A FEW GOOD Reasons Why Most Men Can’t Handle A Strong Woman

Here's to combining our strengths!

Let start by understanding that good  strong women don't need to be handled.

A woman becomes stronger by enduring pain, making sacrifices, overcoming heart-breaking experiences, having struggles and being selfless. This woman has been in deep and deadly waters and has managed to survive them. She is aware that in life you can be a teacher and also the student. However, men have trouble understanding strong women, probably because of the following reasons.

1.A strong woman doesn’t need a man to fight for her

Most men want to feel wanted. A strong woman will show her love for her man however she will also let him know that she can handle things herself. She is able to fight for both of you instead of letting the man fight her battles. If there is a problem she will never remain silent, she will fight and deal with it anyway she can.

2.A strong woman knows what she wants

Strong women are always aware of what they want and how to keep it once they get it. If she likes a man she won’t wait for him to make the first move. Her independence can be intimidating for most men however confident men have no trouble having a strong woman as their partner.

3.She will require honesty and vulnerability

Men are not that comfortable talking about everything unlike strong women who want to discuss traumas, life-changing experiences and the things that hurt them in the past. A strong woman has been through a lot in her life which is why she wants an honest and vulnerable man she can identify with.

4.A strong woman is not afraid of intimacy

This does not refer only to making love. It is about intimacy in all aspects of life. A strong woman will never keep something a secret from her partner because she is comfortable with her passion and femininity.

5.A strong woman can see through lies

Strong women want honesty and trust in the relationship and they can sense lies the minute they are told to them. Since she doesn’t want to hold anything from you, you should also do that with her. If you have trouble being with her completely she will find a way to live with you sooner than you may think.

6.A strong woman wants integrity and consistency

Strong women don’t like inconsistency. They want respect and integrity from their partner and if he feels like he is becoming distant she will let him know that she is aware of it. A strong woman wants to feel like she is loved unconditionally and being disrespectful towards her will disappoint her the most.

7.A strong woman is intense

She has been through very tough challenges and obstacles which required a lot of strength and power. She is prepared to endure the hurt and pain again which is something men are unable to completely understand. She will share her past scars with you and she will expect you to do the same thing without having secrets.

8.A strong woman will not wait for you

A strong woman wants to know you are committed to her and if you pull back she will let you go. If you want more time to decide whether you want her she will never wait for you. She might feel hurt, however she will get over it and prepare herself for the following challenge or obstacle.

9.A strong woman will love you unconditionally

Strong women are faithful and they will nurture you just like a mother nurtures her children. If she feels she is receiving the love she is giving, she will do anything for you. This unconditional love and support are often frightening for some men which is the most common reason why they leave strong women. However, she will never fight for you if you don’t love her because she knows how much she is worth.

10.A strong woman will show you who you are

We men  have trouble accepting the things we don’t like about ourselves when someone points them out. A strong woman will show you how you can change yourself so that you can become better and stronger and she will teach you how to accept yourself and become more confident. Strong women find strong men which know how to deal with the honesty and intelligent woman.


Final thoughts

Strong women give this world hope and show us a great example of what we can become if we strive to reach our full potential. These women never gave up despite countless obstacles and adversity, and we wouldn’t be here today without them. In a relationship, a strong woman knows how to balance her fiery nature with her grace and wisdom in order to avoid taking total control of the partnership. She might come on a bit strong in the beginning, but she will let you take the reigns too once she gets to know you.

Being in a relationship with this type of woman is quite a privilege, and should not be taken for granted. A strong woman can take a relationship to new heights and show you how amazing love can truly be. I repeat she does not need to be handled...!

How does it feel when you are her very last choice?

So Why was I your last choice, to row you across the lake ?
 Did you save the best for last?

