10 Ways to Find Out if She is Making a Fool Out of You

It is difficult for most men (especially older men) to admit when they’re being strung along by a woman. For some, it’s a pride thing. For others, it’s about not knowing how to read the signs. Below are ten ways to tell whether she’s making a fool out of you.

The Text Trap
Who sends the first text? If you’re always contacting her first, you may be dealing with a woman who’s only in it for the thrill of being chased. Experiment with this by changing up your contact patterns – if you can stop contacting her and the frequency of your conversations drops precipitously, you’re probably being strung along.

Game on: when a man's game is tight, he know that he can test the game she is playing.... If you are to scared to try the above then you will not know if you are being played. 

The Friends and Family Plan
Do you know her friends and family? If you’ve been dating for more than a few weeks, you should have some contact with those she cares about. If you haven’t met anyone in her life, you should be a bit suspicious. She might be excited by the thrill of a secret relationship, sure, but it’s more likely there is some reason she’s keeping you secret.

Game on: When You have doubts, use the hail Mary pass... Plan a BBQ and have her invite her top 10 family members and friends... If she is proud of being with you she will jump at the chance to show that you are a great host, cook, entertainment comedian.. ore even and intellectual... 





Meaningful Titles
What do you call the person you date? If she introduces you to friends – and especially male friends – as just another friend, you know you’re being led on. Don’t let the “let’s not use labels” thing fool you if you’re not on the same page. If she’s interested in a relationship, the labels won’t matter. If she’s not, you’ll find that the labels are more carefully avoided.

Game on: You don't need a title you need confirmation that she likes and may even love you... there are  many ways to find out. get creative in how you deal with introduction.. For example... Introduce yourself as .... and see how she reacts.  If she react with that look " Are you kidding me?" then you know that title is not the one she was planning to give you. It may be too soon!  

The Switch
One of the most common relationship stereotypes is that women tend to run hot and cold. In reality, you can tell how much someone cares for you by how they act towards you. If she’s only interested in you when you’re not available or when you’re pulling away, you’re looking at someone who is only interested in your attention rather than in your company.

Game on: A guy who is over 5'9"  is most often taller that most women, Put yourself in a position where you have to look up at her. If you feel small by the way she treats you ... stand up and get ready to exit... her reaction at that point would give you a clear picture.. as to where you stand with her. 

Double Time
There’s nothing wrong with playing the field. With that said, a woman who’s still dating other guys probably isn’t going to be relationship material. If your honest, this isn’t something you can pin on her at all – you knew what you were getting into when you started dating. It’s a good sign that she’s not invested in a long-term relationship, though, if she’s got someone else on the side.

Game on: What a man knows VS what he Assumes.. is like walking around with blindfolds with a  pin hole in it.  Don't be surprise when the pin hole reveals what you thought was or wasn't the truth..

Memory Match
Does she remember the little things? While it’s a staple of sitcoms to have a forgetful partner, those of in the real world have an amazing memory for those about whom they care. If she can’t remember the little things like your favorite band (or bigger things, like your middle name), it’s very likely that she isn’t as invested in you as you are in her.

Game on: The look you get from her during a Skype session when you ask a question about things you remember and she does not... is a dead give away. If you are not feeling the same about things accept it for what it is!    

Avoiding the Issues

As much as it’s nice to look for signs of being lead on, the only surefire way to know what’s going on is to ask. The great thing about this is that you’ll know one way or another even if she doesn’t give you a straight answer. A woman who won’t tell you if she’s leading you on probably has something to hide, so pay attention to what she doesn’t say.

Game on: A prosecutor will ask questions he already knows the answer to... looking for a different answer or the  reversed confirmation is just being delusional..... women are transparent most of the time, they will not hide their true feeling for very long.   

Always Later

“Maybe later” – these are power play words, to be sure. It’s a great way of saying no, but keeping your  interest. You know she’s leading you on if she always makes sure to rebuff your plans with the promise of doing something in the nebulous future. Unless you get a precise date, you might as well accept the fact that she’s got no real interest.

Game on: This is when men need to realize, you are going after someone above your pay-grade, status position or even worse yet wrong culture. She might be curious about you but not enough so to get to know what you are really about. Moon walk slowly away.  

The Neat Freak

Is she overly concerned about whether you leave stuff at her place? Is she careful to make sure nothing of hers ends up at yours? If so, you’ve got a clear example of a woman who’s trying not to get too close.

Game on:  OCD women are not freaks, if you find one that she is neat and organized don't freak-out.... she might be just what your therapist might recommend to put your life in order. However if she is a slob you might want to be   a bit more careful about how your life will change if you two were to get  together for a long term relationship. she will not change so you will be force to be the one who has to clean up and tidy up  all the time....

The Not Right Now

As made famous by How I Met Your Mother, this is one of the key phrases that you can use to determine if a woman is leading you on. If you’re looking to get serious, she’ll let you know that she’s not looking for a relationship – at least, not right now. This is a method of keeping you on the hook, and it’s a clear sign that she’s leading you on.

Game on: having an engagement ring ready.. can be a good thing if you and your lady are on the same page. Women expect a ring.. Some guys think it's waste of money to make the investment. But if you think you are going in that direction and she is not feeling it. don't push you will know in due time if "not right now" becomes "Now I'm ready!"   <smirking> have your jeweler call her and ask if the ring fit??