The mystery is what makes her beautiful, and Amazing in our eyes.

Women are a mystery to most mortal men, we often wonder what is she thinking. We can’t just figure women out. When we think we understand a woman… we often get hit by it being a missed-story. This is why when she flirts with a man, he gets confusing signals. He asks her a question, and she responds with one negative word “NO”. The word “no” is the most often used word in a female vocabulary. Men hear it and we think, but I think she really means “yes”. The fact that it is not clear to us, adds to the challenges of trying to establish a relationship with her. Women can smile and say “no”. Men see her smile and think she really is “playing me.” I’m in the game…so I just have to get to first, then second, third base, and then I’m heading for home plate. 

Watch me confuse the hell out of him with my smile and still tell him “NO” 

Men have gotten it wrong, for ages. “No” can mean “not now”,  it can mean “never”, it can also mean “ give me time to think about it”.   

This is not like baseball, she has her standards, she has her reasons for her vague responses. If you try too hard to figure her out where she is coming from…. then she will switch directions on you, then you are even more confused and lost. The path is never a straight line, it’s “a maze.” Therefore we men think a beautiful woman is “Amazing”..... because she can”Amaze” you in so many different ways. So many different ways that  even a compass can miss-direct you. Let’s get to the point where a man can be sure she is into him. Men can’t ever be sure because she might change her mind multiple times and then multiple times again. 

If you are still confused then you might give up and assume she is not worth the effort. 

However when you give up that’s when you may be  surprised that she may have just changed her mind and you could have gotten on base, but just like in  baseball, you better stay on base and pay full attention because trying to steal a base and get to second base can be risky. You might get picked off and thrown“out”. Then you have to  wait and go throughout the batting rotation again before you are up at bat again.

Do you have enough time, can you be patient or will time run out on you? 

“Your time is up! So now the answer is NO”

The following are some of the simple etiquette points  we men need to apply, that will give us better standing in dealing with women:

1st.  First and foremost, don’t be a distraction to her. There’s nothing worse than being a loud and disruptive man who arrives late and is always on his phone, complaining about how nothing ever gets accomplished when he is being nice. 

2nd. A man should be prepared to come early, put his phone away, and actively listen and participate in a conversation of her choice.

3rd  Bring “positive energy” to the room. The energy you contribute is infectious and has a tremendous impact on how she sees you, so make a concerted effort to bring your “A” game  into the room. 

Men need to learn to say “NO” Politely to avoid time Vampires. 

Time vampires come in many forms, but no matter how they manifest themselves in a man’s daily life, they always seem to drain you of that most precious commodity….. which is time. The good thing, though, is that you can always just chose to not waste anymore time. 

I don’t know about you, but I’m guilty of saying “yes” to a woman, when I see an opportunity to make her like me, that favors her because I want her to like me, and subconsciously, I’m concerned that if I say “NO’, I will upset her or be viewed negatively. Just think about all the times that you’ve agreed to something. Whether it was volunteering, doing her a favor, or allowing the woman to infringe on your time; there are so many scenarios where we men feel uncomfortable saying “NO.” 

 However women say”NO” without any discomfort what-so-ever. 

Final thoughts

Women don’t see the “NO” answer as a game. Men see it as a game she is playing. However women know that when she finally says “Yes” she has handed over control to him. Men may take advantage of her from  that point. So “NO” is for self-perseverance. A Man can ask a woman “ what do want to drink, Coke or Pepsi and she will respond “Dr. Pepper.”

Then it’s her turn to ask about his favorite movie “ Star Wars or Star Trek”  

The man could  answer: “ Star Wars”, thinking simple because it was the first choice of the two she gave him.  He thinks it is also her favorite because she lead with it. She might then respond “I don’t like either of the two.! “Oooh crap”  back to the drawing board dude.