Should We Stop Believing In Soul mates?

Well what is the rule of thumb on dating during the divorce process? Should women need to  expect a divorce to be final in order to take a man seriously? Is it  wrong to show an interest in other women while you are waiting for the final decree? Here are few self-preservation tips to think about.

From my point of view The rule of thumb is that you don't date until your divorce is final. I know that's probably not what anyone wants to hear, especially if you're lonely right now. try learning to play a guitar and holding it (if you are a dude) . the figure 8 will remind you that in time you will be holding someone new. and maybe play a love song for her!

This outlook may seem a bit too  strict, especially for people who live in, say, places like North Carolina, which requires one year of separation before allowing a couple to file for even a no-fault divorce; in Connecticut, which requires an 18-month waiting period before allowing a couple to file; or even Maryland, which requires a one-year wait. That can seem like a long time to "move on," especially when you are 100 percent positive that you and your spouse won't reunite. I'd encourage you to use the time between your separation and your divorce to heal emotionally from your marriage.
 My BAD simple remedy on How do you heal? Do you want to stop holding on to anger, sadness, or guilt about something that happened in your past? Do you want to stop worrying about what others think or stop feeling the need to seek others' love. approval, and appreciation?
Do you want to stop judging others, getting angry at people, or feeling resentment in your relationships?  'do you want to stop judging yourself, feeling unworthy, or sensing that something is missing from your life? 
Do you want to stop struggling with anxiety, stress,  or fear about the future? 
While all of these emotions seem inevitable and even inescapable because  they have you in their grip.  Remember one important thing they are  all created by thoughts in your mind-thoughts about yourself, your relationships, your situations, your past, your future- and each of them will vanish in an instant if you just stop believing these thoughts are truth.

Often, discussions about the ramifications of divorce for men are about the financial hit that men take in the form of alimony and child support. giving up property etc . Too little is said about the emotional toll it takes as well.
One study found that men were six times more likely to be depressed after a separation or divorce than were men who remained married. "Men's social lives largely revolve around their spouses and family, and when that is disrupted, it can leave men more isolated and prone to depression," Daniel Buccino, an assistant professor in the Johns Hopkins Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Science, explained to Divorce360.com. My BAD simple remedy:  Ever heard the term Music soothes the savage beast. Maybe if you  go to a Jazz clubs listing to live music and meet new  people, is the best way to  try to get your groove back. It's possible if you just find ways to move forward!

If this sounds like what you're experiencing, consider seeking a counselor who can help you work through your feelings, rather than a girlfriend to fill your new found void. It may also be helpful for you to locate a divorce support group and to begin socializing in group settings so that you can get some of the personal interaction you may be missing. My counselor was warm beaches and cool breezes of the Caribbean. Leaving everything that reminded me of the 25 year marriage that went up in smoke. OK I missed my sons, but they can and do  come and visit as often as they want. but My idea of healing is simple" I can't stay or get angry at someone if I never see them!" out of sight out of mind.  This is my  My BAD simple healing remedy 101. 

But maybe that's not you, and you're doing just fine, twiddling your thumbs while you wait for the paperwork to officially end your marriage. Unfortunately, if you're in the "divorce process," you're not divorced, (i.e., you are still married). For a number of additional reasons, you still need to wait to begin looking for your next relationship.

Since you're looking to be taken "seriously" by women, that means you're not dating just for kicks, and you may be considering remarrying. A recent survey of 2,000 newly divorced people found that nearly 50 percent of divorced men were hoping to repeat their trip down the aisle.

You should know that two-thirds of second marriages fail. That's not to discourage you from believing in a second chance at love; it's to warn you not to rush into anything "serious" too soon. It's imperative that you take this time to do a personal assessment of yourself and what led to the demise of your marriage so that you don't repeat those mistakes as you move forward. I guess I understood this without someone even mentioning it to me,  I had fun dating a crazy woman, who I knew was too wild for me   to ever  consider her  marriage material she had been married twice before.I was not going to become number 3. followed by  other women who were good companions for awhile until their issue became  good reasons for me to move on. 

A sensible woman will require your divorce to be final in order to take you seriously. You may have the best intentions to form a new relationship and end your marriage (in that order), but as I stated before: It ain't over just yet.  You honestly don't want the type of woman who is OK with dating a married man. You are legally and committed to someone else, and if there's a lady who knows that and still thinks, "Oooh! He's a good  catch," she has a whole host of issues -- whether she knows it or not -- that won't benefit your well-being down the line, or even now.

You are worried about what a potential dating partner may feel, but you should also want to keep in mind how your still-current spouse may react to your exploring new options now. Dating before your marriage is terminated may upset your otherwise reasonable future ex and make her (more) unreasonable while you're trying to negotiate custody arrangements or the division of assets. remember she knows how to use a vacuum, you don't want it place in your pocket  for the long term, just because you could not wait to start a new relationship!

Your desire for companionship at this particular time could cost you a lot -- literally and figuratively. Try to sit still for a while longer. Let your desire to move on motivate you to wrap up your marriage quickly by focusing on what's really important in divorce negotiations. Not have all your future earning sucked out of you account weekly, monthly, annually  with no end in sight..