Things You Should Stop Expecting From Other People

After reading the following I have to  admit that most things that have  gone  wrong in my relationships...... have been due to my  expectations  of  the person in my life.   

Misplaced and unrealistic expectations can lead to some of life’s greatest disappointments, particularly regarding relationships and encounters we experience with other people.  One of the greatest lessons you can learn in life is how to manifest expectations that are reasonable and realistic, helping both you and others avoid a world of frustration and suffering.

I was  so expected you to come though for me!

Expectation are always, I repeat ....always  unrealistic, because the thoughts are happening in your head and no one else's mind.  When you tell someone something that you want and what you expect from them, then you are putting a burden on them to comply with your wishes, and you will often be disappointed.  You don't know, or may not even care to know what restrictions the other person may have on them.. So you assume they will do what you want. Often enough they will not do exactly what you expect ..... OK maybe they might surprise you .... Let it be a good surprise just don't expect too much! 


Focus on the things that truly matter and stop expecting these  things from people:

Expecting everyone to agree with you

Want to start living a happier life?  Stop expecting people to agree with the way you’re living it.  You know what you want out of life and you’re going to chase after it in your own way, so don’t bother with what others have to say about it.

The more you seek approval from yourself, the less you seek it out from others.

Expecting people to respect you more than you respect yourself

Self-respect is a great strength in this world.  Knowing your values, and what you stand for, and not backing down when questioned about them, gives you a greater opportunity to be happy.

People will never give you the love, respect and attention that you deserve if you don’t first show it to yourself.  When you become a better version of yourself, everyone benefits, not just you.

I can't believe you just disagreed with me and just fell asleep,
I so hate you right now!

There are many rules that we live by, most likely  they were influenced by how we were raised. Our Parents gave us directives, and after leaving home we try to live within the lines  that our parent drew up for us. news rules....not everyone will even listen to you and agree automatically, unless they just want to shut you up and stop listening  about what  you are talking about. They might agree to dis-agree and not even tell you that they are secretly disagreeing  with you, OR they will tell you "NO" and just move one! 



Expecting people to like you

Expecting every person you come across to like you is just asking to be let down.  There are over 7 billion people on this planet and each one of them is just as unique as you are, and there are certain people you don’t like for whatever reason, right?

You know you’re a good person, that you’re worthy and generous and kind and caring.  There will always be someone who doesn’t like you, regardless of how you treat them, so let it be no concern of yours.

I <smile>  when I think about every times I tell someone the story about how my initials... came about, explaining about my dad's slick moves, and watch their reaction. First impressions are often deceiving. She might like Bad boy or not. She might  have little respect for men who admit their flaws. Or she might even be intrigued at the thoughts of all the naughty things you are capable of doing.   I even <smirk> when I remember how  often women disagree with me about my BAD persona....


Expecting people to know what’s on your mind

I so know what you are dreaming about right now,
 because you are smiling while you sleep.

The sad truth is that no one is capable of reading minds, so unless you tell people what you want, what you expect or what you need, there’s no way they could ever know any better.  Wishing and hoping isn’t worth anything without action.

You may never get that promotion at work or meet the love of your life if you never have the courage to take action.  And action can be as simple as speaking words.

The thoughts that flow through your mind are like a river, it's hard to stop the flow. So just imagine what someone else is trying to do when they are trying to read your thoughts.  So stop expecting folks to understand your emotions and even your behaviors and your spontaneous combustion .... Speak to them about what your dreams are and what your expectations are..... Assuming that someone knows what you are feeling/ dreaming /anticipating.  it makes it just too complicated.  



Expecting people to be ‘okay’ all of the time

Have you ever went into work one day and noticed that your usually cheery coworker is somber and drained?  It’s because all of us have problems and issues that we’re dealing with that no one else knows about.

Don’t just expect people to be happy and enthusiastic all the time, because many people have lost their reason to be.  Recognizing and acknowledging that they’re not okay and that that’s okay brings us together on a human level.

You expect me to be  "Okay" with every thing
  just because you are here whispering "Nothing  important" in my ear?!
think about that for a minute!

We are all emotional creatures.... Men think women are too emotional... while women think men are not emotional enough...
"If you are confuse about what you want to do in life, and you are undecided as to what path to take, don't be surprised when it feels as if you are going around in circles. The Universe is a mind reader!"~ Soul DNA
People spend a lot of time waiting-- waiting for opportunity. a new relationship, a direction or a sign. You can be bench-warmer waiting to be put in the game or you can put yourself in the game and create opportunity. You cannot score big while you are sitting on the sidelines!
The things that make you feel Okay are just yours and no one can make it happen  for you. They can help you along the way but they can't start and finish it for you. If they do then you might be thinking what gave your the right to push me to do things your way! hmmm....