first allow me to have my disclaimer from the start of this conversation.
I took these points from an article written by a female. Ok, The stuff following each point is my BAD perspective.
#1 Boys avoid uncomfortable conversations – men know how to communicate their needs. - men know how to communicate their needs. Even the best relationships have friction. You’re going to do or say something he does not like—it’s inevitable. Boys are passive aggressive, whereas a mature man will have a productive conversation with you…even if it’s a little awkward.
BAD perspective: I think this is a miss print Boys avoid uncomfortable conversations... because what is comfortable to girls and women are not comfortable to boys or men. You see communication is a two way street. Not an information super high all coming from one female server, there is reason super computers are given female names. there is no disputing that women and girls want to communicate their needs, a man just needs to agree to give her what she wants. the fact that a man can say wait a minute, here are my needs. This will cause an unplug to the incoming communication. Neither women or girls will hear a word he said. Boys do not have the patience to go through all that......boys are to busy looking at other options because they know they can move on to the next female . Men may not have that choice once he has committed to a woman.
#2 Boys only want to hook up – men invest their time and energy in the right woman. - There’s a moment in every man’s life when he realizes that being in a relationship makes him significantly happier than chasing “tail” every night. If you’re only hearing from him at 1 a.m. on a Saturday night, he’s not ready to give up his toys. Move on and find yourself a grown man.
BAD perspective: here again we are under the misconception that men don't want to hook up - Men are like fish caught in a net, taken out of the ocean where he had freedom of choices.... where to go and what to do with his time. Once a man gets caught in the drag net, he is dragged ( no long has the freedom of choice ) to all kinds of stuff... he would rather not do or be part of. to Say that the woman is the "Right woman" is to also believe in an optical illusion. Every reasonably good woman is a potential "Right woman" she is as Right for you as the "Right Man" is as right for her. Just wait until something changes then the word "Right" changes to something else .... i.e. I should have know better ... You were too good to be Really true in the beginning.
#3 Boys will compliment you to get in your pants – men pay compliments because they want you to feel great about yourself. - When you’re only focused on making yourself happy, you can party every night and be lazy every day. Once you realize that other people are relying on you, you’re willing to make the sacrifices you need to support your family
BAD perspective: Once again this is matter of perspective. Not every man or boy has the same taste in women or how they want them to look when they are trying to impress a man. A man might say I love you hair like that, while he is thinking ' OMG this not how she looked a week ago.... why didn't I see this coming... I must admit she still has those eyes....I will gaze into her eyes all night long and she will not complain about that.' Case solved, confrontation averted.
#4 Boys live day by day – men work hard to build a future for themselves and their woman. - If he’s insecure about his own intellect, he won’t risk it with a smart girl. The boy will stay in his comfort zone, whereas a mature man wants the challenge of a smart woman.
BAD perspective: It's Safe to say, that boys may still be living at home with their parents, which can be until the age of 35 these days..... Men these day didn't have that option back when they finished school, men could not wait to get their own place to have the women they want to hook up with over, Men want to have a BAD crib which is the ultimate hook to be able to find the "Right woman" to share it with. Girl and women would fall for a guy with his stuff together.... the notion that this man was working hard to build a future for their woman intentionally is a myth.. He did it to impress her then got into a routine of maintaining what he started. When she gets what seems as a future and he can get her wanting to be with him instead of that other dude still partying in the club every night and living at home with his parents.
#5 Boys are intimidated by smart women – men are stimulated by them. -
BAD perspective: All you have to do is think about it..... " smart women" they don't really need a man... do they? They can do so much for themselves... they may want a strong man that is intelligent enough to understand that the money she make is hers, hers, hers, and the money he makes is also hers. just do the math on this..... only older women are willing to pay for stuff, women young enough to be able to attract someone else, is not willing to take you to dinner but once. Because it is still a man's place to pay for everything, even if he makes less money than she does.
#6 Boys make promises they can’t keep – men say it and mean it. - One of the biggest mistakes I’ve ever made was telling a woman I loved her when I did not mean it. I was a scared little boy trying to make a girl happy. A mature man will tell a woman how he feels when he feels it. And if it’s not there, he won’t make it up.