Basically  when your girlfriend and you have been going out (officially) for   a few months. Things may be going great but you may  really feel like you are  her last resort to have routing fun with. She is always busy doing things with friends and it feels like she makes just a little time for you,  unless there is nothing else on her schedule. What men need to understand women get into routines... when you come along these routines get interrupted. Adjustment need to happen, even though you might be "the almost perfect guy" ... she is not sure yet.
So my question is how can you talk to her about this in a good, non-accusatory way?
Fist of all: Don't sweat the small stuff!

  AM I, YOUR  LAST CHOICE TO DO SOMETIMES ---- ENJOYABLE  WITH?


If she's not making you her first priority, she's telling you how important you are to her, at that point, not your permanent status.
It may just be temporary.... so don't sweat her, about it.

By all means talk to her about it, if you want more quality time with her, but remember you're asking her to change something that comes naturally to her.

I don't know how your girl responds to talking, and after a few months I'm not sure you do either. But instead of bringing it up, I'd suggest you stop making her your top priority, and see how she likes it,  instead of parking on her doorstep every night. If you can be indifferent about it, I'd back off and do your own thing now and then. There's a lot of stock in the saying - "don't make someone a priority who makes you an option."

figure out which it is or both.
If you are last on her priority list then you are simply there so; a) she can say she had a boyfriend and
b) she has someone to go out with when her friends are not available.

However, - make sure that what you expect is "reasonable" - she does have the right to spend sometime with her friends.... as do you. By asking her to do the "me solo" thing, you are putting yourself in equal status category.

When in doubt. Go the extra mile.
 will
she really prefer a movie with her BFF... instead of dinner with the man who does all this?

If you don't like being in that position then move on. There is no point being with someone who doesn't care enough about you.

You can't talk someone into wanting something. You can, however, question why you'd want to pursue anyone who doesn't want time with you.

I'd do the opposite of talk, I'd pull back and observe. This would give you important information that otherwise can't be gained. If you stop doing all the work, how often will GF step up to pick up the slack? What kind of contact schedule will she fall into, and how often will she want to see you?

From there you can decide whether her patterns are livable for you. If not, you can either let her know that her definition of a relationship doesn't match with yours and you can try to negotiate seeing one another X (not 10) more times a week--or you can decide that her priorities will never match yours and you can walk away.


Feeling as if you're not getting adequate time with your NEW partner is really no different than spending too much time with your partner (aka clinginess) in the sense that both extremes can stifle intimacy. The remedy, as I've readily pointed out, is talking to her. Absolutely you want to be non accusatory and refrain from negativity. You're in a relationship so it should go without saying that communication -- a healthy dialogue -- is vital for it to succeed. Assumptions will only make things worse. Give her the opportunity to openly explain herself free from anger or resentment.

I've always felt taking walks together helps facilitate conversation, much easier than the pressure of sitting down staring at each other. Not only will the pressure be lightened by not directly having to maintain constant eye contact, but the fact that you are both moving helps the fluidity of conversation. Hold her hand, gently squeeze it, and tell her that you always enjoy seeing her so much and how much fun you two have together. Segue into how you think it'd be great if you could spend more time together and include some times (e.g., "maybe this weekend we could..."). Let her know that you are interested in increasing the frequency together. Don't mention that she spends more time with her friends. This will only cause her to be defensive and create unnecessary negativity. It could be as simple as obliviousness on her part or perhaps she thinks you're okay with the current arrangement you have. Just keep it positive and nonjudgmental. Don't expect to spend an enormous amount of time together; instead, be reasonable and expect to compromise that allows some middle ground. She should still be able to see her friends (and you see your friends) while at the same be able to spend more quality time with her.

Look me in the eyes and tell me
am I your last choice for better or worse,
richer or poorer, in sickness and in health? 

My final thought:
Being her last choice, can also the best thing.... simply because she  has stop looking "you are Mr. IT, In  her life like FLIN." She is  so comfortable that she has a man in you...  she can count on!...that she is not insecure anymore....she is now sure, that you are not  going anywhere after a few months of dating.
The things men forget is that women these days have had other relationships prior to us coming along. So they test your resolve. Don't blow it by being impatient with her! 
Unless you are ready to go back to being all alone. 

