The art of negotiating the deal you can live with

Ladies..... you  don't get the results you deserve you get the results you NEGOTIATE!
So what does negotiations have to do with LOVE in longterm relationships?

The following will display my thoughts:

You can Negotiate anything, i.e. the terms of getting together with your future  lover
Everyone wants something..... you want something too. You have to be able to talk someone else into doing what you want. And be willing  to compromise when the odds are not stacked totally in your favor. I.e you are attractive, but so is he.. ++ you look good together. You sound intelligent and he does too.., so.. you make a perfect couple...hold it.....not so fast. What will be the terns of your  potentially longterm life together... here is where you bring your terms and conditions to the table. Be assertive and point out "your wants' and your needs. Have a "my future, my choice attitude."

Start speaking using friendly term.

Sometime we think of negotiations  as WAR,  when you are trying to find a happy ending, you want to start with kindness laughing is a great ice breaker ( cracking jokes) it brings warmth into the talks between you and the other person...... you know something about him, fits the dreams you have. That person needs to feel  as a willing contributor... not a reluctant  one. Trust me, we men  will make up our minds about persuading you that we will do the right things if your terms are solid points.

Keep a Poker Face

Are you sure
you can handle me?

This might sèem like a contradiction to the previous point, but it's not... friends play poker and bluff.. with a smile, all the time..... i.e you are trying to keep the other person guessing as to how many cards you have in your possesion that they want .
As a A+ woman you have the most to gain if you don't give away what you want to   use as leverage..... giving you an advantage longterm i.e. you have an executive position  in your personal life... and have, already aquire some assets, and liabilities, you need to negotiate how you will share your assets, and get help with lowering you outstanding debt on your liabilties.  Guess what he is also thinking the same way... this  is where compromise moves to the front of the line.

Dont make the First Offer and Dont Negotiats with Yourself.

Think about this... for minute
most women almost never make the first moves, but if you do then you don't want to offer what you want to use as leverage later.i.e. he wants to have you in his life, have babies that look like the both of you... his list of wants don't exactly matches yours..at the moment... Negotiating with your self is second guessing yourself during your talks...you may want to stick to having moment of silence..... where you let the wheels turn and you think about where you can have that happy crossover to his wants and your want... your needs and his needs... need to come to a point of compromise.

A great way to augment your negoiation by Bundling.

You have heard of BoGo, this is always a good deal. It's slightly different to GoGo... which make things work out even beter... let me explain; BoGo  is Buy one Get one, where as GoGo is Give one Get one.... the best deal for an unselfish relationship.

Barter.

Do you have assets that might be of interest to the other person you are negotiating with. You can only know this if you negotiate smartly. I'll leave it at that.

Use Silence and Time as a Tactic.

Don't jump to the idea that you are ready to put the keys to Your happiness in someone else's Pocket.... i.e. they are your key. Make it a negotiations point to moving forward or bailing out.

Be willing to Walk Away.

Hmmmm... but but ....he is perfect for you.... So how can You  just walk........ if it's "ideally perfect" then you are dillusional. Nothing is perfect it should always be  "compromisingly perfect"

Keep it Light

Negotiations should not be confrontational... if you bring hostile thought to the table  you will blow it.

Use written Communication when possible.

What can I post that will make him
think about me as an
 happy forever after, equal partner.

We are in the information age, you text and post using Social Media ALL the time... use it to get the person to notice what is so special about you, and communicate with the other person and get that potential "GoGo person" to reveal what is special about them.