So you've just moved in together.

I'm so happy we are together!

There are wonderful things about being together, but tough times will come to your doorsteps for a visit now and then, which will require mental strength. Are you both mentally strong or at the very least one of you? MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE CAN RELATE TO THIS QUOTE…“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.” – Thomas Jefferson



The most frequently expressed complaint women have about men is that men don't listen. Either a man completely ignores her when she speaks to him, or he listens for a few beats, assesses what is bothering, her, and the proudly puts on his Mr.Fix-it cap and offers her a solution to make her feel better. He is confused when she doesn't appreciate this gesture of love. no matter how many times she tells him that he's not listening, he doesn't get it and keeps doing the same thing. She wants empathy, but he thinks she wants solutions. The most frequently expressed complaint men have about women is that women are always trying to change them. When a woman loves a man she feels responsible to assist him in growing and tries to help him improve the way he does things. She forms a home-improvement committee, and he becomes her primary focus. No matter how much he resists her help, she persists--waiting for an opportunity to help him and tell him what to do. She thinks she's nurturing him, while he feels he's being controlled. Instead, he wants her acceptance. These two problems can finally be solved by first understanding why men offer solutions and women seek to improve.

Women float better than men if she is not afraid!

One of the biggest differences between men and women is how they cope with stress. Men become increasingly overwhelmed and emotionally involved. At these times, a man small needs for feeling good are different from a woman's. He feels better by solving problems while she feels better by talking about problems. Not understanding and accepting these differences create Unnecessary friction in relationships.
A man comes home, he wants to relax and unwind by quietly reading or watching the news. He is stressed by the unsolved problems of his day and finds relief trough forgetting them.... for a minute or two. Women also want to relax from her stressful day. She, however, wants to find relief by talking about the problems of her day. The tension slowly builds between them gradually becomes resentment. Mean secretly think women talk too much, while women feel ignored. Without understanding their differences they will grow further and further apart.

Final thought
If I understood all of this I would have been smarter in my relationships. Seriously we men don't understand women simply because we don't take the time to do it.