Sex Myths That Keep some Women Single!

Let’s face it. Whether you're having it or not, sex does play an integral role in the world of dating today. Once you become sexually active, you begin to operate on certain assumptions about what you feel others are doing sexually, what men do and don’t want and what you believe sustains a committed relationship. Women are often confused because they don't have open conversations with each other... about who is getting the groove on and how often. so the Myths are as follows:

Myth 1: The Hookup Culture Is Everywhere

This is such a great hookup!

These days, pretty much everyone’s having sex while dating, right? Wrong! “The hookup culture is more of a  urban legend than reality. If you take 25 percent off the market, and then you look at what’s left over, you have this belief that most people are having more sex than they are. Men included! Since the perceptions exist, many women feel pressured to have sex well before they’re ready.

Makes sense, right? But what about all of the women you know who speak openly and vividly about their sexual escapades? It’s the talk that’s damaging, because it normalizes the practice. “These women engage in risky behavior because they think everyone is doing it. Here is  an interesting analogy for what she feels is the “high supply sexual economy” we live in today: I believe, when it comes to sex, there are two distinct dating markets: One ‘sells’ bulk sex at a low price, and that price could be the cost of a drink or a well worded sexy talk, and the other sells sex to a very narrow market. And these are women who charge a high ‘price’ for sex, and that price can be love, attention, care or/and long term commitment.

Myth 2: Sexual Chemistry Helps Relationships

We have such great chemistry!

When women are debating casual sex, many will say sexual chemistry is an important deal breaker for them. But, does it really determine whether your relationship will thrive or fail?  no-way! Many women believe that jumping into bed very early in a relationship is the best way to test sexual compatibility. I’m sure that we men created this myth! If this theory were true, the people who did not test their sexual chemistry before committing to each other would therefore have shorter less happy relationships.
It’s because sex confuses the brain. As soon as you get that rush of dopamine, you are not making good choices. You are not deciding if this is going to be a good partner for you, you are now diluted with feelings that he must be a good partner. Science says hot sex too early in a relationship is a prescription for disaster.

Myth 3: Women Have Sexual ‘Needs’

Ooh I wish, he was here in bed with me
instead of just hanging around  in my head

Women have their sexual “needs,” just like men do, right? Wrong again!  wanting sex is less physical and more psychological where women are concerned because they have very different sexual needs than men. Women respond to sexual opportunity. When women see a cute guy that they like, everything sort of turns on for them. But when women breakup from a sexual relationship, they are less likely to replace it with pornography and masturbation like a we guys would.

For women,  feeling turned on by a man has an important psychological component. It’s often an extension of their emotional need for companionship. Some research has found that women often desire to be desired, and that’s a whole lot different than a biological desire for any sex with anyone. Still need more proof?  ask yourself this, Why haven't drug companies been able to come up with a drug that enhances a woman's sexual libido, only men's? Ok they came out with the pink pill, but I have not seen any women that I know rushing to use it. Touché.

Myth 4: Sex Leads to Love and Longevity

I can't believe that we would be together this long?

There are many important and valid reasons to wait to have sex with a man you deeply care for, but here’s one that’s often overshadowed: Good sex doesn’t make him care for you any more than he did before you do it! Slightly more than half of women in their 20s 30s and even 40s believe that a sexual hookup can be a stepping stone to a serious relationship, but the research shows something entirely different. Having sex early on in a relationship, good or bad, is bad for the relationship. I found a study that showed that if you have sex within 30 days of meeting somebody, you have an 88 percent chance of breaking up within one year. Eighty-eight percent! But if you wait 31-90 days, you’ve got a one in four chance you’re going to be together a year later. Just like that, it rises 25 percent. OK Steve Harvey's 90 day wait... may have a point here!

We know what you’re thinking: What about the men who insist that intimacy will bring them closer to a woman? Are they full of it? Yes! The more sexual partners a man has had, the more he perceives diminished attractiveness in each new mate. Therefore, sex does not lead to love for a man. If a guy is a player, sex leads to disdain for the woman he just had sex with, because he’s looking for something that doesn’t exist, and he thinks he’s going to find it by having more sexual conquests. Men fall in love because of trust, not sex!

Myth 5: Promiscuity Can Be Turned Off

Tell me again how many sexual partners you  have  had before me.

Did you know that sleeping around now can and will create trouble for you when you decide to commit or marry? Real talk! Faithfulness is a learned behavior. “Many of the women I’ve spoke with told me that they’re just hooking up because they’re auditioning mates but they’re confident that when they commit they can be faithful. Again, the research doesn’t support this! These women are training their bodies to be future cheaters. We can train our body for almost anything. The only way to train for monogamy is either to abstain from sex, or be monogamous. Well being monogamous can lead to abstaining from sex <smirking>  in due time.

                                                                                                     Sexaholics are So Anxious ~ Ginuwine