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 Everyone can probably recall a situation when a couple broke up after a long relationship and then the man proposes to the “next woman he meets.” This behavior can be really surprising and it raises a legit question: why does one woman not get the diamond ring after many years spent together with a man while the next one becomes a bride almost immediately after they meet?

Why did you commit to me so fast,
after your last relationship?

Just try and understand men’s logic and find out the answer to this burning question that has been bothering several generations of women across the world.

1. There’s no such thing as “the right woman.” The most important thing, for a wpman, is to be with the man at the right time.

On social media, someone posted the opinion that men get married not when they meet “the love of their life” but when they are ready to start a family. As a Twitter user I got really interested in this theory and would asked other men to comment on it. And almost unanimously, men admitted that they had a relationship they regretted ending but it didn’t stop them from getting married when they had a right woman to become their wife.

There’s another popular thing that triggers men to get married: if a woman they’ve wanted to get with for a long time gets married to someone else, they want to get married as well. In this case, they feel that there’s no chance with that other dream women and if the loneliness becomes unbearable, the unlucky guy chooses among his available options. So, it seems that guys don’t wait for the “right woman” and whatever woman that is ready for marriage at a certain time will get the proposal.

Scientists say that the best age for starting a family is from 28 to 32. After this time, the chances that a man will want to get married will drop and after the age of 42, the chance is almost 0.

 There’s no way to build a family based on just physical attraction.

 Couples with a woman that is more attractive than the man are the happiest. But as John T. Molloy (the author of the book Why Men Marry Some Woman and Not Others) said, the appearance of the woman shouldn’t be vulgar. John asked more than 3,500 men to describe their brides and only 20% of the fiances used adjectives that had to do with their appearance (like gorgeous, attractive, hot or sexy). And the other 80% mentioned the woman’s character traits. Men said that being clean and presentable is very important but didn’t want them to look over-the-top. The most popular opinion was this: a woman should look so that it’s not a shame to appear with her in public.

The opinion of friends and parents can affect the decision, also.

Even if a man looks very independent, who he chooses as a wife will be influenced by those close to him. That’s why friends play a huge role in the beginning stage of a relationship and their opinion may speed up the process of falling in love. Additionally, a man’s parents’ approval may also be a decisive factor in the proposal. You probably have seen cases where a parent’s expectations are different from the girl their son brings home.

Men are sure that women are totally satisfied, when chosen.

To be more specific, women may just pretend that everything is okay when really, they do or don’t want to get married, they also wonder if their is someone else out there that might be a better match for them. However, if a woman never voices her opinion about wanting to get married, her current boyfriend will never know that she is expecting some kind of gesture from him because men are bad at reading between the lines. But men are good at drawing conclusions. So, when this woman loses her patience, packs her stuff and leaves, the man will analyze the situation and when he meets the next woman, he will be quicker in his decisions and will propose to her before she leaves him.

Psychologists claim that couples that have  a few conflicts in the very beginning don’t have a future so people shouldn’t be afraid of expressing their opinions. The women that prefer to be silent about their wishes never actually get the wedding ring. 73% of future wives admit that they pressed their significant others and insisted on getting married instead of just waiting for their boyfriend to propose to them on their own.

Baby you are the ideal woman I've been seeking

Final thoughts:

Marriage is the ultimate risk for a lot of men, and that’s why so many of us men drag our feet to the alter. A scared amount of men cannot and will not commit to good women, and the fact is that many of them realize that, to a point, theyare scared of  making a mistake.

A good marriage serves men far more than it does women. Surprise, surpise! So, eventually, most men do marry.

What may grinded the women's gears about guys is that they often don’t marry the girls who put in the most work.