Is She a BOSS or Just A Bossy wifey

 

Let me tell you quick little story about why I'm this way

Being the oldest of four kids, She was pretty much born into the role of “ being a leader.” Even if she didn’t necessarily want to be. There was no escaping the inevitable, “you shouldn’t do that because your siblings are watching you” speech from her parents throughout her life. She have never been someone who was neutral or able to easily take instruction from people. Thankfully, She have come to grow out of that and learned that just because someone tells her what to do doesn’t mean they are trying to control her (oh, to be a healthy enneagram 8). She grew out of thinking she knew what was best for everyone around her. But I doubt she will ever grow out of her naturally sometimes-(accidentally)-domineering demeanor., She was born into a leadership position and haven’t been able to shake the feeling since. Here’s the thing about being a “leader” though— when a man gives orders, he is simply a “natural leader.” When a woman does the exact same thing, she gets called “bossy.” The example sentence under the dictionary definition of “bossy” reads, “she was headlong, bossy, scared of nobody, and full of vinegar.” Interesting that it uses a female as an example.

Growing up, she  didn’t get called bossy a lot. but she grew  older she  thinks a lot of people did  trust her leadership, because she  was able to say and do things with confidence. But when she got to high school and then college, she  lost her drive to be a leader because she was scared of seaming to bulldozing others. He had spent a lot of my adolescence and adulthood trying to figure out how she can be a good leader as a young woman. As silly as it is, sometimes she did worry about being “the bossy woman.” She gets worried about being seen as someone who rudely tells others what to do and doesn’t treat people well. But that isn’t leadership, and being bossy doesn’t have a negative connotation. In a way, sometimes it’s the only means of getting things done.

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her label became   “being too aggressive,” have been words used against women for decades that were meant to tear women down; to shut them up. Don’t let the sharpness of others’ words dull your independent and rugged spirit. Women are allowed to be in charge and they are allowed to do it with all of the confidence and boldness as men do. Taking charge and being a true leader is a calling. The Lord used many women in the Bible to lead with strength and guidance from Him. And He didn’t stop with our sisters in the Bible. God is actively using women every day in positions of power to lead people in the right direction. And what makes those women great leaders? The ability to make decisions and do what’s right while also giving guidance to others along the way. You might call them “bossy,” but hey, they’re the boss

When a female boss leaves the work place how is her role in her relationship perceived?

 What does Wifey Means? 

What word wifey means: A plain definition of a wifey is a woman that is in a potentially  serious relationship with a man.  She is more so of an elevated girlfriend but not really an actual wife.

Typically, the relationship is so serious that the man considers her to be wife material, but she is called his wifey because they are not married but due to the title the name gives the appearance of marriage.  A wifey is a woman who does not understand that you don’t play wife to a boyfriend.  Instead, she feels that if she gives the appearance of a wife then she is really one. 

On the outside, they appear to be married.  They may live together, have children together, some people go so far as to actually wearing rings but they are not legally married.

What Wifey Means & Why Does It Even Matter?

I can get a pigeon cook it, serve it to you, and call it a chicken. Just because she is calling it by something else and it kind of sort of looks like a chicken does NOT make it so. It is still a pigeon. Meaning that a girlfriend can call herself whatever she wants but only that piece of paper (AKA a marriage certificate) makes her a wife. 

Never fall into the “As long as a man treats you good, what difference does a title make?” Or “The title wifey, has a wife prefix in it” so it is kind of like a wife right category. Don’t play wife to a boyfriend when you are not getting the full benefits of being a wife. It is cute to call each other husband and wifey in public and on social media. But think of this.  God forbid if something happens then what? If he dies are you entitled to his to anything as a wifey? Are you going to show up to the hospital and try to make decisions as a wifey? Be put on his health insurance as a wifey, have access to all of his bank accounts and assets in case something happens to him as a wifey? Probably not. So you see, I do not care how close the name is, a wifey is really not a wife.

Yu can call yourself a wifey and he can call you a wifey but on any given day he can just up and leave you and it would not be hard at all.  He would not have to get a divorce, no entitlements to alimony, he can kick you out of the house you share together and only his name is on and there is nothing you can do about it.

