Male Validations!

A woman has a hard time letting a man love her due to the same circumstances.

Women often think they are being validated by men, all of the time. But seldom do they think how men feel when they are validating men, and disapproving of men.
When a man makes a mistake or forgets to do an errand or fulfill some responsibility, a woman doesn't realize how sensitive he feels, when she snaps at him. This is a when he needs her love the most, but gets dissed. To withdraw her approval at this point causes him extreme internal pain, he goes into his cave, but can NOT stay there in "peace." She may not even realize she is doing it. She may think she is just feeling disappointed, but he feels her disappointment and feel it's her disapproval. One of the ways women unknowingly communicate disapproval is in their eyes and tone of voice, they ignore you, even shuts you out. We men have to try and understand the differences between how she feels and how we should feel in those cases. The words she chooses may be less loving, and her look and the tone of her voice can wound a man, like a bullet, to the vital artery. His defensive reaction is to make her feel wrong, in her action. He invalidates her and justifies himself. Not a  Coalition builder moment.

So when does a man not clap back, when feeling wounded?
Men are most prone to argue when we make a mistake or upset the woman we love. If a man disappoints a woman, he wants to explain to her why she should not be so upset. He thinks his reason will help her to feel better. What he doesn't know is that if she is upset. what she needs most is to be heard and validated. once again we misinterpreted each other's intention or communication of emotions. Wise men old enough to have some experience in these areas can assist you to understand, this communication mishap, fellahs. Your boyz can not because they are clueless!