BAD perspective: Promises are those things that is not written in a contract. Tell any woman that you will give her a promissory note on giving her what she want on her 25th wedding anniversary. she will laugh in your face. Unless she thinks about it and realizes that you just asked her to marry you then it becomes a contract and everything you accumulates and save up for will be hers, if she sticks it out for 25 years. Oooh wait! that means she has to give-up her best years to YOU. hmmmm! Now she might want to come up with a new strategy to get, whatever it is she wants from you....... sooner.
#7 Boys avoid any chance of rejection – men face their fears and go for it.- men face their fears and go for it. Here’s the thing, both men and boys hate getting rejected—no matter who you are, rejection sucks. The only difference is that a mature man will push through his fears and go for it anyway because you’re worth it
BAD perspective: <smirking> name one woman who would face her fears and go for it...... if there is a chance that she will get rejected. The fact that Boys are smart enough to so say... there are more fish in the sea and move on..... is not what girls or women want to happen. Women want to be chased, not to do the chasing... If she is chasing a man, you bet she will get something from him that she wants by offering what she knows he can't refuse... then tell him she is 3 months late. Oops . So who playing games here?
#8 Boys don’t set priorities – a man realizes what’s most important and makes you a priority. - A mature man wants to spend his time with the people he cares about. And if he’s dating you, he cares about you. He will want to be with you and only you.
BAD perspective: Whose Priorities are we talking about here? Hers or the guy's, let's face the truth here she is always her top priority.... if a man does not go along with the program she is history... If he does not comply with her needs to be the first, second and third priority he is missing the point of the deal, he may not even be aware that he was negotiating a do or die deal.
#9 Boys put you down – men encourage and support you. - Scared little boys will try to drag a woman down with them as a defense mechanism. A mature man understands that he will grow as a man if his woman is growing as a woman.
BAD perspective: Now I have to admit.... putting a woman down has never been my thing... so I can't disagree with this without having to come up with something totally off the wall.
I took these points from an article written by a female. Ok, The stuff following each point is my BAD perspective.
#1 Boys avoid uncomfortable conversations – men know how to communicate their needs. - men know how to communicate their needs. Even the best relationships have friction. You’re going to do or say something he does not like—it’s inevitable. Boys are passive aggressive, whereas a mature man will have a productive conversation with you…even if it’s a little awkward.
BAD perspective: I think this is a miss print Boys avoid uncomfortable conversations... because what is comfortable to girls and women are not comfortable to boys or men. You see communication is a two way street. Not an information super high all coming from one female server, there is reason super computers are given female names. there is no disputing that women and girls want to communicate their needs, a man just needs to agree to give her what she wants. the fact that a man can say wait a minute, here are my needs. This will cause an unplug to the incoming communication. Neither women or girls will hear a word he said. Boys do not have the patience to go through all that......boys are to busy looking at other options because they know they can move on to the next female . Men may not have that choice once he has committed to a woman. #2 Boys only want to hook up – men invest their time and energy in the right woman. - There’s a moment in every man’s life when he realizes that being in a relationship makes him significantly happier than chasing “tail” every night. If you’re only hearing from him at 1 a.m. on a Saturday night, he’s not ready to give up his toys. Move on and find yourself a grown man.
BAD perspective: here again we are under the misconception that men don't want to hook up - Men are like fish caught in a net, taken out of the ocean where he had freedom of choices.... where to go and what to do with his time. Once a man gets caught in the drag net, he is dragged ( no long has the freedom of choice ) to all kinds of stuff... he would rather not do or be part of. to Say that the woman is the "Right woman" is to also believe in an optical illusion. Every reasonably good woman is a potential "Right woman" she is as Right for you as the "Right Man" is as right for her. Just wait until something changes then the word "Right" changes to something else .... i.e. I should have know better ... You were too good to be Really true in the beginning. #3 Boys will compliment you to get in your pants – men pay compliments because they want you to feel great about yourself. - When you’re only focused on making yourself happy, you can party every night and be lazy every day. Once you realize that other people are relying on you, you’re willing to make the sacrifices you need to support your family
BAD perspective: Once again this is matter of perspective. Not every man or boy has the same taste in women or how they want them to look when they are trying to impress a man. A man might say I love you hair like that, while he is thinking ' OMG this not how she looked a week ago.... why didn't I see this coming... I must admit she still has those eyes....I will gaze into her eyes all night long and she will not complain about that.' Case solved, confrontation averted.