I really  enjoy listening to  this lady, her lyrics are so deep. "Living all alone" ~Phyllis Hyman RIP

When I give my love this time... to a strong woman.

I  placed the video at the top so that the reader might listen to the song while they read...

There Are Reasons Strong Women Handle Relationships Differently....





“I believe in strong women. I believe in the woman who is able to stand up for herself. I believe in the woman who doesn’t need to hide behind her husband’s back. I believe that if you have problems, as a woman you deal with them, you don’t play victim, you don’t make yourself look pitiful, you don’t point fingers. You stand and you deal. You face the world with a head held high and you carry the universe in your heart.”  – C. JoyBell C.

Strong women know more than anything else that taking care of themselves is a must, and to not look upon anyone else to swoop in and save the day for them. They have been battle tested, and learned what independence truly means. Strong women have never known what’s it like to need anyone, because they had to fend for themselves at a young age. Any strong woman you meet has had a few crappy hands dealt to her in life, but she’s risen above like the champion she is at heart, not allowing one misstep or misfortune to hold her down.

Strong women are fierce, courageous, resilient, and beautiful. If you’re the lucky guy or gal that gets to call her yours, you’d do well to keep the following points in mind so you know what to expect in your relationship with your strong sweetheart.

1. THEY AREN’T LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO SAVE THEM

No, they learned as a child that no one would come to save them – they had to save themselves. They never had the pleasure of relying on anyone for anything, so why start now? The person there for them at the end of the day was always staring back at them in the mirror before they laid their head down at night, so they see no reason to give that duty to someone else.

In relationships, strong women do not view you as a means to an end – a way to become more financially or emotionally stable, or to cure themselves of loneliness, etc. They don’t have any ulterior motive to being with you, so you don’t have to worry. There’s a lot more security in a relationship with a strong woman, because you don’t have to walk on eggshells around her in order to keep her happy. You don’t have to bring home a six figure income to keep her satisfied, and you don’t have to babysit her emotions. There is both security and freedom in being in a relationship with a woman who needs no hero to save her.

2. STRONG WOMEN KNOW WHAT THEY WANT

Because of this, they don’t approach relationships the same way those who are just wading in the dating pool might. They dive right in and know their target long before they’ve even hit the water. In other words, these women have been hurt before and know what to look for in a mate. They’ve had experience with the types of people they DON’T want, so they know exactly what they do want. They don’t waste their life in dead-end relationships; if they feel the vibe with you, you’ll know. If not, she’ll let you know early on so you both don’t waste your time.

3. THEY VIEW RELATIONSHIPS AS AN EQUAL PARTNERSHIP

They don’t seek out a partner to get anything out of them; they seek someone in order to add value to their life. They only want someone who will lift them up, not drag them down. In the same way, they also wish to add meaning to someone else’s life, and see the importance of both give and take in a relationship. A strong woman would never take more than she’s willing to give when it comes to love.

4. THEY KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THEIR EMOTIONS

For you The sky is the limit
So look at the stars
 when we are in bed together.

Strong women don’t need anyone to coddle them in life; they are perfectly capable of sorting through their own feelings. Because of their emotional maturity, it’s a lot easier to talk to them should a disagreement occur. In a relationship with a strong woman, things are dealt with in an adult manner, with respect and grace. These type of women don’t let their emotions get the best of them, and always listen to their partner’s point of view without interrupting.
She always have it together.
So meet her at her exclusive spot!

" on the moon"

Do you know what "Prizing Imperfections" Means?

I feel so close to you I can kiss you!

“Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.”

~ George Burns


This quote makes you laugh because it catches you off guard.  many younger folk have never heard of this cigar smoking comedian who used to tell it like it is.

You find yourself agreeing wholeheartedly during the first part, only to find yourself agreeing again when he says something that seems to reflect an opposite sentiment at the end.

We love to feel connected. We want to feel close with other people.

