The Naked Affair, the Adam and Eve reality!

For those of you who believe that Adam and Eve had the ultimate love affair.
The fact is Adam was tempted which cost him the ultimate loss of his place to live (the garden of Eden.) Eve was not his tempter nor was Adam her tempter. Something different was.... maybe the male/female Devil... which can be explained that women can be tempted by bad boys,  and men are tempted by bad girls.
Having pointed all that out the question is why is it that after they sinned they realized they were naked. but they had been naked all along. They did "do the do" while naked... before they realized they were naked.... now that they have to vacate the garden of  Eden they were ashamed of their bodies and covered up their now private areas. Women and men are still in this mindset, when,  we men see a naked woman we get excited, lusting after her like we have never seen a naked woman before. Women don't usually lust after a naked man unless she was horny as hell, to begin with.  So why am I rambling on about this? It happened about more than 6,000 years ago or longer. Simply put, much of what was written does not make a lot of sense to me.
Not that I don't believe that our species need the two genders to come together to keep multiplying.
So let's look at the difference in male and female feeling.
For example, when a man is late, a woman may feel "I didn't like waiting for you when you are late" or "I was worried if something happened to you"  but in her mind she is thinking; while you were out there hunting. For Heaven knows what. or maybe talking to a sexy sales lady trying to sell you a sexy new sports car. 

Question: If you think I'm sexy buy this car!

So when he arrives, instead of directly sharing her feelings she asks a rhetorical question like "How could you be so late?" or "What am I supposed to think when you are so late?" or  worse yet "why didn't you call?" If her man wants to make her feel bad, he might make a joke saying "Adam didn't have a cell phone to call in his day, and my battery is dead." Certainly asking someone "why didn't you call?" is OK if you are sincerely looking for a valid reason. But when a woman is upset the tone of her voice often reveals that she is not looking for a valid answer but is making the point that there is no acceptable reason for being late. When a man hears a question like "how could you be so late?" he does not hear her feelings but instead hears her disapproval. He feels her intrusive desire to help him be more responsible. He feels attacked and becomes defensive. She has no idea how painful her disapproval is to him. Actually just as women need validation, men need approval. The more a man loves a woman the more he needs her approval. It is was always there from the beginning of the relationship. Either she gives him the message that she approves of him or he feels confident that he can win her approval, in time. In either case, the approval is present.
So now I understand what Happened to Adam when Eve was tempted.  He thought to himself she is not satisfied with paradise. This is why she is breaking the rules to force me to work hard for the rest of my life to make her happy and gain her approval like in the beginning.
Even if a woman has been wounded by other men or her father she will still give approval at the beginning of the relationship. She may feel "He is a special man, not like others she has known."
But when a woman withdraws that approval it's particularly painful to a  man. Women are generally oblivious of how they pull away their approval. And when they do pull it away, they feel very justified in doing so. A reason for this insensitivity is that women really are unaware of how significant approval is for men.
Here is a simple solution to this age-old problem: A woman can learn to disagree with a man's behavior and still approve of who he is. For a man to feel loved he needs her to approve of who he is, even if she disagrees with his behavior.

Generally, when a woman disagrees with a man's behavior and she wants to change him, she will disapprove of him. Certainly, there may be times when she is more approving and less approving of him, but to be disapproving is very painful and hurts him.  Most men are too ashamed to admit how much they need approval. We may go to great lengths to prove that we don't care. But why do we immediately become cold, distant, and defensive when we lose a woman's approval? BECAUSE women are not giving what we need... hurts us, when we don't get it. The main reasons relationships are so successful in the beginning is that a man is still in a woman's good graces. We are still her knight in shining armor. He receives the blessings of her approval and, as a result, rides high in the saddle. But as soon as he begins to disappoint her, he falls from grace. He loses her approval. All of a sudden he is cast out into the doghouse. A man can deal with a woman's disappointment, but when it is expressed with disapproval or ejection he feels wounded. Women commonly interrogate a man about his behavior with a disapproving tone. Women do this because they think it will teach men a lesson. It does not!

It only creates fear and resentment. And gradually he becomes less and less motivated 

To approve of a man is to see the good reasons behind what he does. Even when a man is irresponsible or lazy or disrespectful, if she loves him, a woman can find and recognize the goodness within him. To approve is to find the loving intention or the goodness behind the outside behavior. 

OK back to Adam: When Eve treated her man as if he has not done good things and withhold the approval she so freely gave at the beginning of the relationship. I don't think she realized that she could still give him approval, and not force him to take a bite from the forbidden Apple.