STOP being Stuck in a rut, for the holidays!

I hate having in the meantime sex!

One of the biggest challenges in moving on from an ex is breaking that sexual connection. I call it: In The Meantime Sex.

Most of us have been guilty of participating in fill-in-the-blank sex. That’s when you tell yourself that its just sex and you can cut it off at any time. But deep down inside you know it’s just a lie you tell yourself to justify keeping it going. In a twisted kind of way you know that by staying connected sexually you are also preventing him or her from connecting with someone else.
The truth is, “In the meantime sex” is nothing more than an escape from loneliness and insecurity. And when the sex is ‘really good’ it has the same effect as a tranquilizer, numbing your senses and putting you in a euphoric state that makes you tolerate a person that you know is not good for you.

~ Michael Baisden

Your life is going around and around  in circles!

My perspective: After being on an "emotional roller coaster" for many years, if you are like a few women I know, I'm sure you are exhausted from being jerked around on an endless ride. It is time to stop the ride, get off, and shut it down for good! Now ladies... He has not proposed to you because he likely never had any intent of marrying you. It is not like he has not had time to get to know you and ask. He has been, and continues to be, somewhat disrespectful and emotionally abusive to you. He dated you, cheated on you, broke up with you, may have married the other person he cheated on you with, broke up with her and now is back with you. Really!? Does that sound like your life, maybe not yours but for sure someone you know... maybe even your BFF. 

Do something different.....
start by NOT  shopping  for a  Christmas gift for him.

Ladies-- Why are you  wasting your time? It is obvious that some men  do not have much respect for you, but my question is, do you have any respect for yourselves? You have been strung along and emotionally used and abused for the past  years because you have allowed him to do so. He cannot do anymore than you allow him to do. If you continue to stay there and be a doormat, he is going to continue to walk on you. Wake up and get a life!  It is time for you to discover your owe value and develop self respect. Right now, it seems as if you believe that you truly do not deserve more or cannot have more than what you are dealing with now. Years and  years  of the same is a long time to wait on someone  without any show of commitment. I recommend that you seek individual therapy, or even group sessions  to help you understand and process what is going on with you that has kept you holding on to these relationships. If you want something different, you must do something different! 

Are you here to rescue me?
 

For years I could always pick out the women, at the Christmas parties, that were in one of the above mentioned relationships. They had that "chick on the side" look, because the man they were committed to, was somewhere else with the  woman he really wanted to be with. If a guy is " a prince charming"  he could get very luck at these Christmas parties and or News Eve parties. a confident guy could present himself as the viable alternative... who knows he might very well be.... the one you have been waiting for to rescue you. from being stuck in a lonely  rut...!  

 It's time to find Love overflowing at Home!