But human imperfections always demand a little bit of space. That’s especially true with family members who don’t always politely respect your privacy boundaries. This required a great adjustment on my part during the years of my mariage ...

So we prefer it when they live in another city/ island,  or county. I did and still do. We can have all the closeness and intimacy we want in small doses.

There are certain skills and talents that I’m fairly proud of. But it’s my weaknesses I’m most proud of. Well, to be more accurate, it’s the growth I have managed in those areas that makes me glad.

For whatever reason, I didn’t start this life as an accepting person.

It’s not that I judged people, or thought myself better than them. It’s just that I didn’t let them get close if I perceived any flaws in their personality, intelligence, social skills, or whatever.

So you can probably imagine how many close friends I had. I mean, I had friends, but I never totally accepted them as “my people,” so to speak.



The reason for my confession is simple. My life improved dramatically because of my personal growth in that area. So I spread the word in case it helps anyone else recognize the value of celebrating the imperfection of people.

Happily, I discovered most people were way ahead of me when it comes to accepting the flaws of others. As I began to let them into my life more completely, I realized something I wasn’t expecting.

Part of my hesitancy to let people get close stemmed from my own irrational belief that I could somehow have friendships where nobody perceived my flaws... flaws they were destined to discover if I really let them become a part of my world.

It’s interesting that as a  guy who has had my share of good and bad relationship I now find myself helping others to build greater relationship intimacy, sometimes by overcoming the very weakness I am describing. It’s like someone with a fear of heights deciding to become a skydiving instructor.

In any case, my message to you is this. I know I often emphasize, Ladies, ways to screen out men who are unworthy of your time and affection. But wisdom often comes in the form of a two-sided coin. You cannot understand the whole coin unless you are aware of both sides. and please, don't ignore the edge which is also a side, with a distinct surface!

So here’s the balancing truth. "Imperfections" are not to be feared in yourself or others. Evaluate the imperfection and decide if it truly interferes with the possibility of a beautiful connection. If not, discover the joy of loving a flawed human being with your whole heart.
Think about what the answers might be for you...

"The answer is You"~ Phyllis Hyman RIP

Final thoughts
I write this blog posts because I'm always on your side. Maybe you will be convinced one day!

Poem: Again ~ Cunt Muffin

I danced with a man today.
He had your eyes.
Oh, how those eyes made me weep.
Pure sorrow.
What a strange day it was.
To see your eyes.
Looking into mine.
Again!

You know we love you when we do things with out you asking!

Most of us men are not that “skilled” in expressing our emotions through words. Instead, we show how  we feel with random acts and deeds. Majority of men were thought to be strong in order to be able to protect their loved ones. This is why we find it hard to show vulnerability, however that is not impossible especially if they have already found the woman they love.

These are simple things that men in love do

He loves you and respects you for who you truly are

Nowadays, we are surrounded by superficial beauty which leads to superficial relationships. However, a man who is truly in love does not love his woman only because of her outer beauty. Besides her virtues he also loves her flaws as well. He always respects the choices and decisions.

He is your biggest cheerleader

A man who really loves his woman will have no trouble if his loved one is just as successful or even more successful than him. He will praise her for her achievements and he will cheer for her during her struggle. He will also tell others about how proud he is of her.

I feel so safe in your arms!

He protects you

A man in love will never let anyone hurt you. He will always stand between you and danger no matter if that danger is physical or emotional. He is always alert when you are around and prepared to stand up for you. However, even though he is protective he will never turn his force on the woman he loves.



He steps up

During difficult times he will always take action without shifting the responsibility and he is also prepared to make sacrifices if they are needed. He puts your needs and safety first and he does everything he can to improve the situation.

He values your opinion

A man in love values the opinion of his partner. He will never value the opinion of someone else more than he values yours no matter if it is about politics, religion or business. He will always ask what you thing about a certain thing or situation so that you will find a solution that works best for both of you.

He listens to you

He will never seem distant when you are talking to him. He knows that it is important to you that he pays attention and no matter how trivial the topic is he will listen to you. He always finds time for you because you mean the world to him.

