So how hard is it to undo, what's been done, by others!

"It's hard to trust, when all you have from the past is evidence that you shouldn't!"
~ unknown
 When I read that quote my mind just flipped. triggering thought about so much stuff I could write about. 

Hmm! being too HOT.. can also cause loneliness!

Well here goes:
I have always contented that Love is a tricky business in today’s day and age. Women start out so young and innocent, ready to jump in with both feet and believe in the fairy tale. That naivety lasts as long as their  first real heartbreak, and then women begin the process of becoming more guarded. They try again and again, and their hearts become more closed off with each bad experience. After being cheated on, lied to, ghosted, and just generally treated like dirt, women naturally become jaded and develop some major trust issues.

As women, you want to love. Compassion and nurturing is in your nature, but battling trust issues changes the game completely for you and for our prospective future partner. When women meet someone new, for example, rather than reacting with pure excitement like they did when they were younger, more mature women are skeptical. What does he want? How quickly.... can you find out his true motives so you don’t waste your time or get hurt again? It’s not fair to anyone, women know, but it’s not totally their fault. If you want someone to blame, how about all the losers who made you this way? Here are some of the main ways in which women love differently, and how we as men can help break down those walls if you want to be the one she does end up trusting.

WOMEN WILL BE EXTREMELY CAUTIOUS AT FIRST. They won’t give you too much information or let you get too close to them, but they might communicate from a distance while observing you astutely to determine if you’re trustworthy or not. The best thing you can do is understand their boundaries and communicate clearly if you do want a first/second date, because women will never assume that you do, unless you communicate your intentions.....

WOMEN WILL HARDLY EVER BE THE FIRST ONES TO CALL/TEXT YOU IN THE BEGINNING. This is especially true if they really like you, because some women been ghosted by several douche-bags who thought it was desperate or needy of a good woman to send a simple text. If a guy really like a woman, he'll have to be the first one to call or text for a little while. Eventually, by proving that a guy really do want to be there with her, She’ll trust you enough to send you that cute good morning text without assuming that the consequence will be never hearing from you again.

WOMEN WILL NEVER REALLY BE THEMSELVES UNTIL THEY ARE SURE IT’S FOR REAL. They won’t fully misrepresent themselves because they do want to be with someone who likes them for who they are, but, like most people, they probably have a few skeletons in the closet that only a handful of trusted friends know about. You’ll have to work your way into their inner circle before they'll feel comfortable enough to discuss things like financial problems, depression, anxiety, suicide attempts, or past arrests — you know, things that make people realize you’re not perfect and run away.....

Man that was too much for me!

WOMEN WILL INSIST ON TAKING IT SLOW, COMMITMENT-WISE, BUT THAT DOESN’T MEAN YOU SHOULD FREELY BANG EVERYONE IN TOWN,.....FELLAHS. Every step of building a relationship with someone new is terrifying to a person, who has trust issues. From the first time women actually feel like they are to the point where it’s getting serious, they are going to be silently freaking out on the inside because it’s all so scary and they’re still expecting you to either turn into a loser or bail on them at any moment. If you want it to turn into something real, the best thing you can do is show them how patient you can be and not go out hooking up with tons of other girls/women just because they haven’t had the exclusivity talk yet (that will just confirm in their heads that you’re another douche-bag who can’t be trusted).

WOMEN ARE VERY AWARE OF THEIR TRIGGERS AND THEY LISTEN TO THEM, HOPING TO AVOID REPEATING PAST MISTAKES. Trust issues are far from uniform: everyone has different experiences and triggers. If you’re dating someone who’s been cheated on with an ex who was “just a friend,” they will not want you to have a close relationship with your ex. Someone who’s been in an abusive or controlling relationship will see a great big red flag if you raise your voice to them or attempt to control who she spends her time with. You may see it as paranoia, but women see it as a necessity to protect themselves from getting hurt again.

Suspicious!

IF A MAN STARTS ACTING SHADY, WOMEN WILL NOTICE.If you used to leave your phone lying around unlocked, and suddenly it’s in your pocket blowing up with texts, a woman will notice and assume it’s probably another girl/woman. If you go to drop your kid off to your ex and end up staying out all night “hanging out with the guys!” it looks an awful lot like you spent the night having sex with your ex. It’s not that women don’t want men to have a life, but we men can’t wave red flags in their faces and expect them to look the other way (she may have done that, and that’s why they have trust issues). The solution is to be open and honest if it’s really your sister bombarding you with texts about her birthday party next week or if you had plans to get a few beers with your friends after you dropped Junior off (honest communication will put her at ease).

EVEN AFTER WOMEN ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP, THEY WILL STILL CONSTANTLY EVALUATE IT. It’s not enough to just “get the girl.” You still need to work to keep her. Don’t stop trying once they’re seemingly comfortable enough with you and you’re getting everything you want. Women with trust issues know that move too, and they know that they are worth some actual continuous effort.

IF THEY WANT A FAMILY, THEY’LL MAKE ABSOLUTELY SURE THAT YOU DO TOO BEFORE THEY GET TOO SERIOUS. Just saying that you want to get married and have kids isn’t good enough, because they’ve heard that line from plenty of horny guys before. You’ll need to prove it by having serious discussions about the time frame in which you want this to happen, how many kids you want, parenting styles, finances, religion (or the lack of it), and how it will affect both of your career paths. Obviously this conversation doesn’t need to happen right away, but before things get too serious, you should be ready to discuss.

THEY’LL INTRODUCE YOU TO THEIR FRIENDS AND ASK THEM LATER WHAT THEY THOUGHT OF YOU. We can’t be too careful when deciding who to trust with their hearts. Women's closest friends are most likely the only people in the world that they really trust, and these friends know them well enough to help them discern who’s trustworthy and who isn’t. It’ll be worth your while to connect with them. Not only will their support help you gain her trust, but you’ll be seeing them a lot more in the future if things work out.

GET A WOMAN TO TRUST YOU WITH LOVE IS ABSOLUTELY WORTH IT.Those women who have trust issues are at a place in life where it’s all or nothing. You start out with nothing, but you have the opportunity to have it all if you are patient, genuine, and kind. Once women trust you and let you in, they will love you with the purest love that exists. Just ask their closest friends how loyal they are.

Maybe you are just too hot?

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