Let's fight just for fun

In a relationships fights are inevitable, but the repercussions of these situations
lead you to find every tiny habit of your partner annoying. Also, there is nobody
who would like to accept the fact that they are annoying and deny or shadow their
habits by a not so valid reason. Well, knowing the reason why a certain situation
or habit of your partner annoys will help you bridge the gap and strengthen the
relationship.

If your partner is annoyed with you then it definitely is a cause for concern
and if a particular habit constantly annoys your partner then talking about it
is the best solution. Communication is imperative to resolve any hitch in
the relationship and talking about what annoys you can help sort things out
in a cordial manner.

If the annoyance continues for a long period of time then it cannot be taken
casually and should be discussed and worked on at that instant. In a relationship,
if you are trying to impress your partner, but also being a reason for their annoyance,
then that isn't a good sign. It is necessary to read the signs and work on it. Identifying
those reasons are imperative and you need to bring amends immediately to have
a smooth sailing ship. So, here are 6 signs that your partner is annoyed with you.

Their jokes have a hidden motive.

Making a joke at the expense of the other is not an ideal thing to do, but with your
partner, it goes to a different level. Your partner might mask their reason of
annoyance behind a joke to make it sound humorous, whilst making their point.
Well, criticism hurts the most when your partner brings it up especially, which
is focused on your personality or character flaws. Instead of focusing on the
problem they end up make a broad generalization about your personality.

Don't mess with me, I will go off on you!

This can lead to a cold-war or a passive-aggressive rebuttal depending on
your personality, but this is not the most cordial way of resolving a problem in
the relationship. It would deteriorate the foundation fabric of the relationship,
but talking about it in a calm manner and openly about what may be causing
them to react in a certain manner can help resolve the issue.
So it might not be a BAD behavioral testing set of sessions…
Where you agree to test out annoyances to discuss  what you can resolve,
before it gets to be a situational cause for splitting up.

They are always on the defensive

Defensiveness is another way that your partner might adopt to hint
that they are annoyed with you. Being on the defensive means that
they are not going to take responsibility for anything and will be blaming
you for everything that goes wrong. There are various reasons why they
are making you the prime reason for putting you in such a situation.

If this becomes a mundane scenario then you need to sit down and talk
with your partner immediately. Discussing the problem and understanding
what chain of events have made them react in a manner can help sort it out
in a more understanding manner.

Forgetting to respond to texts and calls

OK I have to put  money in the the Jar for not responding  to his text

You would have a fair share of texting and talking over the phone in the initial
stages relationship and if it abruptly dissipates into one word-replies or no
replies at all it is a reason to worry. It is like an emotional disconnect due to
them being annoyed at you and identifying this hint can help resolve the
problem faster.

You do not need to play any games and wait for a specific duration of time
to text them, but interpreting their response patterns can have a few meanings
and recognizing the cause can help in taking the appropriate choice of action.
Agree to deposit cash for deliberately not responding, this fund can be used
for a night out on the town together where both of you can have fun at the
expense of both of your BAD attitudes.

Physically present, but mentally absent

If your partner seems to zone out when you are together or is doing her
thing when it is couple time then she is annoyed with you, but not sharing it.
If you find them looking into their phone while talking

or eat rather than responding or eating then there is something
bothering her. This behavioral change might be contrary to their
previous attitude towards you, which makes it a reason to worry.

Her shift can happen for two reasons either because she honestly
do not know (highly improbable) or she is not sharing it. You might question
the legitimacy of your thoughts, regardless asking her about it can lead you
into a conversation that is long overdue. Conversations can allow the other
person to vent.... and both can have a better understanding as to what
the issues are.

They are not as responsive as they once were

Tell me what's wrong , or I will tickle you until you do!

It is understandable that the romance fades away to a certain extent after
the relationship matures with time. But if this seems to be a deliberate attempt
then you need to talk. There are many couples who do mushy things and do
overly romantic gestures to express their love for each other.

But, the reason to worry is when the other begins to pull away signaling
the distance or completely brushes it off not even acknowledging the efforts.
This is the time when you need to sit down and have a discussion about
what is bothering them and if there is something about you that you need
to shine up a little bit.

They start keeping to themselves often

This is My chill time don't bother me!

Setting aside time for yourself away from the hustle and bustle is natural
to get peace of mind. In a relationship, your partner might need her space
from time to time, but if there is a regular need to stay alone and quiet for
an excessive amount of time then you should trace back and introspect.

It is not certain that you are the cause of distress, but you should ask,
which also shows that you care and a good way to find out if you did
something to upset them. At this stage, you need to talk about the
problems and discuss it at length because it is a sign of distance.
Additionally, if your partner keeps to herself more often because of
something about you that is upsetting her then you need to act
before it is too late.

When you realize that your partner is annoyed at you and not sharing
it there is a multitude of options you can adapt to resolve the situation.
Not responding or recognizing these issues can put your relationship
towards the path of a breakup. Also, while discussing the reasons you
will take it personally, but you need to retain a steady head to cordially
solve the matter and retain the relationship. An essential ingredient of
a relationship is acceptance and accepting your partner for who they
are and retaining the love is the recipe.

When you realize that your partner is annoyed at you and not sharing
it there is a multitude of options you can adapt to resolve the situation.
Not responding or recognizing these issues can put your relationship
towards the path of a breakup. Also, while discussing the reasons you
will take it personally, but you need to retain a steady head to cordially
solve the matter and retain the relationship. An essential ingredient of a
relationship is acceptance and accepting your partner for who they are
and retaining the love is the recipe.

Final thoughts:

Most of what I addressed in this blog were not addressed in my personal relationships over my years of being with someone. Neither my ex-wife nor any other women were ever given this much "let's fix it thoughts." I have learned to put myself in the other person's position and ask myself if what is running around in my head is what, the other person is experiencing because for what ever reasons. I can be intuitive, and a good listener and fixer... but don't always see the need to go the extra mile. I can be a silently a reserved person this can confuse and frustrate the other person,
to point where they want to kill me, or love me!

But now I'm about "sailing on" and "float on"