Why does a man actions seem different when he falls in love.

 

Do You  Really Want to know what goes through a  man's mind when he falls in love? Here are some stages fo how most men fall in love!

When women fall in love, it’s simple,  filled with bursts of happiness and "I miss-you" texts. When a man falls in love, well, it’s just a bit different. So how do men fall in love and what really goes on in a his mind?

For men, falling in love is also a happy experience, but love doesn’t really kick in for a while. While women may experience an intense surge of affections as soon as they realize they like a guy, the mind of a man doesn’t usually really work that way.

Do men and women fall in love or fall for each other in a completely different way? Well, love is love, and we all love each other in similar ways, please note that it's seem similar. BUT where it gets different is how men approach falling in love.

To a man, dating is a conquest. He may be dating with the intention of finding the one who’s a great match for him. But no matter how hard he tries, his evolutionary instinct kicks in as soon as he’s on a date. And irrespective of whether he actually sees the woman as a potential life partner or not, he tries to  impress her.

Of course, there’s the side quest opportunity of sleeping with her and sowing his wild oats. But when he dates a woman, he’s not trying hard to see if she’s the one. He’s only trying desperately to make sure he’s able to get the woman to fall for him.

To a woman, it may seem almost instantaneous! He pursues her, he woos her, he tries to seduce her, and he even professes his love for her. Sometimes, he does all of these within the first few dates! WTF not beat a failure but a trial, right?!

To a woman’s eye, all of these clearly signal the signs of a man falling in love, and falling in love hard. But no matter how smitten he may seem *and men actually believe they’re falling in love too*, it’s still him and his wooing game that’s trying to impress you in full gusto.

Most women assume the more they sticks around in person around a guy, the harder he’ll fall for her. But honestly, it only makes a guy labels her easy because she’s easily available.

What works instead, is going out on dates often, but making sure you give him a lot of space. Don’t just vanish from his life though!

Stay away in person, but stay on his mind! Make sure you’re still on his mind, either by staying active on social media like Instagram, flirty short texts to just say hello, or by just having a great life where you’re out and about at  times.

If a woman is busy having fun and meeting people, that’ll only makes him want to pursue her harder because he sees her as a big catch and “some other guy would try to date her”, which will make him fall even harder for her. 

The big question! Do you completely understand the psychology behind how men fall in love and why men run away, when you get to the last stages of love for men below. But when a man dates you, he isn’t falling in love with you, he’s only trying really hard to make YOU fall in love with him.

Once he’s sure you’re falling for him, literally, that’s the first time he actually asks himself if he even likes you, and wonders if he sees you as a potential dating partner. And this is when most women get confused by a guy’s behavior.

You see him pursuing you in a frenzy, and just as you start to give in and start falling for him “because he’s in love with you”, you see guys running away when you assume they’re already in love with you. That’s not because he’s scared to commit, but he’s considering the idea of being in a relationship with you for the first time. If he runs, now you’d know what that means.

The first thought – PANICCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCK! That’s right, when a man first starts genuinely falling for a woman, he’s a bit apprehensive and confused. Is she worth “settling down with”? Is she really the one? All of the same questions you’d ask yourself over the first couple of dates. Only, the guy waits way, way longer than the first few dates to even ask himself the same questions.

But if he’s convinced you’re worth it, you can expect him to give in completely and fall in love with you, truly, madly, deeply, all in the same ways that you’d fall for him. But as you’d see , this doesn’t really happen until the final stage of falling in love for him.

Now that you have a clear picture about how men date and fall in love, understanding why they run sometimes, and behave so smitten at other times, may start to make sense to you.

But if you want to completely understand a guy’s mind as he falls in love, check out the following stages of love for men, and find out how men fall in love and the different stages they experience.

Stage 1 – Appreciation

This is all about physical appearances and instant attraction. Now this should clear the doubts out for women. We Men are rather shallow when it comes to getting attracted at first sight.

While women may sometimes fall in love in the first conversation, men are attracted to a woman initially only for her physical aspects, and almost nothing else.

Physical appearance is paramount for  us men, but it may not necessarily be the entire package. Each guy has his own preferences in what he likes about a woman, be it her face, her legs, her smile or even the way she combs  her hair. Now, just to be clear, physical appearance doesn’t have to mean the body of a Victoria’s secret model or the face of the sexiest celebrity. If you make his heart skip a beat in the first conversation, chances are, he’ll think something about you is stunningly attractive!