He remembers

He knows how you like your coffee, what is your favorite color or your favorite movie genre. He listens and remembers details about you because you matter to him. You may be surprised about how much he knows about you but that is just natural for him.

He goes out of his way

If you need him he will always manage to find time for you and help you. A man who loves you will never leave you when you need him the most.

He loves you enough to let go

If he loves you, he will never object if you are spending the night with your friends. He will never want you to spend your entire time with him and he knows that you should have a life on your own. He will let you go if you feel the need to do something you are passionate about even if that means you will be spending the day separated.

He misses you

When you are gone for a while whether it is a business trip or you are visiting your family, he genuinely misses you. He will also let you know that he does by texting or calling you just to hear your voice. He will also look very forward to the day you will be together again.

He seems to  feel your pain

If you feel pain he will also feel it especially if there is nothing he can do to help you. A man in love always wants to protect his partner and when she is hurting he feels helpless  and will do anything he can to ease her discomfort.

Singles in flight, date reservation.

Striking up a conversation can be difficult unless she unplugs from her earphones... but her side eye looks is a dead give away that she knows you are looking at her.... from across the Isle,  so we are playing chess. Who's got the next move...!

Hmmm cute dude... watching me
ever since I sat down in this seat,
it must be my dimple that he is looking at.

If only you could reserve that table at your favorite restaurant in the city you are both traveling too. You just need to get her to accept your dinner invitation... will she or will she not accept... Wouldn't it be great if there was an App that could send a message to passenger siting at the window seat in row #...  a simple msg like "HI, I'm the gentleman in seat # ..  I have been admiring you since we took off. Would you like to join me for dinner at this restaurant... when we land?"

Should I reserve our table with this view?

As a programmer/systems analyst Designer this is the kind of App I would developed. 

I would call it "Singles in flights."

And sell it to the airlines. The singles folks could login and key in their seat # and click "available." Or " not available"

They would then be able to get msgs from a passengers interested in asking her/ him to dinner... the app should also offer a choice of restaurants  and reservation options. This is just my way of creating an one time opportunity to meet your dream lady , with those cute dimples, or guy in the cool suit and tie, the opportunity to sweep her off her feet. While in flight, is once in a lifetime chance... to meet her on her terms... "The choice is always hers!"

"Accept" or "not accept"

Ask Your Partner These Pertinant Premium Questions!

Do you really want answers to these questions? 

Ask for Some good relationship advice before considering a
committed relationship, if the answers give you "pause!" .

The smart thing to do is to take the time to ask questions that plunge
into the inner depths of your partner’s personality and psychology.
Here are eleven questions you can ask to his or her suitability for a
marriage partner:

Why do you love me?

This is a questions that lovers have asked each other from the beginning
of time, but it does provide real information about their psychological
and social needs in a mate. If the focus seems to be on what you have
or what you can provide materially in the marriage, you might need to
look elsewhere for an authentic commitment.

My take is: You need to note ....if you are expecting some
specific answers that are pleasing to your ears, you might become disappointed.
Each person is different and gender specific expectations can lead to
misinterpretations of "what was said" VS "what was meant"
ask for clarity, for example: "what is love in your view" &
"can you love me unconditional" or "
will you fall out of love as soon as I get you annoyed about
something I did or didn't do?"

What are you goals and are you willing to adjust them
for the relationship?

This question can reveal what priority the relationship has in the
overall life plan. If the individual is more to achieve life goals and
expects you to do all the adjusting, it could be an unfavorable sign.

My take is: Goals can become illusive as change will happen,
your goals when you are single, will become different when you are
a couple , and add children to the mix and the goals will change again. ....
anyone who understands that goals constantly changing as times
is constantly changing the World is constantly changing,
people are constantly change... I think you get the Pic.

Do you know how to compromise?

Compromise is the essence of a good marriage. A person who
shows an inclination to feel “it’s my way or the highway” is not a
good candidate for the negotiations and compromises that
marriage requires.