#4 Boys live day by day – men work hard to build a future for themselves and their woman. - If he’s insecure about his own intellect, he won’t risk it with a smart girl. The boy will stay in his comfort zone, whereas a mature man wants the challenge of a smart woman.
BAD perspective: It's Safe to say, that boys may still be living at home with their parents, which can be until the age of 35 these days..... Men these day didn't have that option back when they finished school, men could not wait to get their own place to have the women they want to hook up with over, Men want to have a BAD crib which is the ultimate hook to be able to find the "Right woman" to share it with. Girl and women would fall for a guy with his stuff together.... the notion that this man was working hard to build a future for their woman intentionally is a myth.. He did it to impress her then got into a routine of maintaining what he started. When she gets what seems as a future and he can get her wanting to be with him instead of that other dude still partying in the club every night and living at home with his parents.
#5 Boys are intimidated by smart women – men are stimulated by them. -
BAD perspective: All you have to do is think about it..... " smart women" they don't really need a man... do they? They can do so much for themselves... they may want a strong man that is intelligent enough to understand that the money she make is hers, hers, hers, and the money he makes is also hers. just do the math on this..... only older women are willing to pay for stuff, women young enough to be able to attract someone else, is not willing to take you to dinner but once. Because it is still a man's place to pay for everything, even if he makes less money than she does. #6 Boys make promises they can’t keep – men say it and mean it. - One of the biggest mistakes I’ve ever made was telling a woman I loved her when I did not mean it. I was a scared little boy trying to make a girl happy. A mature man will tell a woman how he feels when he feels it. And if it’s not there, he won’t make it up.
BAD perspective: Promises are those things that is not written in a contract. Tell any woman that you will give her a promissory note on giving her what she want on her 25th wedding anniversary. she will laugh in your face. Unless she thinks about it and realizes that you just asked her to marry you then it becomes a contract and everything you accumulates and save up for will be hers, if she sticks it out for 25 years. Oooh wait! that means she has to give-up her best years to YOU. hmmmm! Now she might want to come up with a new strategy to get, whatever it is she wants from you....... sooner.
#7 Boys avoid any chance of rejection – men face their fears and go for it.- men face their fears and go for it. Here’s the thing, both men and boys hate getting rejected—no matter who you are, rejection sucks. The only difference is that a mature man will push through his fears and go for it anyway because you’re worth it
BAD perspective: <smirking> name one woman who would face her fears and go for it...... if there is a chance that she will get rejected. The fact that Boys are smart enough to so say... there are more fish in the sea and move on..... is not what girls or women want to happen. Women want to be chased, not to do the chasing... If she is chasing a man, you bet she will get something from him that she wants by offering what she knows he can't refuse... then tell him she is 3 months late. Oops . So who playing games here? #8 Boys don’t set priorities – a man realizes what’s most important and makes you a priority. - A mature man wants to spend his time with the people he cares about. And if he’s dating you, he cares about you. He will want to be with you and only you.
BAD perspective: Whose Priorities are we talking about here? Hers or the guy's, let's face the truth here she is always her top priority.... if a man does not go along with the program she is history... If he does not comply with her needs to be the first, second and third priority he is missing the point of the deal, he may not even be aware that he was negotiating a do or die deal.
#9 Boys put you down – men encourage and support you. - Scared little boys will try to drag a woman down with them as a defense mechanism. A mature man understands that he will grow as a man if his woman is growing as a woman.
BAD perspective: Now I have to admit.... putting a woman down has never been my thing... so I can't disagree with this without having to come up with something totally off the wall.
In the end we know a real Man knows what a real woman needs are , and will determine in his mind if she is worth his dedication!
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