Nice Girls Always Finish Single!

OK don't come my way, I'm not interested in your lines!

OK before you start hating this blogger for saying this caption, please allow me to disclaim....  it's the title of a book. I got for free from Bookbud, Amazone.com.
However, I have some thoughts on the subject.  
this post is for A woman who is satisfied with her life and is not necessarily looking for romance.... but is still thinking that romantic love may still be a viable option. You know that All-consuming love! you no long thing possible at this stage in life.

So you weren't looking for romance, but you found love, anyway!

OK, folks lets go through some of the things that Single women fear most which can cause them to avoid making themselves available to men who might be interested in them.

The Four F's for avoiding hurt.
There are basically four stances that individuals take to avoid getting hurt in relationships. They are Fights, Flight, Fake,  and Fold.

Fights.  
This stance definitely comes from Mars. When a conversation becomes unloving and unsupportive some individuals instinctively begin to fight. They immediately move into an offensive stance. Their motto is " the best defense is a strong offense." They strike out by blaming, judging, criticizing, and making their partner or potential partner look wrong. They tend to start yelling and express lots of anger. Their inner motive is to intimidate their partner into loving and supporting them. When their partner back down, they assume they have won, but in truth, they have lost... because potential partners flee, without looking over their shoulder.

Flight.
This stance also comes from Mars. To avoid confrontation Men may retire into their caves and never come out. This is like a cold war. They refuse to talk and nothing gets resolved. This [passive-aggressive behavior is not the same as taking a time-out and then coming back to talk and restore things in a more loving fashion. Men can be afraid of confrontation, as some women might be also, and would rather lie low and avoid talking about any topic that may cause an argument. They walk on eggshells in a relationship. Women commonly complain they have to walk on eggshells, but men do also. It is so ingrained in men that they don't even realize how much they do it.

Fake.
This stance comes from Venus, To avoid being hurt in a confrontation this person pretends that there is no problem. She puts a smile on her face and appears to be very agreeable and happy with everything. Over time, however, these women become increasingly resentful; they are always giving to their partner but they do not get what they need in return. This leads to resentment, which blocks the natural expression of love.

Fold.
This stance also comes from Venus. Rather than argue this person gives in. They will take the blame and assume responsibility for whatever is upsetting their partner. In the short run, they create what looks like a very loving and supportive relationship. but they end up losing themselves. To please their partners or even potential partners, they intuitively sense their partners' desires and then mold themselves in order to please. Eventually, they resent having to give up themselves for what seemed like love at some point in the beginning. 

Rejection.
Any form of rejection is very painful because they are already rejecting themselves so very much. They seek to avoid rejection at all costs and want to be loved by all. In the process, they literally give up who they are. 

Final thoughts.
My take on some of the biggest problems that have caused the wrong impressions is due to not reading each other properly, and not taking the time to understand the opposite sex. Men don't understand women, and women don't understand men.
Here are a few examples. the hidden reasons men argue: 

• Men don't like it when women get upset over the smallest things they do or don't do. Men feel criticized, rejected and unappreciated. 

So what do men need not to feel the way women are capable of making men feel? 
Men need to feel accepted just the way they are. Instead, men feel women are trying to improve them (change them into her view of who they should become because this is who women want men to become... to make them happy.
last but most important... 

• Men need to feel admired, just like women want to be admired and adored. Men hate feeling put down.   So anytime you try to fix him... you are telling him he is not good enough, just the way he is. And this is just the last straw on the camel that broke it's back!

So nice girls do not finish Single after all? Thanks! 
But I didn't expect this ring from you!