How would you know... unless you have experienced this “Super O”
with someone else to able to draw a comparison….
There are guys who cause it “one time,” and then there are others,
who are like renewable energy and they bring it ....time and time again.
Some are spectacular at stirring your pot and making your dinners “that is to die for,”
served to you on the balcony of your penthouse. And then there are those who
are 50 shades of shady.
So which one is the “One” who can pop you off like no one else
has done in your past or may do in your future. The fact is women
are now in a position to chose, maybe even sample a bit here and there,
if they are so inclined.
As we are well into the 2nd decade of the 21st century, about to start the 3rd decade …
Many Women have to be dealing with a tremendous amount of trust issues.
Men are no longer simple to deal with,
Men have not been in the driver's seat like their dad’s were,
men of upstanding character were hard workers, providers, supporters….
these men are getting harder and harder to find.
Why do you think that is? It very well may be that their power of having
the luxury of choosing which woman they want is steadily being taken away.
So why is this? Aren’t men basically the same as men from the past?
To best answer that question I would reverse the question…..
Aren’t women basically the same as women from the past?
The answer is a resounding “NO” on both questions.
Just count how many wonderful women are graduating
with Masters and Ph.D. degrees these days.
Ready to take on the World! They are the creme de la creme.
And they are women now who want more and more….
They will not be satisfied with who their mother s would have settled for.
Their superwoman status is reserved for a superhero,
that they are now in a position to chose “the One”, instead of being chosen.
An A+ Mandingo super-hero a true “he-man” in all categories.
But those numbers are becoming fewer and fewer these days.
Women, that I know are all complaining Where are the good men?
When the movie “Black Panther” was first released the emotions
from the male perspective was mixed. None of us normal fellahs
wanted to go see it with the woman of our dreams. We were dead scared
of the un-realistic comparisons, that would occur.
I remember the movie “Mahogany” with Billy Dee Williams and Diana Ross.
Every guy in my circle of friends wanted to have Billy Dee Williams style and charm,
wit and the gift of good looks and deep smooth voice,
that could do whiskey or Brandy commercials.
And young women want to be like Diana Ross who ’s
character had found love with Billy Dee’s Character but her career
as a rising star was made possible by another man.
As they drifted apart because of her success and stardom
the words that stuck in my mind was
“ Success is nothing if you don’t have someone to share it with.”
Now that movie was before it’s time. If it was made today the Actors would be????
Women back then were not climbing the success ladder in great number like they are today.
Women today outnumber male college graduates almost 20 to 1.
OK, so what does that mean? Not many male success stories are that of a Yale or
Harvard graduate like Barrack Obama, who meets Michelle on
her equal career level at the right time for both of them in Chicago, not in Boston...
and surely not in N.Y, Phili, Baltimore… L. A. or Atlanta, Miami or you can
name any number of other cities. How did The Obama’s find each other
in a city that leads the nation in gang violence, Michelle must have been very
skeptical about men from the Southside or West side or even North Side of Chicago
would ever measuring up to her needs. But yet her future husband landed at the firm
where she was working….. Now that was magical.... We have to remember that
he was a journeyman that traveled in his youth, while Michelle was a Southside woman,
who didn’t have that luxury during her youth.
I reference these characters from movies in the 20th century and folks who
became President and first lady, their stories were somewhat similar to Bill and Hillary,
Bill was from a small town in Arkansas called “Hope,” but became a Rhodes scholar,
and Hillary was from the suburbs outside of Chicago.
Another interesting storyline with a twist.
What is about women from Illinois that snag the good men,
these women helped these men go on to become Powerful leaders.
(Smirking) I was also one of those men who got married in Chicago.
Now I know many women don’t even have much
to reference in the 21st century.
There might be a few outstanding
men on the horizon on the come up. But women are forging forward
without waiting for men. So how will this playout I’m a bit perplexed about that question?
Since my two sons are in their prime now. I wonder about their futures????
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