Experiencing goodbyes can make one question things you only think about at that moment.

if I could have said the right things that would have made her say..."I have to go now, but I will be back, soon!" 

She's leaving on a Jetplane,
I don't know if she'll be back again

You meet her and she is a Jet-setter. You are not! So what do you do? Go with her every time she wants to go on trip... or sit back and wonder if she will be back?????
Well the  World has changed women are more Jet-setters than men these days. I have to admit I'm a bit jealous at times ... because I kind of miss those days where I would meet my friends at cool spots in major cities on a Friday evening, and hang for the weekend. For  example  I would travel from Florida to Atlanta, New Orleans, Chicago, N.Y. as just a few quick trips. But that is when things are going well for two people but if they are no longer a couple.. then goodbye means just that "Good Bye! I will not be back !"

The following are a few points to think about if you are thinking goodbye is on the horizon.

Knowing  When To Go! 

If things are over, then let them be over!

Is It  Just Time To Walk Away?
The biggest mistake a woman and a man  can make in a relationship is staying in a bad one too long. Not all relationships are worth holding on to, especially those that keep you from moving forward and living your best life. If one of these things applies to your current relationship, it’s time to leave it in the past.

My BAD perspective:  all too often we let things just continue deteriorating  between two people simply because we don't want to end things... that just should be ended. Yeah, it might hurt a bit., but staying together will hurt a whole lot more in the long run... You never know what happiness is just around the corner or at the end of a trip.  

You're Saving For Two, They Saving For None

If the only person regularly contributing to your joint savings is you, then you  are already proving they ares not ready to be a team player. You should both be invested in your future$.

My BAD perspective: In the world where men handled all of the finances for years, this transition, of mutual contributions and distribution of funds can be tricky. Expectations can lead to misunderstandings. women these day have as much as..... or maybe even more net income opportunities as men. you both should be saving together it will never be 50-50 but equal contributions should be based on an understanding/ agreement.  

They Have Trouble Being Happy For You If They are Not Happy For themselves

If the person in your life  can’t celebrate your victories because they doesn’t have any of their own to share, then they’ll never be able to root for you......... when you need them most.

My BAD perspective: Happiness is an internal feeling, if a person can't turn that switch to "on" he will not be able to  be happy for someone else. If he is jealous of your accomplishments he  will never ever see your accomplishments as mutually beneficial.   




Their  Friends Come First
Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but they should still prefer to spend the most quality time with you. Remember: A boy needs his boys, and a girl needs her girls,  a man needs his woman and she needs her man. 

My BAD perspective: Growing up is hard to do when your friends are not acting grown... very often the problems between couples start with folks setting the wrong priorities for themselves and their mates..... too much influenced by friends.



They are Actually Kind Of  Haters

When you have good news or positive emotions  to share and the first thing out of his/her mouth is usually more negative than positive, they are  haters, and not a true partner. Case closed.

My BAD perspective: When negativity is the first  response......... to good news........ that you share with a partner.... you should read it for what it is they are not happy for you or your news. Don't let that person steal your joy. 

They Can't Be Faithful
A man who cheats usually does so because he doesn’t appreciate or value the woman he’s cheating on. Why waste another second being devoted to someone who can’t be loyal?

My BAD perspective: Disloyally has more to do with their lack of values than them valuing you, they don't value themselves either. when people choose a destructive  path... that leads no where. they are not planning to have great results in the end.  

They Acts More Like  Children  Than Your spouse

You should never feel like your spouse parent. If you find yourself lecturing him/her and nurturing him/her more than just loving him/her, it’s time to find someone who’s mature enough to be one part of a team.

You Have To Compromise Your Happiness For His/hers 
This should absolutely never, ever, ever happen. If it is, it’s time to put an end to this madness today. S/He should be happiest when you both are.

My BAD perspective: Dilution has more to do with folks lack of value in themselves so they become dependent on you , they don't value themselves enough (they would tell you different, they are Rock Stars in their own minds so you must cater to their needs. ) When people choose " a fix it  for me"   path...  they are not planning to have great results in the end, because they don't charge of their own lives..