If he is Wealthy and can cheat, will he cheat or not?

Allow me to share this article  that I read on madamenoire.com. Let me  just say a few things; wealth to some people is  a weapon of Mass destruction. they use their status to do things that they wouldn't  be able to do without it. I  will voice more of my thoughts at the bottom after the article.   

Pass me your 10 digits!

“If he can cheat, he will cheat.”
This is what I was told by a wealthy man who considered himself “lucky” enough to have both a wife and a girlfriend. He was living a double life in every sense of the word. He assumed that the two women knew of each other, but neither of them wanted to admit it. Admitting their knowledge would force them to deal with the fact that they were accepting blatant disrespect from a man. Of course, the offender didn’t see it like this. In fact, he had a quite convincing explanation (at least to himself). He said with certainty that if a woman dates a man with money and status she should expect to be cheated on, at least once.

Interestingly enough, on a recent episode of NBC’s The Carmichael Show entitled, “Everbody Cheats,” this same type of opinion was shared by the lead character, Jerrod, after the husband of a family friend was caught creeping. As Vulture’s recap of the episode put it:

“Jerrod is more concerned with the financials of Karen’s marriage. He believes that cheating is natural for successful rich people. According to Jerrod, an income of $50,000 to $100,000 — the bracket in which he himself lands — means a man has thought about doing it, but won’t act on those urges. Once a man cracks $100,000, he has definitely cheated.”

I am no relationship expert, but going into a relationship with the expectation of being cheated on sounds like a slap in the face to yourself. It’s like saying, “I’m not good enough for a man to be monogamous with, so I will just accept what I can get because…well…I want a man.”

This thinking sounds self-destructive. However, I am not at all surprised that some men (and women) have bought into this notion: If he can cheat with ease, he will cheat often. And if he’s rolling in dough, he will.

Let’s face it, more women than not prefer a man who is rich and powerful. Not too many women would say, “I want my man to be broke and powerless.” And in a society where status matters and old-fashioned rules are out the door, we don’t really know what people are dealing with behind closed doors to be in certain relationships. People want to be known and have flashy things. And even women who are doing well on their own often want a man who can provide the same, or better.

Usually, the more handsome or financially well off the man is, the easier it is for him to get a woman. If it’s easier for him to get a woman, wouldn’t this also make it easier for him to cheat? The man living a double life that I mentioned above sure thinks so. In fact, he was quick to tell his stories of sexual escapades with women who were keen to be with him because of who he was and what he had. The stories would seem adventurous to other men, but I’m almost positive his wife and girlfriend would find them horrific.

Still, he was quite certain they would never confront him about the “rumors” because he took care of them both, sexually and financially. His words, not mine.

A 2011 study conducted by professors at Tilburg University backs up this sentiment. More than 1,500 professionals were surveyed to examine the relationship between power and infidelity. Results showed that the more power a person had, the more likely he or she was to cheat. Power produced more confidence, in turn making the person even more attractive to others.

“If women want a faithful man,” the wealthy cheater said, “they need to get a broke man who doesn’t have a lot of options.”

Well damn, I thought; but as brash and insensitive as he sounded, I knew that he was probably right in some instances.

Tons of men with money and status are notorious for being put on blast publicly because of their scandalous ways. And many times we see their wives or significant others stand by their sides as if nothing ever happened. Maybe the “nothing” is something they have chalked up as coming with the territory. Could it be par for the course?

While I haven’t yet subscribed to the idea that all men cheat in relationships, I’m not naive enough to pretend that I don’t know that there are a large percentage who do. And while I get what the man said about men with money having more options, is there an expectation for them to cheat? And with that in mind, as a woman looking for a monogamous, healthy relationship, would you be so comfortable dating a wealthy man?

He treats me like  a Queen,
 but he will never marry!

From my BAD perspective ... In a world where our BAD behaviors are accepted, admire, or even revered ....  as who/what  people perceive us to be and not who we really are, where validation comes from how many followers or likes we have,  where quality time with loved ones is being replaced by isolation and text messages from the other rooms, I beg you to be different. do not stereo type people just because everyone else does.
All  of the above is just stereo typing of a particular group... based on what most people think... this  leads to placement of  values and labeling and speculation as to what you are using as tools to be less than honorable. BAD behavior in relationships are just that behaviors based on  what society has condoned from  may years  from  some classes of people in society. Question:  If a woman is wealthy  will she do the same things as a man who  is wealthy? Ask yourselves what would you do or change if you were wealthy. Would you be a narcissistic individual , would you step out on your partner just because you could. You see it's a mindset of what you desire most, wealth can equals power,  there are  people who are  using wealth as a  tool to control, and manipulate others... Just because they could. It has been documented that for centuries Men of wealth use their wealth to get what they would not get if they were not wealthy. So what does that say about women who lower their standards just because they could get things from a wealthy individual in exchange for their bodies and soul.  Isn't it amazing that  when a woman has a regular sexual relationship with a married man that she gets a label base the class of the man she is having the affair with.....

I'm a mistress so I drive his car like a Boss

Like example:  a side-chick, side-piece, if he is less affluent. The label of a mistress  if he is wealthy.  Now the writer of the above article gave some men the benefit of the doubt, ..I guess... but the article leans strongly towards the idea that men with wealth use it to get what they want and that women pretend to accept it... Just because the getting of  goods is good.  So let's examine  who is a wealthy player or  just a Pimp.  A pimp...   is one who exploits, panders and procures women for his own personal gain. One who benefits from the degradation of women. My question is who's pimping who ? Who is that person in your life that you have willingly given the "management" of your emotions, your body, to exploit you for personal gain ? What is his/her name ? That man that uses you for sex and pays your bills ? That man that lets you use his other car, but never wants to take you out in public? That man that lives with you in your house part-time, but won't marry you...and YOU want to be married  Who's is really  pimp, who ?.....

He buy's me shoes that match his car

 Fear...is a PIMP..... Control..... is a PIMP

There are all types of PIMPS in our lives. Spiritual Pimps, (buy this cloth and get healed, sow into MY life and be blessed)
Financial Pimps...(24 percent interest on a credit card...PIMP), 32 percent tax rate, PIMP.

Emotional Pimps....(its complicated baby, I m not ready for a relationship, lets just chill....PIMP)....

Ladies, it maybe  time to DROP IT LIKE ITS HOT. Like the song says...When that Pimp enters your LIFE...when he enters your "club Ma"....you need to DROP HIM LIKE HES HOT !! Whatever IT or WHOEVER it is that is PIMPING YOU. Drop it like its hot ! Debt, Drop it like its hot.....Abuse, Drop it Like its Hot, Low Self Worth, Drop it Like its HOT......DROP ANYTHING AND ANYONE in your life that is EXPLOITING you for personal or emotional gain.
Today is FIRE A PIMP DAY !.....DROP IT LIKE ITS HOT.