Why do we fear the consequences! roll the dice, take some risks!

In relationships while casually dating initially we Don't Fear Failure: It's often More Important To Make The Right choice in who to  have a relationship with, than making a decision on how far to take it. It's better to make the wrong choice  Than No Decision At All ( which could mean sitting at home wondering, what would I be doing if  had a date tonight). every good or Bad choice is a lesson that will eventually benefit you. 
The fact that Nobody likes to fail, is in my humble opinion, causes in-action. Failure can be embarrassing, humiliating and emotionally upsetting, so it’s no wonder we’re naturally inclined to avoid taking the risk. Unfortunately, the fear of failure can also be paralyzing, which is why in the 21st century folks we need to take calculated risks—I strive to give myself and others permission to make mistakes. Without it, how can we make progress?

Allow  me to share an example from early in my dating years,when I heard negative feedback about a person who I was dating, I heed the warnings but didn't walk away,  because I often to time to evaluate the information.Let me give you an example on understanding a situation : Have you ever watched a little girl play with a new doll ? At first she handles it with care and love. After about 90 days or so you find that doll dirty, headless and stripped naked under a bed somewhere. The little girl didn't know or appreciate it's value, long term. To her, it was just a toy for the moment. A play thing to have fun with and throw away. She wants a NEW doll to replace the old one after a short while. Women on one hand, are still like the little girl with an old doll when they have been with a guy for awhile, they want to walk away within a short period  if he is stale and not very exciting, you will get the kiss-off on the forehead, and cold  goodbye. to avoid being dull I, have a sure method that has never failed  I can be very attentive very few women can reject an attentive man. No woman ever could call  me indecisive and get frustrated that I wasn't answering her questions, or phone calls in a timely fashion. I always, as it  turns out, was very attentive almost to a fault this could have been  out of   fear of making a wrong decisions, of possibly blowing it, if I was acting like a player, playing games, I would loose.  A good friend of mine once told me , “All  women  want is one thing from a man , but I believed the right woman wants something else, not what he  was thinking.
Most of the time. We feared the consequences of making the wrong decisions, so We made no decision at all. And, as it turned out. more often than not  Our lack of making  decisions results in everyone being unhappy—which is exactly what we want to  trying and avoid! Once I realized what is happening, I reassured woman that I've got her  back. I believe that it’s important for man to empower woman  to make decisions of her own, even if the decisions are not necessarily the same decisions we men might make about where things are going. And if the decisions turn out to be incorrect, it’s important to learn from the mistake rather than try to hide it. The way I see it, unless you’re taking steps to move forward, you’re falling behind.
Though it hasn't always been easy to overcome the fear of making a mistake, I remind myself of the things I tell my fellahs in crime:

1. Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen?” Unless you’re a surgeon, most decisions you make during the course of your day aren't a matter of life and death. Don’t lose perspective. If your well-thought-out decision doesn't work out, the consequences are rarely as damaging as you might fear.

2. Delaying your decision won’t make it easier. In fact, quite the opposite can happen. When you procrastinate over making a decision, anxiety builds. And before you know it, a relatively insignificant decision may—in your own mind—take on monumental importance.

3. Do something. It’s better to make a decision and change it than to make no decision at all. It’s much like what I learned when I studied chemistry in college. If you stay static, the environment will change around you, and you’ll become obsolete. In life, if you become paralyzed by the fear of failure, you’ll be left behind.and she will , not might, move on, to the guy with the golden tongue who will B.S. her until she can't take it anymore. but she will not return to you!

I also believe strongly in the need to re-frame the discussion around failure. The very word—failure—sounds so heavy. Instead, I encourage people to think of it this way: If a decision you make turns out to be the wrong one, you didn't fail; you just didn't make the best decision at that time. Pat yourself on the back for taking a risk, and learn from it. Nobody’s perfect. In most cases, getting it right 80 percent of the time is good enough—and it’s certainly better than taking no action at all. If you do not you will be hearing Marvin Gay in your head for weeks and weeks....