The Brutally honest truth ....part Two.

You mesh well together
when you are in love!

The Brutally Honest Difference Between Loving Someone And Being In Love.

Loving Is a Rush (it's conditional),Being In Love Has Many Emotions: There are many highs and lows with being in love. The problem is they do not balance each other in a way that makes you feel good all the time. The love can last for a while, but the second there is a problem, it could all go away. It’s like a rollercoaster ( that strange feeling in the pit of your stomach) but the problem is that the ride eventually ends. But if you are in love with someone, no matter what happens in the relationship, you never feel like things are crashing and burning. The reason is you know that you and your partner will find a way to figure things out because you both are in love with each...... you for me, and me for you!

Loving Means How The Person Makes You Feel ( conditional), Being In Love Means How You Make Them Feel (unconditional). This is one common mistake people often make when it comes to love. When someone is asked, “Why do you love this person?” They often respond with “I like how they make me feel.” That answer is fine, but it doesn’t mean you are in love with the person, it just means you love them, as long as the conditions continue to make you feel the way you want them to feel. If you are more concerned about how you make your partner feel, then it is true love, you are willing to change the conditions to make them feel the way you want then to feel. You could say that true love means being unselfish and putting your partner before yourself.



Loving Often Means Ownership, Being In Love Is A Partnership: When you love someone, you want the whole world to know that they are yours, so you label them and make them your property (my lover, my wife, my boo) You constantly need them to tell you that they are your girlfriend/boyfriend, and you also need them to constantly tell you that they are yours. When you are in love, labels such as boyfriend and girlfriend do not matter. Both of you do acknowledge that you are an item, but you both do agree that you are your own person.


Loving Is An Uphill Battle, Being In Love Is Simply Effortless: Often, you will hear someone complain about their relationship. They will say things like “it shouldn’t be this hard,” and there is some truth to that. Naturally, if you really are in love with someone, things shouldn’t be difficult. You shouldn’t have to work overtime to get the spark back or try to stop fighting, these things should never be a problem. I’m not saying that being in love with someone will all be roses and rainbows in the sky, but I am saying that the love aspect should never take work. Also, after a rocky month or two, you will still be in love with the person if it is real. Your feelings will have changed, but for the better, because you will feel even closer to your partner.

My son once told me: "I can't picture myself with someone else...."
Today he is happier with someone else...
I would   say... I knew he  temporarily loved, her and others. However that period of his life is behind him... and  his current lady... is who he sees a future with.