The Cons for women dating younger men,Or waiting in vain!

So you decide to see what else I will be expressing in my BAD way  of thinking
. when stars look so good... other women want to copy what is working for her..i.e  she does not want to waste this fine frame on the older, or same even  age dud... note  I did not say dude, or stud... DUD will not do. 

 the  Cons for women dating younger men:
- Generation Gap. If you are dating a man who is five years younger, that's not such a big deal. But when the age span stretches to 10, 15 or 20 years, there can be significant differences that emerge. Just think about how he won't know the music, TV or movies you grew up with. He won't have the first-hand experience of the times and history you lived through. I'm talking about when President Clinton  was dealing with Monica in the oval office, the movie "coming to America" premiered, the TV show the Cosby show aired on Friday nights and the first time Boyz to men  were on BET. Hell why would you want to talk about that stuff anyway.  These iconic moments in history and entertainment have great meaning for some. Every age group has their own memories. Not sharing the same frame of reference isn't a problem for every couple in love, but it can become an issue. A lot depends on how much you draw upon these experiences in the present and how knowledgeable your date is of the past. I know couples who had trouble relating to each other outside the bedroom due to the generation gap and it caused them to part ways. Only you can decide how important it is to have shared history. 

- Not Your Financial Peer. Usually, older people have had a longer career, which often means they are better compensated than a younger man would be. Just like men have been doing for eons, you may need to help foot the bill and take the lead at times when dating your younger guy, since you have more financial resources. If you are looking for an equal and expect a man to pay half for everything, dating down might not the right choice for you.......

- Becoming a Mother Figure. LOL. here we go! If you are a particularly strong woman, you may also need to fight the tendency to be in charge and avoid stepping into the motherly role. You may the lucky to have  the sweetest guy and who is willing to do whatever you  want. Over time, those traits may  drive a woman  crazy. Because he  never takes the lead, initiated anything or pay the bill. If you want to date younger, be sure to avoid guys who are "fix-it projects," although truthfully, this can be a pattern you engage in with men of any age.<smirking> I've been told that I need fixing, because of my attitude.. 

- Family and Friends. When there is a big age gap, you can run into trouble with friends and family, both yours and his. Not everyone approves of the "May-December" romances. Both of your families may not approve of your relationship or see the benefits. In addition, it can sometimes be difficult to socialize with your friends or his. While the two of you bridge the gap easily, others might not be so inclined, causing awkward social situations.

- Different Life Agendas. Not sharing the same life agenda can drive the biggest wedge between two people. You might have the desire to settle in with your man and enjoy the fruits of your hard work. On the other hand, he might be hitting his stride and with his eyes on his career, he might not be ready to put down roots. Another area of contention is having children. You might be done with child rearing, but he may still want to have his own family. That can be an unbridgeable gap and indicates different life agendas. In these cases, one person needs to compromise which might not be acceptable to you. This can cause a rift and end an otherwise suitable sexual  relationship, ask Halle Berry!


I will repeat what I said in the previous blog post. age does not matter as much as compatibility, become the main issue. When two people find the love they want, the difference in years becomes meaningless. If you just want to try dating a younger man, but aren't set on this for the long-term, what the heck — enjoy the ride for as long as it last!

my BAD perspective Foot note: Well, my dear…dating is a game and you are getting played if you think that younger men are just waiting for you and longing for you to walk into their lives. You might Not want to be “boxed” into a role, wanting to take charge, be aggressive, have sex like a man, get your “NEEDS MET”…get attention by any means necessary, you are LOSING the game that you don’t want to play. Steve Harvey said “Think Like A Man”…the common sense translation is UNDERSTAND HOW MEN THINK. Understand why in this day and time so many  MEN ARE SINGLE, but getting so MUCH SEX. They don’t even have to LOOK for sex anymore, what they’re looking for is LOVE, relationship and the Michelle Obama to their Barack. A lot of men don’t give you their “BARACK” because you act and look like LITLE KIM, so you get LIL WAYNE. A man can DOG you or love you depending on the behavior that YOU provoke. My Queens, you seem to have LOST the understanding that YOU are in control, you are no-ones princess anymore. Allow a man the time to FIND out who you are before you give him access to the PRIZE. Allow him to seek, search and discover your heart, your personality, what’s under your skirt, UNDER your skirt, should not be the first thing we need to have access to.....pull it DOWN and pull your panties UP.  If you need glasses to see that you just made a mistake... then you are wearing them too late.

You can be Silent and alluring and mysterious without being SEXUAL, Slutty and OVERT. It entices a desire to discover that which is hidden. 
For Goodness SAKE ladies…HIDE SOMETHING. Nobody leaves their valuables lying around or on display. Put them in THE SAFE. Keep your emotions SAFE, your heart SAFE, your love is a TREASURE, your VAGINA is a treasure. Let a man SEEK and FIND YOU….
The one that doesn't SEEK is not looking for TREASURE. Trash is everywhere….let him have it… be the TREASURE !  Wear a pair of these in the jazz lounge, not in the club, where it is too dark. 

You might just trip and hurt yourself physically and mentally.