OK Ladies, just take a breath and exhale. It's not all BAD!

Why are some men so intimidated by black women? These women are not making this up. Often times, if black women are accomplished(this number is growing every year), they’re seen as too independent, and if they don’t have an established career and completely cater to a man’s needs, they’re often looked at as “gold diggers.” Black Women can’t win! Black women are wonderful (some of us black men  know this) but somehow many of our brothers often believe that dating a sister is no longer “in style” for Black men.
I recommend reading "Strong Women Only Intimate Weak Men" ~ Farrah Gray

He had the nerve to say I'm no fun to be with!

Black Women don't seem as much "Fun"
Unfortunately Black women often have so many things they are trying to juggle that it can sometimes become second nature to not smile or take a moment to say 'hello.' Fun can take a backseat when they’re fighting to pay bills, continue their education and make a name for themselves. Because of this, some Black men believe that women of other races maintain a more light, airy “fun girl” approach to love in their adult years, which they ultimately find more attractive. They feel that after a while, black women focus shifts from being the "fun girlfriend" to being more practical instead and solely concerned with insuring the house is clean, meals are made and children are taken care of. Those things are very important, of course, but remember that relationships need full-time nurturing and maintenance too.

The idea of what is fun is subject to interpretation... what's fun for one is not fun for another.... take that into consideration... common interest, common goals and compromise are keys to having fun and being open to new experiences with each other.    

Black Women Look Like We Can't Be Bothered

To be honest when I sat down you looked
like you didn't want to be bothered

I’ve heard brothers  say that Black women often come across as if  they don’t want to be bothered when they’re out and about in public. Whether in a store or leaving the office, they often appear more focused on what’s ahead or the next stop and not on meeting someone new.

Every man who has pride  assumes that an unfriendly look means "don't bother talking to me!" But he could be wrong in his assumption. Women who are looking forward to seeing when their superman will arrive, are missing out on the guys who are actually looking up to them. Let him know that it's OK to engage you in a light polite conversation. He might be an alright dude, even if he isn't your dream Mr. Right!   

Black Women "Don't Offer Enough Support"
Is there some truth to the perception that some women  can overlook a Black man or not be as uplifting because instead black women think that men  need to have already arrived before they give them a chance? Some brothers seriously think so, and feel they’ve seen evidence of it early on within relationships. They often say they feel more supported by women of other ethnicity earlier on in their careers and during their college years.

OK he didn't come with "satisfaction Guarantee"
 but he has potential. Just needs to put in some work!

With black women out numbering  black men in the areas of higher learning and careers in more prominent jobs, they will find themselves in tougher positions when it comes to relationships with men who (in their minds) don't have as much to offer...Once again the arrival of your version of superman is a movie you may never experience. Just take off your virtual reality glasses and see things for what they really are...... you, dear lovely lady, are one of many... and being smart and beautiful just makes you one more  of many.... you are not alone... you will  have comp. they are trying to find Mr. Right...too!  

Black Women are "More Inhibited" Sexually

If you think getting me drunk  will grant you things 
 to your advantage ..... think again!

Often Black women have been raised to keep their poise and act like a lady at all times, especially in public and while under pressure. However, Black men think they love the freedom and ability to know their woman can be flexible and go with the flow in certain more spontaneous situations. And that may mean feeling comfortable enough to act out his wildest fantasies knowing he won’t be judged for asking.

OK blame this one on black men's virtual reality glasses..... wanting what we think we want, this can be in sharp contrast to what a black women are  willing to go along with... adjustment and compromise are needed to make things work for both.





Black Women Want What they Want

When it comes to settling, they’re usually not the ones. If they’ve taken the time to work hard they often want someone with the same drive or better (he better be 6’1” or taller, attractive, have a minimum of a bachelor’s degree, God-fearing, and have passport will travel), and so often they would rather wait for this man who meets all of their requirements based on their achievements which is not always in abundance depending on where in the country they live. Is every single item on your list all that important? Maybe, maybe not. But it is something to think about.

I'm  reviewing  how much we
 have spent on just stuff  this month

A flash back: we men also want what we want ... well  I happen to be 6'1", have a bachelor of science degree from a very good N.E. university, God loving,   but I don't kid myself that I'm what most women want. OK I have traveled a whole lot in my past so I have a Worldly view... but that was  mainly because of my ex-wife (credit to her)  who just wanted to go to exotic places all of the time, so we went. Her Airlines benefits made traveling as a family  possible and very cost effective. I have this thing now... where when I see the  prices of plane tickets I start back pedaling. I have no problem paying for accommodations, meals and all other expenses, simply because I've always paid for those things. but I never paid high prices  for the plane tickets (and I don't want to do it now either)..Well I can be convinced if the right person really wants to go some place I've never been.   


Black Women Friendliness Is Often Misunderstood

OK this smile does not mean I'm all that interested in you!

If they do say hello to a man, sometimes they automatically assume they want a romantic relationship with him whereas if a woman of another ethnicity says a random hello, wants to network, or plays the damsel in distress role he often feels less threatened and more willing to share. It’s really more their problem than ours, but unfortunately we often appear “desperate” to men when we are being friendly because there’s an assumption that we’re always on the hunt for a husband. It’s sad, but true in their eyes.

The big miss-reading that we men do... is assuming a smile  equals  flirting.  
Maybe that comes from the fact that many black women want to show they are disinterested from the start (getting rid of flies)..... Not even giving a new potential friendship a chance. So when one attractive woman  smiles, the green light is instantly  flashing in our minds,  go get her..... before she change her mind.....but that light will turn red without even being yellow for a second... if you overstep your bounds.Tread lightly Dudes! 

Are you serious you want to marry me!

Black Women Put The "Pressure" On
I’ve heard other Black men say that they feel that with other women it’s kind of a “just go with the flow” situation as relationships progress. There’s not as much pressure on him to marry until he’s ready, but often they feel Black women are focused on marriage from the start – as maybe they should be. Yet another example of something  they’re often judged for that is actually not a negative dating quality.

Only a fool would think that women , black or otherwise are into just hooking up, have sex and not planning to get married. I've know women who were not interested in getting married they were major exceptions... These women are usually not interested in getting married because of some previous experience(s).