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Over the past decades, anal sex—or at least, talking about anal sex—has become significantly less taboo, perhaps because "butts" have taken on an entirely new status (thanks, mainly to social media!)...or because society has become more sex-positive overall (Wow!). But still, actually having anal sex remains ~controversial~ among women, no matter how often it's discussed.

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"Unfortunately, there is still a tendency to stigmatize acts that might be considered 'non-traditional' for some people, due to lack of information," explains Alexis Clarke, PhD, a licensed psychologist who specializes in sex and relationships. But the thing is, anal sex can oftentimes become the preferred method for women who don't have vaginas, for those for whom vaginal penetration is especially painful, and for women who simply experience more pleasure that way, Clarke explains.

For some women, it's is the cherry on top of a sexual sundae: a little extra treat that elevates something that was already delicious on its own (talking about sex here). But for others, butt sex is more like pâté: intriguing, worth a try, but absolutely not up their alleys (as in, a penis will probably not be going up that alley ever again).

If you've yet to add anal to the menu but are curious to taste test it, there are some things you should know first:

1. Try anal training. If you're worried about tearing or pain, you can work your way up to full-blown anal by starting with a butt plug, anal beads, or fingers. "If you're comfortable with any of these things in your anus for about 15 to 20 minutes, there's a good chance you're at a point where you can successfully insert a penis" or a dildo, explains Shawntres Parks, a licensed marriage and family therapist in San Diego. The biggest challenge, she says, is getting the sphincter to relax enough for something to penetrate it. Don't stress, it's not unusual for it to take a few tries. But when you feel your sphincter relax whether it's a toy, finger, or penis coming through, you'll know you're ready.
2. Lube, lube, lube. To make things way more comfortable, remember that lube (and lots of it) is your best friend. "The anus is not self-lubricating in the same way that the vagina is," says Parks. So it'll need a little extra help from a store-bought friend to make the experience smoother. Parks recommends water-based lubes since anything petroleum- or oil-based will break down the materials in your condom (if you're wearing one) or a silicon strap-on.
3. Prep the pipes. Anal douching is always available to you, but your best bet is just going poop before the act. If you're having trouble, Parks says to try an herbal supplement or tea such as Smooth Move that goes easy on the stomach. "If you try it the night before, by the time you wake up in the morning you'll probably have a bowel movement" and again later that night, says Parks.
4. Talk it out. Be sure to communicate with your partner about how you're feeling when it comes to anal. If something doesn't feel right: stop! Even after the act, Parks says the conversations should continue. Check in afterward and ask your partner what they thought of the experience, how it made them feel, and what they might like to do differently next time.
5. Cleanliness is key. If you're planning to transition from anal to vaginal sex, be sure to thoroughly clean yourself in between, especially if you're not using a condom you can change, says Parks. "There's a big increased risk of STIs when you're transitioning from anal sex to vaginal sex because of that transfer of fecal bacteria into the vagina." When shopping for body-friendly wipes, Parks says to "look for things that don't have harsh chemicals" and try them out for a few days. If you find you're able to use them on a day-to-day basis without irritation, then they're probably a good bet for a post-anal wipe down.
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7. Hop in the shower after. In addition to wiping yourself down, you and your partner should take a shower to clear yourselves of any bacteria. "The challenge sometimes with showering happens when couples are trying to build up arousal," says Parks. The time spent in the shower might kill the mood for a round two of vaginal or oral sex. She recommends showering with your partner to keep the sexy time going during the transition. It'll get you both clean and ~prepped~ for the second act.
8. Clean the place up. It's not just your bodies you should clean post-butt sex. Make sure you immediately get rid of condoms and throw any towels or sheets that may have gotten a bit messy in the laundry. You don't have to go overboard with buckets of bleach or anything, says Parks. Just be sure to pay special attention to anything that might have fecal bacteria on it and get it in the trash or washer ASAP. Otherwise, "general practices for keeping your space clean are enough," she says.

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Before your first go and do it, you'll also  might want to peep  stories from women who have dabbled in butt sex and lived to tell the tale. 

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