It's a heavy lift if she has self-esteem issues..

Why are you so unhappy?
Is there anything I can do to help?

It kinda breaks my heart (just a little) to see certain people (Women) complaining that they cant find the right person to love, when its so clear to me that reason they cant, is because they have some serious self-esteem issues to work on first. They are barking up the entirely wrong tree. They shouldnt be looking for a PARTNER-- they should be looking for a therapist. So many people think that having a relationship will fix their low self-esteem and personal problems. Or they think that they are the one exception to the rule that states you really cant find a good relationship with low self-worth. Here are a few reasons you should first fix your issues:

You'll attract people who want to keep you down.

There are people who prey on those with low self-worth. You could wind up attracting alot of these loosers/ predators. These individuals also tend to have their own self-esteem issues, and keeping you down makes them feel better about themselves.

You might also attract someone who will get tired of keeping you up.

At first he is a knight in shining amor who genuinely see the good in you and wants to lift you up. But they'll grow tired of having to wipe off their armor and come to your rescue every single day. Nobody can handle that forever.

People with low self-worth question themselves when they are upset.


You will not trust yourself when you are upset in a relationship. The moment you think you are angry with your lover, you'll tell yourself you are not---- that you are being overly sensitive. This usually results in a very emotionally distant relationship.

Jealousy can become a huge problem

Its very hard to be in a relationship when you have low self- worth and not be tremedously jealous. You typically tell yourself you arent good enough, and now you have to ask yourself if you are better than the woman your lover is talking to.

Your lovers victories will worry you.

So your raise makes your income
double of what I make !? 

Rather than be happy for your lover when something good happens to him- youll just worry if he is becoming too good for you.

You will not take critism well

Your partner will not be able to give you even the smallest note critism because he worries that constructive critism will be miss interpreted...... And could destroy you for days.

You'll require constant reassurance.

You need. Your lover to constantly reassure you that he is happy with you, that he wants to be in this relationship, that he truly loves you, that he finds you attractive, that hes glad to spend his Monday- Sunday nights with you...it will get to be too much for him.

For self reassurance. You might unintentionally seek out other attention.

Would like to go for a drink
After you finish training ?

Without even realizing it, you may cross the line with other men. You might let in Appropriate comments slide. You may accept a drink from a man you know is more than just casually interested in you. subconsciously, you desperately need exterior validation so you dont have boundaries with other men.

You cant even recognize real love.

You dont even really appreciate. A great partner because you are so unhappy on the inside. You may not even praise or thank your partner very often, because you cant even feel his love for you.

Out of desperation---- you'll settle for anybody.

How in the World did
 I settle  for this looser?

Truly, when you have low self-worth, you also have very low standards. You are looking for any outside validation you can get and so you endup in another crappy relationship.