When does anyone voluntarily compromise? The word says it all,
You compromise when you don't have a choice... Most of us
would like to have our own way. We are only willing to
compromise when having our way is no longer an possibility.

What’s your relationship with your family?

A bad relationship with family can indicate issues that
could affect the marriage. Similarly, someone is too close
to his or her family may be so enmeshed that the marriage
may not come first. Relationship counseling can help to
resolve these issues.

My take is: What does that have to do with you and me?
After we are joint we need to forsake all others... Just you and me.
If I like my family you might not. If I don't you might like
them just fine. So how do we compromise on who's
family is the best fit for both of us? Family are like the package
you are given on your journey through life, some you want
to take with you....others not so much.

Why do you want to spend your life’s journey with me?

This answer can tell you about the expectations of your partner and
whether relationship therapy might be needed to create healthier
expectations about your role in the marriage.

My take is: most folks do not want to take their life journey alone
we roll the dice and hope to hit the luck 7.
a) Her/his looks matches our taste.
b) their potential income looks promising to add to mine.
c) our off-springs can look like either of us or both... or an ancestor...
d) Our spiritual connect works, maybe it was meant to be!
e) Socially I'm not embarrassed by us being out in public....
f) The height difference is not an issue, too tall or too short.
g) Not too fat not too slim... almost perfect or just perfect.

Can you keep the romance alive?

Someone who understands the value of keeping romance alive
will actively work to invigorate the relationship over time.
First define Romance.. If it meets my version then we are on our way
If not then it could be a deal breaker!

My take is: This is the most difficult question to answer because
it is predicting the future behaviors as we just don't know what
will cause us to keep being romantic no more than we can
predict the future that will cause us to stop being romantic.
Let's just assume we should find good reasons to keep it hot.

Can’t you work through the rough patches

Someone who dislikes conflict or who cannot work out
differences will make a poor marriage partner.

My take is: First let's examine what rough extreme patches look like
Then we will see if they are too rough or just rough enough to be
worked through.

What are your parenting skills?

If you intend to have children, the previous family experiences
of your partner can have a significant effect on his or her ability to parent.


My take is: Parenting depends on your parent/ child relation you
experienced. I had dad that did not believe in spankings, My mom
on the other hand did. So I copied my Dad. because his style worked
well enough for me.

Can you commit to grow with me instead of away from me?

This answer can tell you whether the person understands the
nature of close relationships and the constant maintenance they require.


My take is: Hmmm! If someone is committing to a relationship
they should know if the expiration dates are going to be based on
circumstances which is unavoidable or will loose interest down the road
because it is just boring to continue being with someone for a long long time.

Will you continue to grow in the relationship?

A person that continues to have hobbies and interests that are
separate from the marriage will make a more interesting
and independent partner.


My take is: I wonder who will really answer this truthfully
somethings are just not possible to answer up front... If "I will try"
is a good enough answer then we are good.

If My Life Is Cut Short, Will You Honor My Memory Forever?

An individual that will continue to hold that relationship in
memory as a valuable experience, rather than close the book on it, i
s likely to make the most of the time you have together.



My take is: Who's to say one of us will live longer than the other
Avoid living a life, if you can, where you are always going
through changes, "living in confusion!"

So what titles are you comfortable with?

"Baron will do!" That is my name.

I believe the term "treat him like a King" is a statement that gives most modern-day women a momentary "Pause!" Most will think that they are making the man superior in the union,  by declaiming him "a King," it's as if  he is being put in that position of being her "King" To reign over her.
Where as men do not hesitate much, since calling a woman a "Queen" still allows him to maintain the dominant position, if he choses... it's always his choice, at least in his mind, thinking it''s still his Kingdom to reign over.
As a titled "Queen" a woman feels strong so much so, if something’s going on between the two sexes, she won’t hesitate to have a conversation about it so the problem can be resolved quickly, if she is confirmed as an equal.


KINGS AND QUEENS THEY LOOK AT A RELATIONSHIP AS A TEAM.

