Men who have issues with being in the "Friend zone"

 This is quite possibly a man's most dreaded relationship status.

We are just Friend nothing more

This is one of the most difficult challenges I see most single men face when it comes to dating...

Being the friend or being perceived as the type of guy who’s just fun and can’t be taken seriously...Or, get the woman to see him as the man she wants to be in a relationship with or only have eyes for...

so  I'm guessing you've been in this situation at least once.

You're stuck in the friend zone with a woman you really like... and you don't know how to get out.



Being stuck in the "friend zone" and wanting to escalate things to the next level with a woman can be a frustrating position.

On other occasions, you guys might be sexually involved (i.e. friends-with-benefits), but you want to transition into a "committed relationship" but she does not see you guys more than just "sex buddies".

You can see how that drives some men crazy!

Ah, “the friend zone.” A man's most dreaded relationship status.

Ladies, let me tell you something about the friend zone: It's real. In talking with female friends, this seems to be a particularly male predicament, wherein the object of our affection is right there, laughing with us, confiding in us about her terrible boss, sending one-liners back and forth via text. And yet, we get the distinct sense that you think of us as "just a friend."

It's terrible. Talk about being stuck between a rock and a hard place. You're close friends, there seems to be some romantic tension, yet being around that special someone is almost torturous because you want more. It seems like maybe she wants more, also, but she's not sending you any definitive signals. 

Is that a "don't flirt with me" or a "try harder"?

Take this dude in the picture, for example. He met this young woman while he was living overseas in the Caribbean, and they immediately hit it off. By all accounts, she was an absolute catch, and he was incredibly attracted to her. But he had struggled with something since high school known as “always the friend, never the boyfriend” syndrome. Sure, he’s handsome enough, smart, fun, and popular with other ladies— but just, you know, not in that way.

To put it simply, when a woman relegates a man to the "friend zone," she is saying, “You’re not sexually attractive to me” Which, of course, is not the same as, “I don’t think we would make a good couple,” or even, “I’m just not that into you.” She’s saying, “I am into you, I think you’re great, I can’t imagine my life without you, but I just can’t stand the thought of you touching me, that way.” And when a man hears that from a woman—whether she says those exact words or not—he would probably have preferred that she kicked him to the curve. It is, quite simply, a blow to his manhood.

Of course, it’s not a woman’s job to make a man feel better about his lack of attractiveness. Just know that I have yet to meet a man who could simply turn it off. So if a woman  don’t want to date him, it likely means you can’t be close friends and confidants either.

And perhaps more importantly, if you ever get the sense that a guy likes you but you’d rather just be friends, be careful not to send mixed messages. Exclusive attention such as one-on-one time and significant texting or phone conversations—especially in the evening—will likely stir up more than you’d bargained for. As much as you might love hanging out with him and being able to confide in him, keeping him close can give him false hope and set him up for heartbreak down the road.

It might just mean being honest with yourself. And if you really do care so much about him, you should want him to find somebody for himself, and he’s not going to do that watching chick flicks with you every Friday night.

But here’s an idea: Think about giving him a chance. You obviously think highly enough about him, and he’s paying you the ultimate compliment. I think sometimes—whether from Hollywood, Facebook envy, or just a romantic notion that we’re supposed to be infatuated with everything about someone, from their personality to the curvature of their nose—we let unrealistic expectations get in the way of considering real human beings for our mates. Before writing him off completely, consider letting him buy you dinner and treat you like a princess for an evening. What’s the worst that can happen?

Final thoughts

Going From "Just Friends" to More

Go from friend to girlfriend or friend to boyfriend.

some key points.

• When someone gets stuck in the friend zone, they have entered into an exchange that isn't even. They have sold themselves short.
• To get out of the friend zone, one can employ tactics such as being less needy and creating competition for the other person to be jealous of.
• Once someone is out of the friend zone and the relationship is an even exchange, one can ask for the change they want.