Can you learn how to cope with a sexless relationship.

I'm NOT going to make it easy for you to NOT want to have sex with me!

"me ferait l'amour ce soir"

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Apparently, sexless marriages or relationships are very common, these days. A relationship or marriage is considered 'sexless' when a couple goes without having sex for about a year and doesn't really hope for an improvement in the situation. The problem only worsens with age. Of course, there are many couples who claim that companionship scores over sex and not having sex is certainly not the end of the world. Granted, but sexless marriages can also lead to unhappiness, detachment, annoyance and even estrangement. 



Here's how you can cope with it:



Find out what's causing sexless-ness
Needless to say, there can be several factors behind sexless relationships. It can be as simple a reason as work pressure. If both partners are overworked in their professional lives, this can take a toll in their bedroom. There could be medical reasons as well. So the first step to finding a way out of sexless relationship is ascertaining the cause. Once you know what the hurdles are, you can work on negotiating them.


Talk sex
Experts say that many couples, especially married ones, don't discuss the subject as freely as they should. So have frank discussions and share each other's thoughts on why you have stopped having sex regularly. Be patient and listen to each other. If you feel that a relationship counselor or a sex therapist would help you open up, go for a counselling session.

De-stress and get intimate
A no-brain-er, really. Even if both of you have busy work schedules, take time out for weekend getaways or a long vacation. That would certainly help you unwind and give you ample opportunities to rekindle that missing spark.

    
Small steps, not aggression
Experts say that if you feel that you are stuck in a sexless relationship, don't force your partner to cave in to outlandish ideas of initiating sex. Gentle does it. Take small steps to intimacy—holding hands or just kissing can go a long way in bringing back desire and sensuality.

If nothing works
If all your efforts fail, then maybe you have to do some introspection and come to terms with realities. Both of you need to decide whether you are perfectly fine with being sexless in your relationship and let love conquer all other differences. You need to be ready to accept the fact that it can be a deal breaker too. There is some relief in self pleasure!

Ooh mon Dieu c'est si bon! 

Final thoughts: 
When folks think they are no longer interested in having, or can't have,  off-springs they tend to think sex is no longer needed between couples.  They may be thinking this kind of intimate relationships  is counter productive because they will not feel like it's  presenting them  with any returns for their efforts.  so for women who still want some pleasure that their partner are no longer providing.. don't be ashamed to use  "sex toys for women."
 Don't expect too much too fast... remember  "I'm only human"