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| If love is blind how can it be at first sight, and how can we trust what we don't see? |
It is natural to have disagreements and even arguments in a
relationship, but there is no reason to make things personal,
become insulting and never, ever to become abusive.
A good man will remain calm and focus on the topic at hand.
Women often have a dream guy in their heads
(floating on a cloud)
and they want to hold out until he magically show up.
Fairytales have screwed women up big times....
the following point are just some of women's requirements
these days. These May Seem Like Small Things
That Are Actually Big , Things To Her
When it comes to dating and new relationships,
women often find themselves
wondering how certain people end up with others.
Wondering why they don’t
walk away if they don’t get what they deserve and hoping that
they truly appreciate their teammate if they are getting what
they deserve. I think a big part of the problem blurring this line is
that many people aren’t even quite sure what a healthy
relationship looks like these days or how a “good man”
(or woman) should act towards their partner. To help clarify,
I have put together this list of how a good man should
act while in a relationship, based women's definitions.
A good man never lets you forget how much he loves you.
I cannot tell you how many conversations I have had with women
who tell me that there is no affection, to not much in their relationship.
The man in their life does not make them feel loved, wanted or
appreciated. This is a profoundly important piece of the puzzle —
a good man will always remind you how much you mean to him.
If someone truly loves you, you will know it and feel it. If they don’t,
you’ll be wondering all the time if they do. Let me explain what
these women are missing, many men were raised in single parent
households and did not see much affection between their
parents, or their mother's partners, that were in their live for short
periods of time so they have no clue how to be what women want.
2. A good man always supports you.
Regardless of whether you want to go back to school after 20 years to
get your Master’s degree, start a singing career or stay at home to raise
a family, a good man will always support you and what you want out of
your life. He will never discourage you or make you feel as though you can’t
do what you set out to do. He will be beside you every step of the way,
cheering on your victories and comforting you during your defeats.
Many guys have trust issues, based how the grew up.
Trusting a woman to finish her education on his dime might be a stretch..
A good man will inspire you.
This goes one step beyond supporting you, which can be more passive.
To inspire someone takes effort both in how one lives their own life and how
they encourage others to live theirs. A good man’s drive and ambition will rub
off on you as he pursues his own passions.
Let's not assume the impossible, for most guys supporting a woman that is not
family is foreign to them.
4. A good man will work to gain your trust.
A good man will want you to be comfortable and confident in your relationship.
The very cornerstone of this is being able to trust someone, and he will realize
that. Without trust, there is no foundation for love or respect. He will understand
that trust is not just handed over to someone — it has to be earned, and then it
has to be kept.
How is he going to get a woman to trust him if he can't be trusted anyone, if he was
ever hurt by someone he will not know how that emotion feels. Furthermore he sees
trusting anyone is a weakness.
5. A good man will always make you feel beautiful.
He will understand that making you feel beautiful does not just mean saying
the words to you. It will mean truly making you feel beautiful. In the way he
looks at you, touches you and treats you. He will notice details when you put
effort into your appearance and remind you how attractive he still finds you,
even when you don’t. A good man will understand that whether you
are in your sweatpants on the couch or in your evening gown heading
to a gala, when you love someone for who they truly are, everything
about them becomes beautiful.
This is slippery slope, because lying to women has become easy,
but being sincere about complimenting a woman about her beauty makes a man
vulnerable. He will not let her see him as vulnerable, very often.
6. A good man will make you feel safe.
I have always said that I believe one of the best compliments a
woman can give her partner is telling him that she feels safe around him.
Regardless of how attracted she is to you or how funny she thinks you
are or how much money you have, if a woman cannot sleep soundly
by your side at night, none of it matters.
He might think of her safety as someone else responsibility.
so don't expect too much.
7. A good man does the little things.
Do you need a prescription filled, but have to stay late at work?
Did you mention an art exhibit coming to town and he made plans
to take you to see it?
Regardless of how small certain things seem, he will
understand they are really the big things that matter most.
The little thing might be way more than he is will to do, so do not expect
what he has not told you he would do.
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