Why isn't he listening to you

Men don't listen to their women !
You often hear a wife complain, " my husband never listens to me." Or a girlfriend agonize to her best friend, " My boyfriend never seems to pay any attention to what I tell him."  In fact, a woman was ranting about how she's been talking about wedding arrangements to her fiance for months, and yet when she asked him a few questions about some details she'd told him about earlier, he had no clue what she was talking about! It left her wondering whether he had heard anything she had told him. the common grouse with women is, " Do men even listen?"
Your task ladies is to find out how you can make a man listen to you  and be the woman whose opinion he values most.
Ladies, you may have some valid points, but have you ever  stopped  to think why that may not  be the case? the following are some common reasons why  men don't seem to listen to women:

Are your paying attention to what I'm saying?

1. Women talk too much
Often  women have so much to say that the pertinent facts get lost in the intricacies of the story, If a man has to listen to his Lady  intersperse what's there for dinner, with that cute top she saw at a store, how her sister is expecting a baby and she had a rotten day at work, he's  unsure by the end of the saga, what exactly he should remember.
Two communication device (tablet and phone ) are always present at hand, to send someone a text, a heads-up of some kind.  while talking to her man she gets a news flash and the topic changes instantly. 

2. They figure they've heard it all before.
Sometimes we men think there's nothing new we have to hear and automatically tune out mid-sentence. According to them, it's just old wine in a new bottle.As she sends him the latest draft of her plans and that is still subject to change before  the final copy is ready for execution...

I'm putting  a notification on your scheduler!

3. Women nag
One of the commonest complaints men have is that their lady often nag them... since they're used to the general trend of it, they don't think there's anything different about what they're whining about.
"How many time do I have to repeat myself before you get it." This is when a man knows this is the final release of  of the plans.

4 . We don't like to be controlled
We men feel that if we listen to a woman in terms of following her instructions, it's a song that we are silly putty in her hands and that she'll take undue advantage of the situation. Once we give in to her demands. We'll be the equivalent of a puppet on a string. Pushy women push a man right out the door never to return... so chill on the demands and if you want your way... be nice about it!

5. there are more pressing matters
If a woman is incessantly babbling in the background and a man something fa more important -- at least to him-- like watching a thrilling football game, the last thing we want to do is tun off the TV and tune in to his lady.
We can give you all the attention during the commercials... but if the center snaps the ball  and the QB can't find an open receiver and the defensive-end is zeroing  in on his head. that is not the time to ask him a question that can wait till the next commercial. 

6. Some men just have a short attention span
Often, men cannot keep their focus on what a woman is saying for too long. We rarely have the patience to listen for more than a certain fixed duration, which is normally about then minutes at the most. Why don't you just write down or send me a text, and mark it urgent... If you want me to remember it.  Use the tools you have  for positive communication. I can scroll back to msgs. at any point in time! 

Hey the World does not revolve around you! Give me a break!

7. the topic is of little interest
And then, of course, if she insists on raving about the designer watch her boss ' wife was sporting or the chandelier earrings her BFF  rich boyfriend surprised her with, that's easily not something a man is interested in hearing.  So, if you want your man to listen to you , a few point to the right direction.
Keep it short. don't meander on about every little insignificant thing. especially if you've noticed that he has no use for such frivolous details.
If you have to go into detail, make it interesting. Hold him rapt with a cute anecdote or a funny story that will grab his attention and hold him captive.
Keep pausing at suitable intervals just to ensure  you have his attention. Avoid monologues and give him a chance to have his say too. activity  seek his  opinion and ask him for relevant feedback, so that you know he's not just physical present but his mind is elsewhere.
Stop being predictable and nagging him about the same stuff. If he hasn't got  the message  by now, it's time to change your stance on get him to move  by trying something new.
don't even try talking to him when he's got the TV on, or he is on the PC.

I'm looking at you......am I not?

 Eliminate all distractions, or wait till he's done with his TV or Youtube video he was watching.  before you start having your say.
when you're talking, try and get him to maintain eye contact with you. That way, if his mind wanders, you'll know if by the glazed look in his eyes, unless of course he's perfected the art of appearing that he's listening to you, with rapt attention, while he's actually miles away.
and if you want him to listen and follow through on some instructions, don't order him around. Ask him nicely, check ot see if he's comprehended what you've told him, and then act as if the ultimate decision rest with him.