So are you feeling like you are not measuring up to other women!

Sometimes in life we can compare ourselves to people, we look at others and can adore their features but struggle to compliment our own. How many times do  women actually look at themselves in the mirror and say “I am beautiful” ? Not enough is usually the answer. Women  have to learn to love and appreciate all of their flaws because they are a part of them. To the person reading this: You are beautiful! And it’s time you realized that...but you don't need to over do it to get attention!

The only thing it accomplishes is depriving yourselves of happiness.

Not even a few months has gone by since the announcement of Meghan Markle’s marriage to Prince Harry, and there have already been dozens of articles comparing her style to Kate Middleton’s, or analyzing who could be “best” for the British crown. Really??

I give this example because it’s about two famous women, but isn’t it true that women spend their time comparing themselves? And it’s not healthy at all; in fact, it’s potentially dangerous.

Why? If you compare yourself to a man, you’re always going to have the gender difference as a justification or excuse, but when it’s another woman, you can find yourself asking the dreaded question: "What does she have that I don’t have?" And believe me, your interior self-saboteur can draw completely wrong or unfair conclusions that will damage your self-esteem.

Perhaps it’s got something to do with your past experiences of discrimination because of your gender or because you feel like you're in a minority, so then you are in a constant competition to come out on top.

But if you think about it, what’s the use of comparing, for example, your body with another woman’s in the gym? That isn’t going to make you slimmer or in better shape; on the contrary, it can undermine your spirits and keep you away from your goal.

5 more reps for max benefit

Yes, it’s true that for some, comparing yourselves with other women can be a form of motivation, but then you can fall into the trap of not doing things for yourself, but just to beat or be better than someone else.

I think women sometimes waste too much time comparing themselves to other women instead of using that time to do something productive and enriching with their lives and the lives of those around them.

And sometimes they’re so superficial that women only compare themselves in material things. Women compare their finances, outfits, boyfriends, bodies, etc., but rarely do you hear a woman comparing her kindness or charity with that of another woman.

There is always going to be someone with better hair, a thinner body, longer eyelashes, more youth, whiter teeth, and more “likes” on Instagram (where, of course, you shouldn’t believe everything you see because sometimes it’s just a front), better luck, nicer skin, and so on and so forth. But have you ever stopped to think that there is always going to be someone in a worse situation than you?

I hate you, because you hate me!

Isn’t it better to give thanks for what you have than to live with a constant sense of dissatisfaction? Have you ever stopped to analyze objectively why that person has something you don’t have?

In the end, it’s about giving thanks, enjoying life, and working hard for what you want to change or improve.

Most of the time, comparing yourselves is a waste of time and energy. It’s a soap opera that only happens in your own mind.

I repeat:

At the end of the day, we all have something wonderful and we are going to achieve more benefits, if, instead of comparing ourselves, we inspire each other to reach the goal we have in common: happiness!