Their actions speak volumes!

How To Show Someone You Love Them Without Saying It?
To say or not say-- that's a good, and tough question!



Have you ever been in a relationship where you and your partner said “I love you” almost compulsively, but at the end of the day, you still felt like something was lacking?

Have you ever wanted to say “I love you” like two days into a relationship, even though it would practically be criminally insane?

Or, have you ever thought that you might love the person you’re seeing, but you want to wait until you know that you’re sure?

While love honestly isn’t that complicated — it is everywhere, doesn’t mean lifelong commitment, and isn’t even some permanently binding universal force! — I get that there’s a bit of responsibility that comes with saying it. I also think that there are ways of enacting love that go way further and make a person feel more cared for then coming out and saying it in the first place.

If you’re wondering how to show love without saying it — or if you’re wondering how your partner might be better able to demonstrate their love — then this might be the list for you. If the person you’re seeing isn’t reciprocating? All you have to do is ask!



1. Help Them With their Chores!

Do you have a washer and dryer at your place, and she is constantly hauling her clothes to the laundromat? Does she need to clean her bathroom, but she really, really hates cleaning the toilet?

Small, meaningful gestures that help take the weight off of your partner’s daily life can sometimes mean a whole lot more than “I love you.” While those three words can be nice to hear, people say them all the time without meaning it. Or they might mean it, but they’re also dragging their partner down.

This way of showing love means that you care about your significant other’s wellbeing and want to contribute to the quality of her day-to-day life. It shows that you want her to thrive in her space and that you can help share in that process.

It’s also not a bad way to spend quality time together, especially if you’re short on funds.

2. Turn Off Your Phone When You’re With Them

Giving someone your undivided attention is a profound and meaningful way to connect with another human. If you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, or you’re simply as addicted to Instagram as I am, then it can seem normal to be flipping through your feed while you’re sitting next to your partner.

While I don’t find this behavior disrespectful or necessarily annoying, it is kind of like lingering on the threshold of a room. With one foot in and one foot out, you’re actually not fully involved anywhere.

Showing your partner that you can be fully present with them, no matter what you are doing, is a meaningful demonstration of love. In fact, it might get to the heart of what love means more than saying it.

3. Hold Their Hand In Public

Touch is a crucial component of love. If the two of you have a strong sexual chemistry in private, then I don’t think it necessarily needs to be concealed when you go out of the house.

That’s not to say that you should be doing more than you’re comfortable with — you really don’t have to make out in public — but tiny gestures can go a long way.

I don’t know why it seems like people think that hand holding means that you want to get married or that it’s somehow equivalent to going at it on a bus stop bench, but it does seem to me like a lot of couples don’t really do it. Meanwhile, my platonic friends and I totally do, and it’s one of my favorite gestures of tenderness.

In any case, I think that everybody, as a society, needs more handholding. Not only between couples, either. Hold hands with your friends! It’s a simple display of intimacy that actually doesn’t have anything to do with sex. It just shows that you are connected.

4. Support Her Ambitions

Never tell your partner that she cannot do something or discourage her in any way. Ever. There’s no better way to become lead in the bottom of somebody who was built to fly.

Thank you
 for supporting and believing in me!