to deep dive into a relationship with a man almost twice your age, it may be hard to take him home to mom and dad (yikes!). Parents can be pretty hard to impress when it comes to who you date, but when you add 10 or more years to your age it changes the introduction conversation completely.

3. He’s Settled 
Older men tend to have already settled their roots and are happy with where they are. As a young woman you may be ready to take life by the horns, live a little more, and go with the flow. When your big career opportunity knocks on the door and it’s half way across the open sea, or around the globe even, don’t expect him to pack up his house and go with you. Older men don’t tend to enjoy change as much as younger men do. They like what they’ve become accustomed to, and they will expect you to understand that.

4. Your Friends Won’t Mesh
Forget “friends-giving” and double dates with your best friend. At least, not right away. Dating an older man means that the majority of his friends are older as well. Can you imagine taking your high off life care-free friends around his stuffy and overly polished and professional friends? You both might often feel like you have to keep your friendships separate from your relationship for a while until you figure out how to mix the two, if ever!

5. No More Shared Firsts
An older man has “been there and done that”. Depending on all that he has experienced in his life, he may have been married before, had kids before, and traveled all the places you’ve wanted to go to. If you are one that wants to grow with someone and experience all that life has to offer for the first time together, this may not be the relationship for you.