Does it really sound the same? So I ask you, do you want to be a girlfriend or a wife.  Do you want the automatic benefits of a wife or do you want to try to fight for the same benefits as a girlfriend? Never settle into the role of a wifey thinking that it is the same thing as a wife and never let a man trick you into thinking that the title of a wife does not matter because it does.

A wife means that you are legally bonded to your husband as a wifey and you are just a glorified girlfriend portraying a wife in name only with no real clout behind the title. 

3. What Wifey Means As far as Commitment?

Even though a man may be committed to you, on any given day he could really get up and leave without any real repercussions.  As a wife, you have a contract, also known as a marriage certificate that is a legally binding document that tells the world and whatever country you live in; that you are committed to this person.  And if one person decides they want to leave, then they must go through a legal process to get a divorce.

When people get married there is typically a wedding or they go to the Justice of the Peace. Even if you elope there is some witness that needs to be present that you acknowledge your love in front of.  Vows may vary  but they typically say:

 

I take you to be my wife, for sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer ˜until death do us part

For many people when this process happens the couple is surrounded by family, friends, and the people they love the most. They are acknowledging each other in public letting the world know that what they have is permanent and not just a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship.

Even if you plan to go to Vegas and get married in front of Elvis.  I can promise you that even with an Elvis wedding a witness will have to be present, to verify and confirm that you two have acknowledged your love to one another; and you are now joined as one. With the wifey, she has no such benefits.

What Wifey Means as far as Benefits?

You do not want to play wife without getting the benefits of being the wife. And this is actually one of the main reasons that you don’t play wife to a boyfriend.  Because you will be cheating yourself. As a wife you are eligible to be put on your husband’s health insurance, be the beneficiary to his life insurance policy at work, if he dies you have a right to your lives together, and you get to collect his social security as well. 

As a wifey, you get none of that.  If a husband gets hit by a car, a wife makes all the important decisions regarding his medical care.  A wifey will have to fight his next of kin which may be his mamma because she has no legal right to do anything.

If you really want to understand what does wifey means, then know this.  Just because you say it does not make it true.  And never allow a man to convince you that a wife and a wifey are the same things.  Do not let a man convince you that he calls you his wifey and therefore he does not really need to marry you. 

He does. Or at least you should want him to.  Given all the above information I just presented to you.  Really think about what you want.  Do you want to be a wife or a wifey? And if you want to be a wife then don’t play wife to a boyfriend because he has no incentive to make you his wife, which I talk about in my video below.  When a man loves you but won’t marry you.

 

I'm speaking so listen up everybody!

Conclusion:

Bossy wifey act do different from a bossy wife.

The bossy, nagging wife is a classic American stereotype. It can be found in just about every family sitcom over the past 50 years.

Unfortunately, many men find it a harshly realistic stereotype that’s coming true in their marriage. If this is you…

• You probably feel like your wife is always criticizing you, or like you can never do anything right.
• It seems like she doesn’t respect your opinion, or like she doesn’t care what you have to say.
• Maybe your wifey\wife is starting to feel more like your mother than your spouse/partner?

I’m not talking about the occasional nagging. Everybody – both men and women – have their occasional moments of naggings.

I’m talking about constant, control-freak level criticism. Does it feel like there’s literally nothing you can do to please your wifey/wife?.

But first, let’s talk about the difference between confident bossiness vs. controlling criticism. Because there’s an important difference, despite the controversial title of this post.

She Doesn’t Know Any Other Way

Is your wife’s mother controlling or critical?

What about her father?

This applies to both men and women who exhibit controlling or domineering behavior. They grew up in a home where unappreciative bossiness was the norm.

Chances are, your wifey grew up in a home with a controlling, critical and unloving parent.

Unfortunately, there’s not much you can do about this particular reason except acknowledge its existence.

If your wifey/wife did grow up with an overly controlling parent, it’s always going to be challenging for her to do anything other than be controlling.

That’s just how she’s been taught.

If this describes your wifey/wife, you’re going to need a heavy dose of patience and mucho empathy?