They can’t have anyone slowing them down in life, so they only choose someone who they can see building a stable life with in the future. A Queen doesn’t want anyone to control or anyone to control her; she wants someone who will grow with her and whose future can be intertwined with hers. She wants someone who has her back and who she can protect as well. A self appointed  Queen doesn’t need someone in order to feel better about herself; she just wants someone to celebrate all the wins in life with, and someone to support and encourage her through the losses.

That right "self appointed Queen!"

QUEENS  DON’T GET JEALOUS EASILY

Trust is a big deal for a strong woman, because she doesn’t just hand trust out. It has to be earned over a period of time, and even then, she might still need some more time. So, if you have "her trust," don’t do anything to lose it, because you most likely won’t be getting that privilege back. If she trusts you, then she doesn’t worry about the friends you hang out with or where you go after work. She doesn’t get seriously jealous of the other people you spend time with, because she gave you her heart and knows you will protect  the Relationships



“I believe in strong women. I believe in the woman who is able to stand up for herself. I believe in the woman who doesn’t need to hide behind her husband’s back. I believe that if you have problems, as a woman you deal with them, you don’t play victim, you don’t make yourself look pitiful, you don’t point fingers. You stand and you deal. You face the world with a head held high and you carry the universe in your heart.”  – C. JoyBell C.

Strong women know more than anything else that taking care of themselves is a must, and to not look upon anyone else to swoop in and save the day for them. They have been battle tested, and learned what independence truly means. Strong women have never known what’s it like to need anyone, because they had to fend for themselves at a young age. Any strong woman you meet has had a few crappy hands dealt to her in life, but she’s risen above like the champion she is at heart, not allowing one misstep or misfortune to hold her down.

Strong women are fierce, courageous, resilient, and beautiful. If you’re the lucky guy or gal that gets to call her yours, you’d do well to keep the following points in mind so you know what to expect in your relationship with your strong

 QUEENS AREN’T LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO SAVE THEM

No, they learned as a child that no one would come to save them – they had to save themselves. They never had the pleasure of relying on anyone for anything, so why start now? The person there for them at the end of the day was always staring back at them in the mirror before they laid their head down at night, so they see no reason to give that duty to someone else.

In relationships, strong women do not view you as a means to an end – a way to become more financially or emotionally stable, or to cure themselves of loneliness, etc. They don’t have any ulterior motive to being with you, so you don’t have to worry. There’s a lot more security in a relationship with a strong woman, because you don’t have to walk on eggshells around her in order to keep her happy. You don’t have to bring home a six figure income to keep her satisfied, and you don’t have to babysit her emotions. There is both security and freedom in being in a relationship with a woman who needs no hero to save her.

 QUEENS KNOW WHAT THEY WANT

Because of this, they don’t approach relationships the same way those who are just wading in the dating pool might. They dive right in and know their target long before they’ve even hit the water. In other words, these women have been  ready mentally for years.

In the final analysis "Know what you want" ladies!

You need to recognize if you are in an unhealthy relationship.

 You Love Someone Who Doesn’t Deserve You....

So tell me again, how much you love me!

It is very hard to be in a relationship with a person who does not appreciate your love and does not do anything to make you feel loved and tries to make you happy. Loving a self-absorbed person can be devastating because they will not give anything in return no matter how much you give to them.

You will keep trying to please them constantly but they will never let you know they see what you are doing for them, neither they will feel the need to do the same for you. If you feel like you are in a similar situation, this article can help you find out more about whether your partner is the person you should spend your life with. Here are the signs you should pay attention to:

They  lie and are cheaters

The fact that the question is being asked confirm it!

Nobody deserves to be lied to and cheated on, and this shows that your partner disrespects you entirely. It is a never ending circle that he/she will keep doing no matter what you say or do. If you let them get away with it once, be sure they will do it many times. A partner that lies and cheats is not worthy of your time, because with this behavior they show your feelings are not important to them at all.

