So who is really ready for marriage?

I still have fears and questions!

The idea that women are more interested in being brides than wives is nothing new, but what’s often not talked about is the emotional handicap many women come into relationships with. In the quest to get down the aisle, many women don’t think about whether they’re really ready to share their physical space, merge their finances, and compromise with the needs of their partner in order to make their marriage work. “Happy wife, happy life” is a famous moniker but not one that is necessarily a recipe for a successful marriage. So many women are consumed by their fears, insecurities, and desires, but can’t express these concerns in an honest, upfront manner with their spouses, let alone acknowledge the irrationality of some of their wants and how their behavior negatively affected their new partners. Even when working with mediators, the men often  unequivocally stated we are committed to working things out, while the women are “indifferent.”

I wasn't expecting to meet you, until way later in my life!

The point is! All of their  lives women are expected to be ready for “the one” but it turns out when you find him, you may not necessarily be emotionally ready for him. Conversely, while women criticize men for taking a little more time to get to the point of readiness women think they’re at, turns out once men say they’re ready they tend to mean what they say and be more committed to working through those growing pains than women are. Yeah it may take men until they’re well into their 30(s) to get there, but it’s far better to wait and be sure than to rush and be filled with doubt — and worst than act out as a result. Perhaps if more women focused on what it took to be a wife versus a bride there wouldn’t be so much fear when a man who wants you to be his wife behaves a such.

I hope you two know what you are doing ,
it has never been my experience where love last for very long, good luck.

These days, everyone and their mama want to dole out relationship advice. Ironically, the ones who preach the loudest are usually the ones whose love lives are in shambles. However, every once in a while, someone comes along with advice worth hearing. If you are in a relationship with a person, it’s just you and that individual, It’s not really a 3rd or 4th body… People always have opinions, and if you feel like you’ve got to keep your relationship between you and your spouse, do just that . Don’t ever allow other people to come between you.

Defining what you both want can be challenging at times, get close and face each other when the discussion starts. Up close and Personal.

Do your thing  Forever, For Always, For Love