A guy may not even know what it is about a woman that he likes, but if he finds something attractive in her, he may experience the appreciation stage.

Stage 2 – Infatuation

Men appreciate a lot of women on a daily basis. we try to steal second glances or get a woman’s attention in interesting ways. But it’s not always a success, either because he’s not trying hard enough or because the woman’s just not interested in him. The infatuation stage of how men fall in love is also the wooing stage of love for men in the dating game.

A man may appreciate a lot of women, but he doesn’t really get infatuated by all of them. If he appreciates a woman, and is interested in wooing her or pursuing her, he enters the infatuation phase.

A man may pursue a woman in various ways, but if she doesn’t accept his advances he usually forgets the woman as just another attractive woman he wanted to go out with. It’s easier for a man to like a woman one day and forget he ever liked her the next because he has so many stages to deal with before he even makes up his mind on falling in love.

Stage 3 – Attraction

If an attractive woman reciprocates to a guy’s advances, he enters into the attraction stage of love. Until this stage, a guy can walk away from a woman without any pain or heartbreak even if the girl rejects him. He’s not really trying too hard, and he’s not really fallen in love to care about a rejection when he’s just trying to get lucky.

But if a girl does show the slightest sign of reciprocation or interest in the guy, or even if he assumes she’s into him, the guy digs deep into this stage, the attraction stage. In this stage, he decides to pursue the woman and  tries to make her like him.

Stage 4 – Impression

Understanding how men fall in love is complicated stuff, but quite frankly, he’s nowhere close to falling in love right now even in this stage. All he wants to do is make the woman like him. He shows off his mating potential to her. He peacocks, he plans dates and splurges on gifts to please the woman. He’s definitely not in love, but he does want something good to come out of this stage of impressions.

Stage 5 – Conviction

If a guy’s successfully breezing through these different stages of love for men, he’d start to wonder if there’s something more in the air. But instead of falling in love with the girl, all he’s worried about is how to convince the woman to fall in love with him.

He would really like the woman in this stage and would definitely want to continue going out with her, but the uncertainty would still confuse him and he would not be at ease until he’s certain the woman likes him.

This stage is especially prominent when a guy falls for a friend, or someone knows  well. He can’t really try to impress her by buying gifts or taking her out on dates, but yet, he wouldn’t be able to stop pondering over and over how to convince the woman to go out with him. In this stage, all a guy cares about is how to get the woman to like him. 

If he’s able to convince the woman and make her fall in love with him, he’s a happy man. He likes where the dating game is heading.

But until now, in his pursuit of getting the woman to like him, he’s not asked himself if he really likes the girl and whether he actually wants to go out with her. Until this stage of love, getting the woman to like him was a goal he’s been focused on. Once the girl is in love with him, only then does a man seriously start to consider if he wants to have a relationship with the woman who now seems to love him.

It’s a selfish move, but it’s something evolution has taught all male species. “Don’t waste time thinking. Spend your time searching for more places to bust a nut.”

Now that the girl is in love with him or falling for him one day at a time, he takes a couple of days to sit back and weigh the pros and the cons of being in a relationship with that woman. Does he really love the girl too? Will he be happy with her? Is she the woman he wants and needs? 

Stage 7 – He’s ready to love

If a man’s convinced that he truly likes the woman and wants to be with her, he enters this final stage of love where he’s ready to fall in love with the woman. On the other hand, if he’s not really convinced that the woman is the right mate for him, he may start avoiding her or slowly losing  interest in pleasing her because of his confusion.

Now ladies have you ever dated a really great guy who started behaving like a jerk a couple of weeks into love relationship? Well, you know what happened now, don’t you? 

How to turn the dating game in the woman's favor and make him chase you

Now that you know how men fall in love with a woman, this whole game may seem like an annoying truth. And it’s more annoying to know that men have to actually make women fall in love with them first  before they even think about going out with you, but that’s the way men fall in love and they really have no choice about it.

But if you really want to beat the guy at his own game, don’t make it obvious that you really like him at the very first instant. Keep it simple and play hard to get for a while. Which is what usually happens any way. [

Not giving in too easily, at least in the beginning, will make him work harder to win your love. And when he does finally win you over, he’ll never ever want to leave you because you’re such a tough catch to get or let go!

Well, you may now know how men fall in love with women and the svarious stages of love for a man. But remember this, when a man falls in love, it’s almost always because you made him work for your affection.