So who is really " REAL" these days?

Hopefully she will become a woman at some point
during the relationship.

I'm beginning to believe the word "REAL" is just being used to shame people to behaving in line with what some people believe and want. Real men or Real  women are mostly men and women with good qualities ( well this is what I believe). They don't need to be challenged every time one wants the other person to behave in  a particular way. Want me to chase you, then remain chase-able. Want me love you, then remain love-able
Ok the following  are 10 things some women believe REAL men do:

1. Feelings

There seems to be some wild misconception that men shouldn’t talk about their feelings, but the real men I know all have feelings, and will about their feeling with the right person . Rather than repressing emotions, these men  talk about their feelings, with the  person they trust . Real men  have the willingness to sit down with an open heart and speak from a place that isn’t guarded or shut down. They don’t hear the words “we need to talk” and run away with their vulnerabilities.

2. Get a woman's  Souls Naked

Real men know the juiciest and sweetest parts of a woman don’t lie beneath women's panty lines. Real men know the jackpot in love is undressing a woman’s soul, layer-by-layer, piece-by-piece. Real euphoria goes deeper than sex.

3. Scrape Windshields in the Dead of Winter 

I hope a REAL
  gentleman will be there to help me out After my shift. 

One night after a long night serving   drinks at a bar , one of the bouncers walked the female bartender   to her car and insisted on cleaning her car off from the snow that accumulated on the windshield. She gave up resisting and got inside her  car as he brushed the six inches of snow off and scraped the ice off her  windows in the  -30 degrees Celcius weather. It was one of the nicest things a man has done for her that  day. Not all women want to be picked up for a date, have her door opened, her jacket hung for her, the bill paid for, and to be walked to her steps without the expectation of coming in. Most women  have a hard time receiving regardless of their sex, and women have battled fiercely for equality on our planet. So sometimes they may insist on going Dutch and maintaining their independence, but at the end of the day chivalry is nice and so are acts of service. Beneath chivalry lies the intent that you want to take care of them, and they  like that.

4. Reach For your woman  Before the Cell Phone in the Morning
When we pick up our phone we immediately disconnect from the moment unraveling in front of us. Prioritizing a snuggle, followed by some morning breath kisses and maybe some hanky-panky gets a man far in some girl’s books. Emails, Instagram, stocks, voice-mails and texts will still be kicking around inside your phones twenty minutes from the moment you open your eyes.

5. Show Up On Time

Being on time is a matter of setting your priorities.  

Whether it’s a dinner reservation at a five-star restaurant or a Skype date in sweatpants, when someone shows up on time it communicates that they not only value your time together, but also their word.

6. Don’t Squirm When They Hear the Word “Period”

Lady time is part of life, gentlemen. A real man isn’t put off by talk of cramps, cravings or the occasional roller coaster of emotions that happen during shark week. Real men can buy tampons.

7. Have an Open Mind

Real men aren’t racist, sexist or homophobic. They don’t feel superior because of their gender, skin color or sexual preference. Real men don’t sit at the bar and discuss shop culture that “isn’t for their wives,” real men care less what color skin you have, or what country your genetics came from. They don’t believe they are stronger, more intelligent or superior because they are born with a penis.

8. Just Show Up

Nothing is sexier than accountability. Real men are accountable for their own well-being. They know the importance of showing up.

9. Listen

Here is an example of a boyfriend who—for his girlfriends  birthday—took her  to a play she wanted to see, made her  a homemade card, played her  favorite songs on the drive, and bought her a  gift card. She had mentioned a month earlier that She’d never seen a play and spoke of her  desire to do so. She told him that her mother had sung “Nothing Compares to you” while I was in her belly and while learning to take her first steps. He wasn’t artsy or that creative but he knew she  liked that kind of stuff.  Listening goes pretty far.

10. Drinking her favorite drinks.

Real men can drink anything she likes,  rent chick flicks free of shame. They know their testosterone isn’t threatened by their taste buds. They don’t feel the need to drive big trucks, bench press small countries or drink whisky to validate their sexuality. They are comfortable with their masculinity and don’t need to prove anything. They just do as they please.

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So what are the qualities of a REAL woman?

Ok the following  are 10 things some  men believe REAL women do.

Would you be able to define them if you were asked?

Staggering  numbers of single-parent households make it more apparent than ever that men and women alike are having a difficult time finding high-quality partners.

I’ve decided to flip the script and discuss some of the many great attributes possessed by strong and healthy women.

Part of being a real man is recognizing the value in a great woman.  

Whether dating or married your personal life can be greatly improved by looking for or appreciating these qualities.

Remember –  attraction and compatibility are different subjects in themselves, and relevant to the individual.

You’re not going to find anything about X color hair or Y type of body here, but you will learn that there are quite a few universal qualities that are attractive to just about everyone (outside of those with severe internal problems – leeches, parasites, users and abusers).

There are many similarities here to what you’d find in a great man.  The qualities themselves aren’t gender specific, but the intricacies of them can be.
A list containing great qualities a real woman can go on and on, but here are a solid ten that mostly anyone can appreciate and respect.

So many nights I think about all the things I need to  keep doing
to be a good woman! It gives me a headache!

1)  A Real Woman Is Confident

She is happy with herself and her own abilities.  She appreciates who she is as an individual, embraces her femininity and is proud to be a woman.

2)  A Real Woman Is Honest And Upfront

She recognizes the destructiveness behind undisclosed expectations.  She’s straight forward and respectful about setting boundaries and the tempo of her relationships early on.

3)  A Real Woman Has A Healthy Handle On Her Emotions

She knows it’s OK to feel down, bummed out, or really shitty that one week out of the month, but more importantly she knows how to weather the storm correctly.  If there are any shortfalls on the emotional front she recognizes them and adjusts accordingly.

4)  A Real Woman Is Strong And Independent

She is determined, driven and able to accomplish great feats.  Her ability to be so strong is derived from her own knowledge, intuition and ambition.

5)  A Real Woman Has Patience

For herself and those around her she knows how to play it cool.  In the face of adversity she is able to tap the proper resources to conquer any problem, instead of just giving up.

6)  A Real Woman Shares The Right Amount Of Drama

She has the right amount of drama to share with her man.  Positive and negative.  A great man will be always be there for her (to listen and understand), but anything above and beyond a certain threshold she know’s to dish with her girlfriend’s and not with him.

7)  A Real Woman Has A Defined Purpose 

Whether personally or professionally, she has great goals and desires.  She knows that with the right amount of inspiration and motivation anything is possible and is willing to do what it takes to make her dreams a reality.

8)  A Real Woman Is Secure

She’s comfortable in her own skin.  Jealousy, doubt and fear go out the window because she is confident in herself and her choice in a partner – as well as her partners choice in her.

9)  A Real Woman Is There

She represents a strong link in the chain that holds those close to her together.  She embraces the many roles she plays and is actively present as a mother, wife, girlfriend and friend.  When she’s needed the most, she is there.

10)  A Real Woman Values A Real Man

She appreciates and respects the value and worth of the men in her life.  She knows that part of being a great woman is recognizing and embracing the qualities of a great man.  She does not need a man in her life to be happy, but if she has one she stands by him.  She believes in his purpose and who he is – which makes going in the same direction with him that much easier.

In the end no matter if you are a REAL man or a REAL woman in other folks eyes. the Key to being real is to have K.I.S.S. principles.
A few  that are missing in the "keep it" group here are:
Keep it Loyal
Keep it Interesting
Keep it Sexy
Keep it Sensuous
Keep it Together
Keep it what you believe is real, really real
Keep it positive






And MOST IMPORTANT...  STOP IT  with the I will never(s)