Creeping On The J-O-B: Work Place Affairs

While the nighttime may be the right time, the daytime has become prime time…for fooling around. The workplace has become the “hot spot” for infidelity. Every statistic shows that the J-O-B is the number one place where affairs begin, and although many companies have strict policies against fraternizing with co-workers, that hasn’t stopped the avalanche of affairs and inappropriate flirting.
For the first time in American history, female workers represent fifty percent of the workforce, occupying every position from secretary to CEO. This reality puts men and women in direct contact with one another on a daily basis. In the morning they board crowded buses and trains together. And for eight long hours they work in cramped office spaces, brushing up against one another by accident and by choice. It was only a matter of time before the fireworks began. A cordial invitation to have a quick lunch passionately erupts into an indecent proposal to have a quickie for lunch. All the while, the cheater is getting paid

happy hour is so much fun, let make this our time!

There should be no mystery as to why extramarital affairs are flourishing in the workplace. It is the ideal place for the cheater who are compatible, desirable, and accessible. Unlike the club scene, the workplace allows for a more gradual progression towards intimacy; there is no rush. In this environment the cheating man and woman to appear more like scavengers, leisurely waiting for the slow death of an existing relationship so they can swoop down like a vulture and pick up the scraps of the emotionally torn victim. They are great listeners, too, especially if it’s a negative story about the woman’s husband or the man’s girlfriend. They mold themselves into a reliable shoulder to cry on; never realizing the support he or she is after is offering is the form of her vagina and his erect penis.
Workplace affairs are mutually pursued involvements where both parties are generally upfront about their marital status and living arrangements. The woman complains that her husband doesn’t appreciate her, and the man swears his existing relationship is on the rocks. However, one or both of them is usually lying. Most cheaters know that honesty isn’t always the best policy. The trick is to bend the truth a bit until the woman’s heart is firmly secured in the trap. How many times have you heard the lie, “My woman doesn’t understand me” or “My wife is married but I’m not”? And if all else fails, he’ll give her his best line, “I’m just waiting for the kids to get older then I’m getting a divorce,” when he knows damn well he’s not going anywhere with three kids to support and a mortgage to pay.

The real question is, do women really fall for these tired lines? Or do they simply accept them in order to justify the relationship in their own minds? The cheating man doesn’t care one way or the other. His only objective is to relax her defenses long enough to reel her in emotionally. Any lie will do.  ~ Michael Baisden

Hmmm just my type!

My perspective: this is NOT new (men have been doing this for ages, but women are now doing it with more regularity to) . This not a disclaimer or  judgement on anyone....I met my first wife  on the job, I had the most affair with women I worked with ( OK I was a player before I got married). I can still recall the women, who thought that I represented the guy they wanted, and did not hesitate to start dating me.  I was the dude that flew into cities like Atlanta, Chicago, Denver, Washington D.C.  from "The big Apple," as a consultant  I wore suites  and was a smooth N.Y-er.... But I was also very superficial at that point in time in my life. I know I could not do all that I did back then right  now, actually I  wouldn't  even want to do any of it today. These affairs were the  case before women were 50% or more  of the corporate work force. So it was even better when the numbers weren't as great as they are now, a man got to picked out of the best of the best, and women knew that they had to grab the man they wanted before he picked someone else. Women today know they have  to compete with each other but some may choose not to compete. Some are stepping back and still thinking like the women of the 20th  century , where they would be picked by "Prince charming" while the other women are just putting it  out there and letting a guy know he is her choice, he just has to be willing, to fulfill some of her needs.....  
But when  people are married it becomes a messy situation. some jobs and careers are known to create  perfect grounds for extramarital relations. those kinds of professions simply make women more likely to stray. It is in fact almost impossible to see a woman who stays faithful when doing any of those tricky jobs where promotions and cut -throat competitions, is in play .  Of course, it does depend on the women involved but a significant number of women apparently wander away from morality and fidelity when doing some of these jobs. There is all round pressures since everyone engages in lascivious activities.  So, if your spouse in doing any of these types of jobs, where the guy that fits her requirements,  then it is most probable she might be  making out with some man who isn't you.   
I will not list the jobs because this could cause "Murders at the Work places."

What would you do if you found out your partner had cheated? Most people would react by cursing out their partner, packing up their belongings and storming out the door. In the case of married couples, the decision might be to drag the cheating spouse through court and make their lives a living hell! Both reactions are typical — when someone has been hurt and humiliated so badly, sometimes all you want is to get revenge! But those reactions are based purely on emotions and can sometimes multiply the issues you already have, especially if there are children involved. I realize that betrayal is painful. It’s hard to imagine that the person you loved and trusted could do such a thing. But after you calm down, you must consider the real-life implication of what you do next. There are factors that must be taken into consideration, such as making sure your finances are in order, keeping a roof over your head, minimizing the impact on your children, if there are any, and most importantly, assuring your emotional wellness.

And the best way to “get well” is not by confronting your cheating partner — that should wait until you calm down — but by doing some self-evaluation! Start by asking yourself, “What responsibility do I have in what happened? What can I learn from this? And what’s the best way to move forward that will serve everyone’s best interests, especially those of the children?” I already know what you’re thinking: It’s easier said than done! But whoever said this was going to be easy? And the toughest challenge in the process of moving forward is accepting that although everyone is responsible, no one is to blame.
By Michael Baisden

This could breath new life into my faith of new beginnings.

My perspective on :  Picking up the pieces after an affair!  Some  folks just want the pain to stop.. so the logical thing is to do is end it. Hate the cheater! Kick the person out of you life forever! But are you just reacting to images in your head? Or  is there proof positive on the table. 
Someone new could make you smile again, just by hearing his voice. a  voice-mail left just for you   could have you listening to it over and over, an email could have you opening it and reading it multiple times..... Just  simple msgs indicating you are though about. Makes you  check daily to see if a new one is left. 

A tuxedo is not just another suit.. If a man wears one he seriously trying to tell you you're special and worthy of him getting all dressing up . Don't Look any further!