Is the guy that causes a toe-curling Orgasm “the One?”

Joe Big Willy here,  really rocked my boat!

How would you know unless you have experienced this “Super O” with someone  to be able to make a serious assessment….

There are guys who cause it “one time,” and then there are guys who are like renewable energy and they bring it on time and time again. Some guys are spectacular at stirring your pot and and making you dinners “that are just  to die for,” served on the balcony of your penthouse condo. And then there are those who are “50 shades of shady.” but yet great in bed. So which one is “the One” who can pop you off like no one else has done in your past or may not  do in your future. The fact is women are now in position to chose, maybe even sample a bit here and there, if they are so inclined.(for comparison purposes only)

As we are well into the 2nd decade of the 21st century, and are just about to start the 3rd decade … Many Women have to be dealing with a tremendous amount of trust issues. Men are no longer simple to deal with, Men have not been in the driver's seat like their dad’s were, men of upstanding character were hard workers, providers, supporters…. these men are getting  harder and harder to find. Why do you think that is? It very well may be that their power of having the luxury of choosing which woman they want is steadily being taken away.  

So why is this? Aren’t men basically the same as men from the past? Answer “No.”

To best answer that question let me  reverse the question….. Aren’t women basically the same as women from the past?  The answer is a resounding “NO”.

Just count how many wonderful women are graduating with Masters and PhD degrees these days. Ready to take on the World!  They are the creme de la creme, in the professional World.

And they are women now who want more and more….heightened aware.  They will not be satisfied with who their mother s would have settled for.  Their superwoman status is reserved to join forces  with a superhero, that they are now in a position to chose “the One”, instead of being chosen.  An A+ Mandingo super-hero a true “he man” in all categories. But those number are becoming fewer and fewer  these days. Women that I know are all complaining “Where are the good men at? “

“I went shopping for a good wine, and found a good man,!”

When the movie  “black Panther” was first released the emotions from a male perspective was mixed. None of us normal fellahs wanted to go see it with the woman of our dreams. We were dead scared of the un-realistic comparisons, that would occur, that could put us it the wrong spot light.  

I remember the old movie “Mahogany” with Billy Dee Williams and Diana Ross. Every guy back then wanted to have Billy Dee Williams style and charm, wit and the gift of good looks and a deep smooth voice, that could do whiskey or Brandy commercials.

"I surprise you with that move! Didn’t I?”

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And young women want to be like Diana Ross, who’s  character had found love with Billy Dee’s Character but her career, as a rising star, was made possible by another man. Which caused  them to drift apart because of her success and stardom the words that stuck in my mind was “ Success is nothing, if you don’t have someone to share it with.”

Now that movie was before it’s time. Women back then were not climbing the success ladder in number like they are today. Women today outnumber male college graduates almost  20 to 1. OK, so what does that mean? Ladies you will not find your equals all that easily.

Not many mating success stories are  that of a Yale or Harvard graduate like Barrack Obama, who meets Michelle on her equal career level at the right time for both of them in Chicago, they were not in Boston...and surely not in N.Y., Phili, Baltimore, L. A. San Francisco, Atlanta, or Miami you can name any number of other cities. How did The Obama’s find each other  in a city that leads the nation in gang violence, Michelle must have been very skeptical about men from the South side or West side or even North Side of Chicago she might have been thinking that none would ever measure up to her needs. But yet her future husband landed at the firm where she was working….. Now that was magical....  We have to remember that he was a journey-man that travel in his youth, while Michelle was a South side Chicago woman, who didn’t have that luxury during her youth. I reference these characters from movies in the 20th century and folks who became President and first lady, their stories were some what similar to Bill and Hillary, Bill was from a small town in Arkansa called “Hope,” but became a Rhode scholar, and Hillary was from the suburbs outside of Chicago. Another interesting story line with a twist.

What is about women from Illinois that snaps up the good men,  these women helped these men go on to become Powerful leaders. Now I know many women don’t even have much to reference in the 21st century, well at least not yet. There might be a few outstanding men on the horizon on the come up. But women are forging  forward without waiting for men. So how will this playout I’m a bit perplexed about that question. Since my two sons are in their prime now. I wonder about their future mates.

They might get the right “one”, I can only hope.