Go out and smell the flowers!

This relationship is
becoming so taxing!

 You’re Emotionally Drained By Your Partner



“If your relationship is one sided and one person is doing all the giving, don’t be surprised when the other gets emotionally drained and gives up.” – Unknown

No one wants to consider that their partner is a drain on their emotional well-being. After all, relationships are supported be a source of emotional wealth and happiness. But unfortunately, People we love can sometimes drain us the most. Our mates may not be trying to do this, but life’s demands add up. This is because relationships don’t always work out the way that we had envisioned.

If you find that you’re not feeling quite like yourself after spending time with your significant other, it may be a sign that they’re emotionally draining you. You could be completely consumed by your relationship without even knowing it. Being too wrapped up in your significant other can make it hard to examine whether or not the relationship is a healthy one. There are some tell-tale signs that your partner is a significant drain on your emotional energy, and that something has got to give.

1. YOU CAN’T STOP THINKING ABOUT YOUR PARTNER

Sending flowers can be a
Great gesture.... but what are you really saying.....?

This isn’t the same as that honey-moon stage where all you want to do is spend time with your significant other. Rather, when you’re unable to function and these thoughts consume your every waking moment is when the situation gets bad. You may find that you’re consumed with wondering where they are, or what they’re doing, and not knowing the answer is causing you distress and an inability to think about anything else.

Your partner might be draining you emotionally when you spend an unhealthy amount of time focused on intrusive thoughts. When you are thinking about what they are doing, who they are with, what they are doing with this person, or what the nature of this relationship is — this can be draining.

While this isn’t necessarily the fault of your partner, it may be a sign that you’re subconsciously unable to trust them.

2. YOU’RE ALWAYS TIRED

Using up too much emotion uses up our energies. This fatigue isn’t like the one you feel at the end of a hard day because that kind of exhaustion can be remedied with a couple of nights’ worth of decent sleep.

When we’re giving too much to one person, it can leave us feeling drained and exhausted, especially when we’re not getting enough back.

Being with your partner shouldn’t leave you feeling like you’ve got all of the energy sucked out of you. When you feel like that, it’s because you’re being emotionally drained. It could either be because of them, or because you don’t know when to stop giving.

3. YOU’RE EAGER TO SPEND TIME ALONE

A lot of people understand that feeling of enjoying spending time by themselves. However, you may be facing an emotionally draining partner when you feel a sense of relief, euphoria and excitement knowing that you’re going to be spending some time away from them.

If you’re all that excited to have a weekend alone, consider that the reason for your joy is that they’re draining you when they’re around.   You should be happy to have a break, but not too happy.

If you’re not missing your partner when they’re gone, it might be a sign you don’t want them around as much as you thought.

4. YOUR PARTNER ISN’T GIVING YOU AN EMOTIONAL BOOST

One of the earliest signs of being in an emotionally draining relationship is whether or not you feel emotionally lifted when your partner is around. “Healthy relationships are supportive. Those in them don’t always agree on plans or next steps, but they hear each other out respectfully.

Therefore, if you feel happy, relaxed and eager to spend time together YOU have a connection that might be considered long lasting.