They are always taking and never giving

Relationships are about giving and taking in a balanced manner. Sometimes one partner might provide more, but both partners should be at the same point after a while. If you feel like you are the one who is giving and your partner is never looking to give back, then you are not someone they want to be with. Regardless of your personality, if you love someone you will do everything to make them feel loved and happy if you truly value them. A partner that does not do anything for you will make you feel exhausted and empty.

They belittle you

This behavior is one of the worst because they will do it to make you feel inferior and it is more than just a passive issue. Don’t try to make excuses for this kind of person if they are hurting you with words constantly and making you cry and feel miserable. Never tolerate such toxic behavior, and do the right thing for your own good and leave this kind of person.

They are unreliable

How much can you rely on their help and support when you really need them? If your partner usually lets you go through hard times by yourself, do you really need him/her? Being in a relationship with a person that does not support you is pointless. Someone who deserves you will never make you feel like an inconvenience when you turn to them for their help.

They are selfish

Relationship is also a partnership no matter how long you have been together. Both partners should work to achieve the next level and succeed together. However, you should also both be selfless and do things for each other even if you don’t have any benefit from them. A person who does this for you is the one who really deserves you, and never settle for anything less than that.

Final thoughts

If one or more of these signs are familiar to you, then you should reconsider your relationship with your lover is on a BAD track, of train that will eventually derail. Dealing with your own issues is much better than staying with someone who will never make you feel loved and appreciated.

no amount of time invested will ever
make it reverse and become right.

You know it's right when you can say the following

Nothing Has Ever Felt Like This!

Things men don't get any credit for, when she has a long awaited orgasm!

The proof is in the pudding, hmmm!

Single women can sometimes be extremely judgmental about who they will and won’t date. But let’s face it, ladies, "your perfectly imperfect man" could be right under your nose, but you may never know it because you’re looking at all the wrong things. There really is such a thing as being “too picky,” I have readers who fit the bill. But don't worry, I can help you. Take this advice and open up new possibilities.



Guys. stop upsetting yourselves about her orgasms and her blaming you for not reaching one.  

my suggestion is to Let her mind wander: Fantasizing during sex may help her orgasm, found in a recent Belgian study.

Great to know!

  

Women who reported regularly experiencing "the big O" were more likely to imagine sexy scenarios while getting it on than those who had trouble finishing. 

For more about what’s on her dirty mind, read: Is She Fantasizing about Other Men? keep your ego in check, fellahs! You do it all the time fantasizing about Halle, Beyonce, Jenny Lopez from the Bronx

Yes, your fantasy works for me!

So let her  have a moment of fantasy, where  she thinks you're Name  is "Alezado" from Milan, or Edris Elba.

It’s possible that her erotic thoughts help keep her focused on feeling good. Women who have a hard time getting off tend to be more distracted during sex, according to the paper, while those who orgasm easily may be more tuned into their sensations. May know a thing or two about their "G- spot" and will encourage you to do it just right . 

A cube projector could come in handy!

It’s possible that her erotic thoughts help keep her focused on feeling good, the researchers say. Women who have a hard time getting off tend to be more distracted during sex, about things that should not be important at that moment , while those women who orgasm easily may be more tuned into their sensations. 

So encourage her to fantasize.

 Many women feel guilty about it, so make sure she knows you’re glad she has a dirty mind.

Even better yet, you can help engage her in the moment and take a starring role in her script by ramping up your dirty talk. Start by whispering, with a deep voice, how much you want  to make her feel good. From there, grunts, moans, groan, or any sort of verbal reaction can help put her over the edge.

Final thoughts

The first thing my mother ever taught me about sex is: "Sex creates an emotional connection, even when you don't think it will." The act of intercourse produces all sorts of chemicals in the brain associated with bonding, love, reward, and pleasure. When you add to that the fact that sexual intercourse is physiologically intimate, you start to realize that it's impossible to have sex without triggering a psychological bonding response. If mind and body connect.... this.....should cause her to have an Orgasms

"Always"