So who are you really waiting for?

Looking  out the window for "Mr Right" 
with his cape flapping in the wind to fly by!

Most people will say WAIT for someone to sweep you off your feet, others will say be realistic about romance. But the question  is, who do you believe and which do you follow?
I believe you shouldn't believe either of them because in the end it's all about that someone who start by liking you and might very well love you truly deep down.


Singles should look for someone who puts them above every other thing for the most part and aren't self centered. They'll do anything to make you happy and are always proud to be associated with you.

That's OK I don't want what you are offering

Despite the fireworks and expensive gifts, that a potential partner may not be the one for you. Single People should learn to look beyond the physical so you don't end up with someone who is totally self-centered.
It could be really hard to let go of the way you have done things in the past. First things first take stock in  what you are bringing to the table and then ask yourself what  now?? It's OK to keep thinking someone will rescue you from your times  of solitude, but how well has that worked for you in the past.
there are situations where you have chemistry with a someone new, you know the feeling is mutual but you are yet to make the proper connect, simply because you response to everything is "NO thanks"

I wonder what my next move should be?

A guy may give you all the right vibes but yet he hesitates to get close to you..... The beatitude could be quite frustrating and there might be reasons he hasn't asked you out.
These guys may be dealing with issues of their own.  Fair rejection, Fair of acceptance and not being able to live up to expectations.

that feeling  of relief is needed, to feel this good!

If you as a women are still dealing with the following issues then you will have to free yourself of them:
1. Forgiveness frees you from guilt. You get past the hurt and memories of the past fades away
2. You are in control of your life when you let go. You live better when you let the past go.
3. As difficult as forgiving someone can be, it's the only way you can find inner peace.
4. If you relationship ended on a bad note, letting go  will help you move on faster which is really important to your well being. You can't move on if haven't decided to let go of what is holding you back.
5. you are giving gossip mongers something to talk about when you keep playing the victim, ranting to anyone who really don't care about your issues.
6. Holding on to grudges mean you are just insecure. You close your heart to everyone and remain resentful.

Wow,  I wasn't expecting this "One!"

When you open  up just a little to the possibilities.... things start happening.
- He might not look too Bad.
- He might have a good sense of style and is a great conversationalist about World affairs.
- Know most of the songs you like.
- Works out like you do. sticks to a healthy diet.
- Looks presentable enough to take around your friends and family.
- next big step is Communication, the most important foundation in any relationship is communication when you are far apart good  communication is essential. Talking to each other frequently will strengthen the potential bond between the both of you. Be thankful when that happens , communication has been made very easy now a days. what with all the the social sites that are available ; we are even spoiled for choices. They who choose to use it really have the world as a global village.  So make good use of them to check on each other out from time to time and the best thing is, most of them are free. Plan when to call each other, when to chat and occasional skype each other.

I wonder if this "One" could workout well this time????

The first step to getting what you want is having the courage  to get rid of the things you don't want.... .
Enjoy your Independence; the fact that you are exploring possibilities  means you can always have fun. You have every right to go out with the girls and enjoy yourself. so long as you respect yourself and don post wild  compromising behavior on social media. In fact talk to your new interest about doing things that you both enjoy doing and discuss what is acceptable and what is not. Avoid boredom which makes a person lonelier.

Relationships are important. Anyone who says different is either lying to themselves or ignorant to the reality that we are social creature who must interact with each other. But only healthy relationships matter. The ones that build you up, challenge you and enhance your happiness. So, what kind of relationships are you into?