So what is it that is preventing women from connecting with the guy they like

 

A woman in the show  speaks her truths to herself.

Maybe because I try to understand what women need I try to figure out what is making women have some issues. Women who grow up without fathers often struggle with feelings of "low self-esteem" and unworthiness. Iyanla Vanzant calls these women “daddy-less daughters” and, in a special two-part show for “Oprah’s Life-class,” Iyanla helped examine what really happens when girls are raised without their fathers.

In the episode, Iyanla says that the role of father is to teach his daughter how to be in a nonsexual, intimate relationship with a man. In fact, it’s the first relationship a daughter has with a man and therefore teaches her how a woman should be treated. However, if Dad leaves, Iyanla explains that the daughter lacks that healthy model and often seeks to fill that void in a variety of ways. 

One way many daddy-less daughters try to fill the void is through their willingness to settle

when it comes to finding a partner. “If you want so much to be with the wrong one,

imagine how good it will feel when the right one shows up,” Iyanla says in the video.

“Be willing to be with you until he or she or it — whatever it is — shows up.

If you don’t want to be with you, why do you think someone else [would] want to be with you?”

Dr. Steve Perry, an important voice in the “Life-class” discussion on fatherless sons,

agrees about the importance of daughters having a strong father figure.

“What a father or a very important father figure does for the young ladies with whom I work is it sets the standards,” he explains in another clip from the show.

Without a father or father figure, daddy-less daughters set their own standards and, as Dr. Perry says,

they often make the huge mistake of allowing others to define them.

“Since you allow others to define you, others will define you,” Dr. Perry says.

“The thing that they find most ‘attractive’ about you — the thing that you get the most attention for —

is the thing that you so often put out there.”

To explain what he means, Dr. Perry shares a few examples. “If someone tells you you’re halfway cute,

your clothes get smaller, things get tighter and you start to put yourself out there more,”

he says. “If they say your chest is big, you get attention for that... as opposed to,

what do you think it is about you that you like and you want people to see.” this made me think a bit.

Conclusion
I have been with more than one female that had Daddy issues. So I have to analyze, in my head, if I'm a man that attracts women with daddy issues, or was I just blessed to make women fall for me because I do have good daddy qualities. I was 25 years old when I got married and then my mother died about 3 months later, I sometimes believe I got married just before she died to give her that relaxed mindset before she died, with her assuming that I had someone to take care of me.