Are you making things very stressful for yourself ?

According to most medical experts, the things that creates stress are called stressors...there are two typs of stressors internal and external. An external stressor can be for example... a phone call at 10:00 pm from a ex- lover..one youve been trying to get out of your life for some time. She throws a  "I had a baby girl and you're the daddy I was pregnant when you left me ." curve ball at you.

You have your dad's eyes sweetie, but you have my hair!

An Internal stressor arise from circumstances that you create. Picture a situation where your current lover/ fiance  calls you and says he needs to meet with you..... to discuss something very urgent... A week before your wedding.....By the time you two meet, you imagine every conceivable thing that could be wrong. At the conclusion of your meeting, you find that all of those terrible possibilities were much worse than the actual problem

Why are you tripping?
I told it's not that bad...

Your immagination became your enemy because you fed it negative thoughts, and it responded in a like manner you can be your own worst enemy when it comes to internal stressors------another example: you can take the experiences from the past and rehash those memories therefore creating internal stressors in your life.

Not this again!

Now stress can also work the other way--- especially when you underestimate the severity of a problem. So here you have a problem of that ex- girl friend  who has faked situations in the past to get your attention... So you dismissed this current communication of  "we.need to talk"as another easy probem to solve i.e. fake news. But it's not "fake news ".. This new situation is nothing like the other  mess she brought to you in the past...bringing more pressure and aggrevation than you expected. This also is true of the way you talk about your circumstances. sometimes your talk can be so negative that you create addiional stress. I.e. you stretch your Stressor. If you were just to deal with your problem openly and positively you'd solve it. But if you continually talk about negative stuff generating stressors and make your situation worse.. Dont stress yourself out. Dont stretch your problems out of proportion. And never sweat the things that other throw at you..that result in you being knocked off stride.
Learn to deal with them in a constructive manner.

There has to be a better way!