Here are some signs that you are destined to be together....well maybe for awhile!

Being crazy in love is one of the most magical experiences in our lives. Questions rise when you meet someone new: To stay or not to stay? Is s/he the one or not? Are we compatible? Can this be my soulmate? You don’t always know if you are meant for each other. Sometimes is just as simple as stepping back and opening up your heart to what’s in front of you.

1. You can be vulnerable.

“What happens when people 
open their hearts?
They get better.” ~ Haruki Murakami

When you allow yourself to open up you are living authentically. You get to be raw and real deal . There is beauty in accepting your flaws and that of another. Owning each others’ stories is freeing. It’s in that vulnerability that true love flourishes. If you can share and bear your soul without feeling scrutinized or criticized, this person is a keeper.

BAD experience: Being vulnerable is over-rated... I see that as giving someone the key and permission to break your heart... OK  maybe they will not do you any harm, but you are going to be anxious thinking about it. Be open and receptive... being too vulnerable is just not always the best way to allow someone access to your heart. 

2. You respect each other.

“The moment you put someone 
on a pedestal they will look down upon you.
The trick is respecting each other equally.”
~Teresa Mummert

Mutual appreciation requires a mature level of trust and respect. Respect requires honesty. The truest form of love is how you behave with another in a relationship. In that state of respect you get to share things that you wouldn’t tell anyone. Respect is earned. When you are in a relationship that provides safety and security, you have found your match.

BAD experience: Mutual respect is never really mutual, it is conditional... Respect me and I will respect you is more the norm. the question is who respects the other first, and who respects the other most ... these thoughts will be flashing in the back of each of your minds. As soon as one feels dis-respected  the  trouble starts and mutual respect and appreciation  is history! 

“Insecure people only eclipse your sun because
 they’re jealous of your daylight and tired of their dark,
 starless nights.”~Shannon L. Alder

3. You are not jealous.

You crave time with each other but also require ample space. There is no jealousy in the relationship because you still remain individuals. There is no strain for past insecurities because you feel at ease with, and without, each other all the time. You spend time with friends and apart. Each time you reconnect it is rewarding. There is no co-dependency or possessiveness. You crave to be with each other but it is important to have freedom of expression and separate interests.

BAD experience: Oooh hell, let's talk about this one and put in the area of contradictions. It's human nature to have some jealous feelings, some passiveness, some insecurities.. some frustrations because the other person is less than perfect..... all your wants and  needs will not be met.. Trust me!  

“No one can be your sun, moon,
or stars until you have your own world.”
~ K.M.Docherty

4. You laugh together.
Being silly comes natural. You can poke fun at each other. Laughter is ever present in your relationship. Many times these type of relationships start as friends. You value each other enough to be yourself. It’s a healthy place. If you can laugh at yourself, with your partner, without holding back the sarcasm, you have something that is beyond special.  These types of relationships are destined to be easy.

BAD experience: Having the giggles, is so school girl and boy like. It can be diagnosed as nervous energy overflow.... Spontaneous joke telling resulting in laughter on the other hand is a good thing. Don't confuse the two.i.e. No one wants to be subject of your jokes.. it stops being funny almost instantly. Poking fun at yourself can also bring into question why is what I' doing to myself so damn funny to you!  



5. You raise each other.

As Psychologist Carl Jung said,“
The meeting of two personalities is like
 the contact of two chemical substances:
 if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”

You bring each other to the best possible versions of yourselves. You become explorers and adventurers in finding ways to bring joy to one another. You accept everything without feeling judged. It’s in these type of relationships that the best is enhanced. If your relationship is based on admiration and inspiration for each other, you have found a gem in your life.

There is no set manual for relationships but these signs will help get you started. Ultimate, your heart will let you know when you find Mr. or Mrs. Right. Sometimes it might take a few Mr. or Ms. Right-Now to teach you what you want in a partner.

BAD experience: you raise children, you partner with someone you have in your life as a mate, and then you grow together in separate areas. It is never equal. It will always be lopsided.  60-40, 55-45, 30-70, 80-20, even 50-50 is still slightly out of balance, because over time it will become  50.2 - 49.8  this will become  more of reality. 

Final word.