YOU have Trust Issues? Maybe Infidelity Isn't the only Problem!

The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” – Ernest Hemingway

 Don't you know it  the subject that always comes up in conversation when you talk to someone who broke up with an ex...?

Cheating!!!!!
Everything goes back to cheating. If he doesn’t reply to your text right away he’s probably  cheating. If she wants to know how much money you make she’s cheating. If he or she is breathing, they’re cheating. Really?!?

"Every man who cheats belongs in prison"
I bet many women agree that is the only fitting punishment.

People cheat, but not everyone or every issue, for that matter, is tied to infidelity.(this what folks are are talking about when the word "cheating" is used) Many of us know this fact, but somehow find ourselves partaking in conversations that blame cheating for one’s unhappy  issues.
Why does cheating almost always manage to be the reason for every single relationship issue? I asked this question...because I hate being accused of something I didn't do. Lying is cheating, cheating is lying... these have become the label of all that we don't like about a person... which means we want what we want and if we can't get it from someone they are lying and cheating. Hmmm!
It’s all that we seem to know.
Because we’re all suffering from PTSD due to some form of infidelity.
Well it’s because men cheat. F*** em ( well you did, multiple times!)
Hmmm,  we all need to realize that we want someone to be exactly how we want them to be.... and it  will NEVER EVER Happen. You will never get them to be who you want them to be, act how you want them to act or be that stellar person. Your trust issues are your issues, you abandonment issues are your issues, yourself esteem issues are your issues.  Get over them or you will never be happy with someone in your life. OK I digress.
I read some of the following in different articles so  I decide to share them.

When you handcuff a person, base on you fears,  before you even start
 a real relationship you  have convicted then  to life in  your prison !

LET ME TELL YOU WHY MEN CHEAT!
One woman flat out disregarded the question and went into a whole monologue about why men cheat, will always cheat, and what women can do to prevent men from cheating.
The responses to the  question did not reveal her  ignorance, but pain. People can only speak from their place of experience, and for many of us, our reality is full of lies, manipulation, sabotage and well…cheating.

But everything is not a direct result of cheating.

We live in a world full of contradictions. We’re told to love freely and openly, but to “keep our guard up.” We’re told that the only way to be happy is to live life on your own terms, but are labeled as “different,” “odd” or “crazy” when we do. As a result, we attempt to predict the actions of others in hopes of not getting hurt. We learn to expect and depend on disappointment. And by doing so, we usually expect the worst in people.
Sometimes he sends a ton of text messages because he prefers to text instead of talk. Perhaps you haven’t met her family yet not because you’re the side piece, but because she has a history of bringing romantic interests around too soon. In order to find someone worthy of trusting, you must be a trustworthy person. What I mean by that is that we must first trust ourselves.
Whenever you make the conscious decision to develop a relationship with your intuition, you’re granting yourself permission to trust your judgment. You’re not allowing fear and past circumstances to dictate your present, and you’re able to judge each person on one factor alone: who they are as an individual.

The problem isn’t that people cheat; the problem is that many people think that everyone cheats. And as many times as I say this isn’t true, someone will cite the numerous examples of their brother, sister, cousin, mama, uncle and nephew cheating. They will constantly relive the moment they caught the love of their life cheating back in ’07. They will build a case so strong that no one can penetrate it, and use it to refuse to give love a chance. They will hurt themselves by not allowing someone worth loving to love them.
And they will continue to believe that this poisonous ideology is “protecting” them from harm.
At some point, we have to make the decision to allow love to win, and it begins with trust. I’m not telling you to just trust any-ole-body, but if a romantic interest has not given you a reason to doubt his or her validity, then don’t. Ask yourself, how well has thinking the worse of people actually served you?

When a relationship ends we dwell on the past, on what could have been, on all the promises broken and lies told. But healthy relationships, even when they end, should leave you with more optimism than pain. If you truly loved your partner you should accept that he or she is in a better place and therefore so are you. 
Now, stop feeling sorry for yourself and get out there and enjoy life. I can assure you that your Ex has moved on and is having a blast! Don't Wait To Be Happy! ~ Michael Baisden